My husband has asked me could he bring one of his female coworkers home for thanksgiving. She doesn't have any family around, so she wants to come. I dont know her at all, do I have a reason to have reservations about her coming down to thanksgiving? If she does come she will be staying for a few days because my husband works out of state. He has cheated on me once before but we were still teens then...I dont know why I just started thinking about this, but I have since he asked me....I'm just totally confused...please help.
2006-11-20 15:52:53 · 14 answers · asked by sckr4luv 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You can certainly explain your feelings to your husband without sounding overly suspicious or jealous. This is your right as his wife so don't hesitate to tell him how you feel. On the other hand, think of it this way. At least you'll get to meet this person and you can judge for yourself if there's anything going on between them.
He really has a lot of nerve bringing another woman in the picture but at least it's out there in the open, where you can see for yourself.
2006-11-20 16:21:58 · answer #1 · answered by jdhs 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I was fine till the satying part... I think it would be okay to have her knowing thanksgiving is about giving and sharing but staying im just confused on that it would be a little different if you met her atleast one time... umm I wouldnt be worrying about the cheating part.. If you been with your hubby for awhile and things are good theres no problem there...Has she worked with him for a while does he trust her enough to be in your guys home? is a good Question .. too ask him.. If it were me I would because im so kind and spontaneos and love people but i can see where confusion would be on your part just talk over what your feeling and fears are with him.. be open about and thats how you get your real answer dont make it a fight though..
Ps if he has the guts to cheat while that close to home and there with you.. then it would be time to let him go this could be a tricky task.. it will be testing your trust and realationship but dont worry yourself because if hes going to do it he will and probly has been and now youll be learning the truth other than that i wouldnt sweat it... Have a gobble gobble day..
2006-11-20 16:04:56 · answer #2 · answered by jlilmama420 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would be very cautious of this if he has cheated on you in the past then what makes you think this is not his way to get into this other gals pants. I would say no if it was someone you knew and was a family friend or something but a nobody to you it just don't feel right to me. Thanksgiving is for family and close friends not someone's possible mistress. I'm not dissing your man but be
honest to him that it would bother you and you would not be comfortable with her coming.
2006-11-20 16:49:57 · answer #3 · answered by Livinrawguy 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to be open with your hubby and express all of these fears and doubts with him. I don't necessarily think that inviting her to dinner is so wrong, but staying in your home would be a little over the top for me. It all comes down to the trust you have in your husband. But honesty is the best policy...Voice your concerns and see what he has to say about them. I wish you the best of luck. Happy thanksgiving.
2006-11-20 16:22:06 · answer #4 · answered by Jackie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't let your insecurities get the best of you. He's bringing a co-worker home to meet you and spend thanksgiving with you. I doubt there's anything going on between them.
If it really bothers you, just see how they act around each other. That will tell you for sure.
2006-11-20 15:56:46 · answer #5 · answered by snippy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would not agree with my husband pulling that one off on me. It's not that I don't want to deal with that kind of situation...I just CAN'T. It sounds like it could get uncomfortable. If you don't feel comfortable with the idea then you need to speak up now and communicate your feelings to him. Don't feel like a jerk, you have every right to be concerned about your marriage. If she has to sleep over for a couple of days..HELL NO! Trust me she won't die if she doesn't spend Thanksgiving with you.
2006-11-20 19:01:19 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He has alot of guts. I would definately be hesitant, being he has cheated before. And about where she is staying...and for how long...and will they be leaving together when it's time to go back to work?
And maybe he is just being a friend, but it is all questions you need to ask him, before I would say yes.
2006-11-20 15:56:24 · answer #7 · answered by rdhedhottie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hello,
has he been faithful seince you were teens???thats the question....do you trust him???you must if he works out of town????you need to talk to him one on one and see in his face his feelings for the girl....i would not let her come for the fact he has cheated before and he could be doing it now and if i did let her come then i wouldn't be able to sleep for the fact if he got upi in the middle of the night for a booty call from her...i would be worried.....because you really have no clue on what he is doing while at work and she could be his mistress and he is bringing her to your house for dinner????there would be alot of answering on his part to answer and why in the first place does he want to bring her there????unless she is gay and has no intrest for men then theres no problem and no worries on your part....but i would be asking alot of questions before this girl comes home with him......good luck
2006-11-20 16:03:13 · answer #8 · answered by wendy p 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Come on. He's trying to be a nice guy to a co-worker. If he were cheating on you, would he be bringing her in front of you. Get over the jealously. I bet you think she is some hot chick. My money's on her being old, fat, and/or ugly.
2006-11-20 16:05:32 · answer #9 · answered by ManOfTheHour 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Let her come. He will not cheat in the same house. If you are worried chances are he is allready cheating. If you force her to stay in a nearby hotel, he will follow. Vent your concerns to him.
2006-11-20 15:55:53 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋