I'm 19 years old and my boyfriend is 21, we've been dating a year and I think he is going to ask me to marry him. I love him with all my heart and I will gladly say yes, but am I too young? I think my mother would disapprove...we're both in college and we both work and have lived together almost the entire time we've been together. I'm just looking to see your opinions and if anyone else has married young, how did it go? Thanks :)
2006-11-20 15:44:16 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I wouldn't mind being tied down to just one person, that's what I've been for a whole year. I've never liked the idea of just hooking up witha bunch of people, I like commitment and I really do think he is the one.
2006-11-20 15:53:56 · update #1
Well it sounds like marriage won't change your life drastically as far as finances and living arrangements, which certainly works in your favor!
My wife and I have been dating since she was 15 and I was 17. We got married when she turned 18, which was eight years ago, and we've gotten along just great. I couldn't be happier and I really hope that she'll say the same lol!
But it entirely depends on how certain you are that you have no interest in dating anyone else ever. Some people are ready to commit at a young age, some need a few extra years of freedom to be sure that they know what they want. Our situation may not be what's best for you or for the next person to answer this question.
Either way, you sound happy, that's what matters, right? Good luck to both of you!
2006-11-20 15:51:58 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i got married at 18 it went good for a few years. We were together 8 years and two kids later we divorced. He and I were not the same couple that married. I started needing and wanting very different things then he he did. At 18 i was pretty clueless about what was best for me. All i knew was i loved him we had a baby we were going to grow old together blah blah blah. At 26 or so i woke up! i needed a good provider a strong father he would not keep a job he cheated on me he was a piss poor dad. I hated the way he allowed us to live because i was the only one holding us together i paid the bills i took the kids to school i cooked and cleaned he would not even take out trash. MY ADVICE IS GET TO KNOW HIM well ans there is no reason not o to wait on marriage be damn sure he will be a great dad before you have kids.
2006-11-20 23:52:13 · answer #2 · answered by ally'smom 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Been married for 10 years since 30. On the verge of divorce because we are wanting different things out of life. Point is, I thought I knew some stuff at 30. Wrong. No offense but you haven't started living at 20. Wait,wait,wait. Live a little, then go live a lot. Then see if you and dude are still compatable.
2006-11-21 00:14:20 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're way too young my dear. I'm 24 and still don't know what I want out of my life. You have so much youth to enjoy! I'm not saying your just a kid, but honestly you've got so many decisions ahead of you and if you've only dated a year that's nothing! I would definitely reconsider his proposal if he happens to ask you. Don't go marrying the first guy who asks you. Also, if you think he really IS the one, what's the harm in waiting if you're just gonna get married anyways? Test the waters. Spend some more time together. Don't rush it.
2006-11-20 23:49:12 · answer #4 · answered by aslgirl143 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
There are multitudes of both good and bad experiences: individual stories won't tell how you and your boyfriend will do. It depends on commitment: if you and he understand that it'll be great at times, bad at times, and really weird at times, then you may be okay. Just keep in mind that you've only been together when you had other stuff to do-it's easy to be in a relationship when the world is changing around you-and that marriage means that you'll be together even when all you have to do is each other!
2006-11-20 23:57:35 · answer #5 · answered by Sage B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you're too young to get married, but one year after meeting seems too soon. I'm not sure you know the person well enough after one year... did you go through a lot of different situations, did you see all the facets of his personality and character? My husband and I took 5 years to get engaged and another 2 years before getting married. OK, that's a long time, but by then, I was pretty sure we'd get along and that I wanted him to be my children's father and to grow old by his side.
2006-11-20 23:55:29 · answer #6 · answered by pegs 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No way!!! your right you are to young; + your in college. I got married young and I regret ever doing it. Wait till you have graduated and are have been in your career for a while travel to great places fall in and out of love at least three times ,party
and enjoy the fruit of your hard work to get thru college and having a good paying job. When your about 28 then start looking seriously to find someone to marry.
2006-11-20 23:55:49 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your to young you need to finish college and see what life has waiting for you in the next few years if you guys are still dating when you finish college then sure consider marriage but it is also good to have a long engagement at such a young age.
2006-11-20 23:52:48 · answer #8 · answered by Livinrawguy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on you, do you really want to be tied down to one person this time in your life when you should be out and partying and having a good time? Just enjoy yourself for a few years and then settle down after the most fun years of your life are behind you.
2006-11-20 23:49:32 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would wait. If you are meant to be, then everything will fall into place once both of you are finished with college and are completely ready to start a family. If you are bound to marry this guy, then you have your entire life to spend with him, there is no need to rush.
2006-11-21 03:31:12 · answer #10 · answered by the_memory_of_ashes 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋