Our son is 7 months old now and ever since i gave birth to him my sex drive went out the door!! i don't even think about it.. when my husbands asks me to make love i say "i guess" i don't even crave it anymore.. is there something wrong with me?
2006-11-20 16:00:42 · 17 answers · asked by ashjmy5 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
i hate this so much.. my husband thinks that i don't love him and don't want to make love to him.. it's not that.. he just doesn't understand!! how should i talk to him about it.. without saying the wrong thing?
2006-11-20 16:04:48 · update #1
Yours is out on a vacation with mine...so if yours returns home unharmed and safe...let me know so I can get mine back!....lol
2006-11-20 16:04:53 · answer #1 · answered by ~Another Day~ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's six feet under, right next to mine. My son is 9 months old, and it has been like this since I was a couple months pregnant. It's all hormonal, I guess, but knowing that doesn't help anything, does it!
And I know exactly what you mean about your husband, because my fiance is the same way. I just don't know what I can say to make him understand the way that I'm feeling. It's more like a chore to have sex now, and I don't even want to do it.
I've been debating speaking to my dr about it, but I feel a little embarrased at the thought.
I know I haven't offered any advice or anything, but sometimes knowing that it's not just you helps alot. Good luck!
2006-11-20 16:24:17 · answer #2 · answered by Queen Queso 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not at all, our bodies go through many things after childbirth. Our hormone levels change quite a bit. I have a 9 month old and I still have no sex drive, when it was pretty healthy before. It could be a little bit of baby blues, or post-partum depression.
I don't remember the name of the drug, but your doctor can prescribe something to get your sex drive up and running if need be. Good luck.
2006-11-20 16:04:46 · answer #3 · answered by Melton 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's normal to lose your sex drive after birth because it's a lot of work raising a child especially newborns. Honestly, who feels like having sex when they're exhausted? With a little more help around the house and raising the child, and a romantic, relaxing evening out with your partner you should get things going again. Of course, when you're not a parent, you have less to worry about, but do it for yourself, not him.
2006-11-20 16:14:53 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hormones can be abnormal for a long time after your child is born, but it is probably more related to your new lifestyle. Children are wonderful, but they take a ton of time and energy. There is nothing wrong with you, you'll eventually get back in the swing of things. Breastfeeding can also be a drain on your body, you'll adjust soon. It just takes awhile to identify yourself as mommy and wife. If you have gained weight or have a poor body image, this can also have a devastating effect on your sex life. Just take it one day at a time, things will return to normal.
2006-11-20 16:11:21 · answer #5 · answered by rlcobern 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing is wrong with you. It's natural for a woman to lose her sex drive after she has given birth. Especially, the first year after your child is born. It's sort of a biological way to keep us from having baby upon baby. Don't worry. You'll get your groove back!
2006-11-20 16:03:27 · answer #6 · answered by Holly W 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe there are two things at work here. One is the sex drive, which may be diminished after childbirth. But the other is the desire for pleasure for its own sake, which is a learned response. If the desire for pleasure has been learned and associated with one's partner, it will be pursued regardless of hormones.
2006-11-20 16:40:16 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's probably due to hormonal changes after the birth of your child. PLUS, taking care of a little one can really wipe you out. I was constantly tired after the birth of my kids and discovered my thyroid was sluggish. I would discuss it with your doctor, but alot of times it takes a good year for your system to get back to normal.
2006-11-20 16:09:38 · answer #8 · answered by Nancy D 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It did no longer take place to me. i could no longer even wait the cautioned 6 weeks for therapeutic after our toddlers have been born. i recognize it has occurred to a pair of my buddies nonetheless. many times via weight earnings, or they swap to "mommy mode" and no longer see themselves as a sexual being. you could no longer completely supply up your self purely in view which you're actually a discern. there's a lot of delivery administration available, so concern of being pregnant ought to by no ability be a reason. Your husband is complaining and lacking you in that way, so he of course nonetheless unearths you eye-catching. Be type to your self, make a while for purely you and likewise purely the two one in all you. a newborn would not ought to completely consume you. good success.
2016-10-17 07:41:46 · answer #9 · answered by goodgion 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most women are scared about having sex after they have a baby.....but maybe you should talk to your husband and explain what's going on to him, and if that doesn't work....maybe you should try a doctor.
2006-11-20 16:03:58 · answer #10 · answered by Kari 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your husband is acting like more of a baby than your baby, he needs to grow up. What has happened to you is that your "role" has changed. You're a mother now and mothering your infant has taken precedence over getting laid. It will eventually pass, however your husband needs to get over himself and grow up.
2006-11-20 17:29:24 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋