Would it be wrong to change my last name to my daughter's (her sperm donor's) last name? Could my husband and I do it legally without any repercussions? Her sperm donor does not have any contact (of his own free will) but he won't give up his rights. Which I don't understand, but that's another story. My husband is willing to do it, as he has no ties to his current last name. Do you think it is possible?
2006-11-20 15:35:10 · 4 answers · asked by toothfairy 3 in Politics & Government ➔ Law & Ethics
My daughter does not know her real father. She would be better off not knowing forever (although I plan to tell her eventually) I just think her childhood would be better if she were not to know about her dead-beat excuse for a father. My husband is the only father she has ever known, and she is too young now to make the connection of the last names yet.
I just think her life would be more normal this way. If the father were a part of her life, I would feel differently. It has not been my choice for her not to know him. (but not my responsibility, either)
2006-11-20 15:36:09 · update #1
I don't want child support. What I really want is for my husband to adopt my daughter, but since they guy won't give up his rights...
It doesn't make sense, but he still wouldn't give up the rights even if he had to pay child support. I'm not sure he would even pay it. It wouldn't be that much, either. He has kids from his marriage. I can afford to support her myself and don't want to have to deal with any of this BS. I just want to know if we can change our last names to hers without getting in trouble about it later. (Say if the sperm donor wants to someday file for custody or something)
2006-11-20 15:48:16 · update #2
I can't change her name without his permission. It's a legal thing. Something about paternity rights.
2006-11-20 16:18:01 · update #3
Of course you can, you can petition the court to legal change your name to Tom Cruise and Katie Holmes if you wanted to. I see no problem with it.
Your husband must be something very special to be willing to do this! Glad you got it right this time! :)
Good Luck!
2006-11-26 13:55:24 · answer #1 · answered by Ang 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sue the donor for child support. As long as he is keeping his rights he is responsible for financially supporting his child. And you can then always offer to drop the suit in exchange for him giving up his rights.
2006-11-20 15:44:14 · answer #2 · answered by eilishaa 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why dont you change you daughters last name to match that of yours?
if her father has not had any contact with her for a year its considered abandonment and his rights will be taken...
but i dont think you can change your name to match her. talk to a lawyer about what you can and cant do.
2006-11-20 15:45:33 · answer #3 · answered by willowbluecrow 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can change your name to anything you want. Or you can change her name to match yours. Now it will be awkward when the class reunions announcements come, but that should be the only difficulty.
2006-11-20 15:49:01 · answer #4 · answered by Kevin k 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋