i married a divorced man. i didnt know when we got married that some people thought that marrying a divorced man was a sin. we are now seperated, and im not sure what to do??..people say it is a sin to marry a divorced man, so if i stay with him i am living in sin, and some say that divorce is a sin, so if i divorce him for really no reason, then i am sinning!!? i have read many scriptures about this subject, but i cant seem to find the answers i am looking for. PLEASE help me out if you can...thanks and God bless!
2006-11-20 16:03:37 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
God is a forgiving God! Repent, But you have already married your husband! He is now your husband. Go back to him, and stay with him as husband and wife! God will bless both of you if you live for him. How is your prayer life? Bible reading? and HIs? Where are you in your walk in life with Crist?
I am blessed to a man who was divorced, and I did not sinned, for we both were forgiven! John 3:16 For God love the world, that he sent his son to earth, to died on the cross, and to arise in 3 days, and for us not to perished but by Grace from Jesus, we are saved and given everlasting life!
Remember the woman at the well story in the bible, Jesus said go now to your husband and sin no more!
2006-11-20 16:25:30 · answer #1 · answered by ourjacobdavid 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are many different religions in this world, and many different sects within those religions. Some Christians (Catholics, some evangelists) think that divorce is a sin, but there are many, many other Christians that do not. Divorce is not a sin in Islam.
You won't find the answer in the scriptures, because it all comes down to how you interpret what is written. The fact that different churches have different viewpoints, even though they have had expert scholars reading the scriptures over many years, proves that.
Ask your priest or minister if it is a sin in your own church. If your own church doesn't regard it as sinful, then there's no reason why you should pay any attention to what other people believe.
Anyway, you married this man in good faith and with the right intentions. I don't see how God could find that sinful. Did you separate because you thought you were sinning?
2006-11-20 17:36:45 · answer #2 · answered by Kylie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmmm....sounds like "some people" might be Catholic. Or, very fundamental Christian.
Jesus said that if you "put away" your wife for any cause except adultery and then your ex marries another man, you would be causing her to commit adultery, the point being that casual divorce isn't really divorce and that anyone that's married would commit adultery if they had sex with anyone other than their legal spouse.
OK, it's a little hard to explain, but I would guess that's where "some people" are coming from.
You really need to talk to your pastor or priest or some other clergy about this. However, in the end, it really doesn't matter what anyone else says or thinks, it's what you believe that counts.
If, in all sincerity, you married this man legally - that is, his divorce was final and it was by the appropriate civil authority in your state, you are married. How can that be a sin?
Stop worrying about "some people". They always have something to cackle about.
2006-11-20 17:01:14 · answer #3 · answered by SafetyDancer 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you have repented of your sin - then why would you think God didn't forgive you? The bible shows how God gives people many chances in life to live by His standards not our own. Set your mind on pleasing God not mankind...
Here's something else to think upon --- women out number men by about 16 to 1.... so with that in mind, you can figure that there will be lots of people marrying someone who's been divorced.
2006-11-20 16:24:21 · answer #4 · answered by jaimestar64cross 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
its not a sin... and in these times with the stock pile of good men getting smaller, perverts, drug addicts, men of opposite persation (you know what I mean) and those in jail.. Our prospects are slim... If he's a good man and was just caught up in a nasty divorce, it might not have been his fault.. I feel he deserved a good women in the future.. You might just be the good women that God meant him to have... God bless you!... and dont worry about it... ..
side note: why would divorce be a sin if for example the wife of the divorced husband is an adultress and she slept around, got aides and is an abusive mother.. He the divorced man has every right to leave/divorce her and find a wonderful mother for his children in the future.. I dont think God will hold anything against him for that..
2006-11-20 16:08:47 · answer #5 · answered by Mintee 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
People don't get married on the grounds of sinning, people get married for love. If you love this man, it shouldn't matter to you whether he was married once or not. Some people do not have the luck of marrying Ms.Right the first time around.
If it is against your religion, then by all means divorce him. But if you do...are you allowed to get married again, because then you will be a divorced woman.
If you love him make it work. No matter what people think or what any book says.
2006-11-20 16:08:34 · answer #6 · answered by rdhedhottie 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You are totally make a wrong move and it isn't a sin to marry a divorcee. What is wrong with you? Does it means that your love between you and your hubby is just toying around and you aren't sincere to him?
Why are you so serious of listening those people who are brainwashing you that marrying a divorced man was a sin. Where is your principal & trust in your marriage?
I'm sympathy your hubby who is innocent and he shouldn't marry someone who doesn't have trust in marriage.
2006-11-20 16:31:37 · answer #7 · answered by Adorable Mrs 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well for starters stop listening to what others say. this is your life your guy no body's business. and when you read scripters take that with a pinch of salt. do what works for you god will understand and you can talk to him if it bothers you.
2006-11-20 16:33:11 · answer #8 · answered by For ever in my Heart 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Move on and find someone else, and never worry about what other people think.
It's what's in your heart that is important!
2006-11-20 16:07:35 · answer #9 · answered by David Winter 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
the onley grounds that he could divorce his wife and remarry is [adultry] and if she was the one who was commiting it he is free to remarry. if not in gods eyes they are still married . your answer is in matthew,s gospel. ?
2006-11-20 16:56:00 · answer #10 · answered by the_silverfoxx 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋