ok my friend and my other friend are not talking to each other over something stupid and they are bringing other people into it and I am one of them. One of my friends sent me a email about the other and the other one found out and i made the mistake of emailing them both asking what is going on and my name got in it and now i dont know what to do.
2006-11-20 16:24:29 · 10 answers · asked by slaphappy 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
you have no other choice now... your name was already involved, so all you need to do is plan a way to get them back together and cross your fingers that it will not get worse... i did not suggest staying away because, how can you stay away if you know two of your friends are fighting, right?? you have to get back the the friendship they have built..
2006-11-20 16:34:34 · answer #1 · answered by -'UpEnDi'- 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being a person who everyone turns to for advice, I can tell you one very important lesson I learnt whenever my best friends fought with each other: NEVER take sides. Both my friends would constantly end up scrapping with each other and I'd be their shoulder to cry on and the person who'd listen as they bitched abt the other.
You should tell them that they both matter to you, so its not like you can give one more priority over the other. You're willing to listen and help both of them resolve whtever the thing is, but you absolutely refuse to be sucked in and will not take sides. You are their friend too....explain to them that its unfair to put you in the middle.
This is a constant balancing act, my friend, but if you want to keep your friendships in the long run with both of them, you'll play fair and not take sides.
2006-11-21 00:34:44 · answer #2 · answered by Peace 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Continue to communicate with both friends, just don't tell them what eachother is saying because if you do then when they make amends (more than likely they will) you will be the one looked at as the feud booster.
2006-11-21 01:02:42 · answer #3 · answered by M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell them to stop acting like kids because it's not fair to you, as a supposed friend, to bring you into it. They have to man up and solve their issue seperately because you don't want to hear it. With that said, you'll continue to be friends with both because it has nothing to do with you. If you're all friends, tell them to prove it and do what friends do.... talk and solve their problems like adults.
2006-11-21 00:31:26 · answer #4 · answered by Nick R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i had something like that happin to me. and i really didnt do anything i was friends with both of them. hung out with one during the week and the other on the weekends. or when ever one wanted to hang out. its hard but then you dont have to pick a side and know one gets mad or hurt.
2006-11-21 00:30:24 · answer #5 · answered by avery's mommy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell them to keep you out of their personal affairs. You don't know what's going on and you don't care. If it's that serious tell them to stop talking to each other and get over it. Life goes on.
2006-11-21 00:33:55 · answer #6 · answered by April C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if both of your friends want you to choose between them, then dump them both. If they can't accept you for who you are and who your friends are then they just can't hang out with you anymore.
2006-11-21 00:28:21 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell them both that you don't want to be put in it.
And don't try to do it nicely or covertly, do it expressly and to them both. Let them both know (In front of each other would be great) that you don't appreciate being thrown into their fight and that if they want to fight, they can be adults about it and do it amongst themselves.
2006-11-21 01:05:37 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
u shud hav talked to both of them personally (alone without the other person around) n try to know actually wat went wrong.. u can try n talk to them n make them understand tat u r just tryin to help n u want them to be together again.. if u find there is fault in one of their side make them understand tat wat they did was wrong n they shud tel sorry.. but dont take a decision without talkin to both of them n then think well..u shouldn't make either of them feel tat u r takin the other persons side.. all the best n hope ur friends come together again..
2006-11-21 00:33:40 · answer #9 · answered by kittygirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you shouldve just ignored the emails and stay out of it all together. its never too late,just tell them your not getting involved
2006-11-21 03:52:30 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋