I am very social driven. I don't have that many friends to talk to, so I get really sad and upset during school. Sometimes I feel that the social meter never gets satisfied.......and thats because I'm shy, have social anxiety disorder, and I never get out the house. I don't have anyone to hang out with, so I just stay inside the house. I just feel really unappreciated right now, and I know I can be a cool guy to talk to. What should I do?!
I try to get attention at home sometimes, but it doesn't work. Every one is either on the phone and interacting, or just too busy. Its not fair. Then I have get upset, but i might chat online or something. I just need to know what to do. i know im not perfect, i have my faults, but i know im a good guy to talk to!
2006-11-20 15:26:48 · 8 answers · asked by Kj 3 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
I have social anxiety disorder too. Have you talked to your doctor? There are some medications that can help. One of them is klonopin. It didn't work for me, but it works great for my best friend. I can totally relate to you about school and home. Sometimes i call myself "invisible." Maybe you just need to find the right friends. People who like the things you like. Good luck to you. I'll be checking your answers because I need them too. Great question.
2006-11-20 15:35:54 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Join some clubs at school. There are all kinds of activities including some for shy kids like a photography club, a chess club, etc. Do you play a musical instrument? The school band is a social group. What about scouting or church youth groups? You can volunteer to help others and that will make you forget about your own problems and help you meet people. Habitat for Humanity, So Others Might Eat, are just 2 such organizations.
Son, don't waste another moment of your life or you will regret it. It's not that hard. The first step is the worst and after that you will wonder why you didn't make a move sooner. Today is the first day of the rest of your life. Courage.
2006-11-20 23:41:22 · answer #2 · answered by notyou311 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Utilize the tools at hand...the internet! No one can see you, they can only judge you by what you show them. There are a million safe ways to meet people your age on the internet. Get to know the people *in your area* on the internet. That will give you a way to be shy, but not. Typing out your feelings and introductions to new people is much easier than doing it in person. Of course, I can't stress enough the importance of being safe when you do meet someone. I'm not sure exactly how old you are, but honestly, it doesn't matter. Also follow the basics of really knowing who you're talking to, never offer up any personal info, always keep a record of who you talk to, let your family know too and never meet without someone else there with you the first time.
As for attention at home, talk to your family. It's hard, but they love you and they will respond. Try not to say things like "You're always too busy" or "You never pay attention to me". That will make them a bit defensive and it will be counterproductive. Say things like "I feel really empty because my shyness is keeping me from making friends and sometimes when I come home I feel like everyone is too busy to hang out with me. I know you guys have a lot to do but I'd really like to spend time with you sometimes"
Most parents would be thrilled to hear their kid say they want to spend time together.
Other than the internet, I'd try enrolling in some activities that really interest you. It will be a lot easier for you to strike up conversations with new people if you know what you're talking about and enjoy doing so.
2006-11-20 23:41:40 · answer #3 · answered by Crimson Ananda 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you in counseling or on meds for social anxiety disorder?? it would definitely make a big difference- nobody is perfect, no doubt- but it is good to have a couple really good close friends- esp those that you can talk to- getting into a club- or other group you are interested in would help- anyone- of those- I sure like the internet- take care-D
2006-11-20 23:53:09 · answer #4 · answered by Debby B 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey cheer up!
I used to be a very quiet girl, but now you have to shout me to stop ;p (exaggeration). People do change, it's good to know your weaknesses, but it doesn't make a good excuse for you to be not able to socialize.
And don't you care about what people think of you, I wear what I like and eat what I want to eat, don't let the society dictate you.
Just be positive, put the smile on your face and start to say hi to your friends.
You can do it!!! Cheer up :)
2006-11-21 00:30:07 · answer #5 · answered by Tanty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm curious how you know you have Social Anxiety Disorder if you don't have medical attn. and if you do have medical attn, why aren't you on paxil or something. And if you are on Paxil or something then why do you still have problems. And if you still have problems why aren't you going for medical attn....
If you have a legitmate claim to SAD and your still at home with parents and you don't have medical attn. I'd really, really like to hear from you privately. plz do contact me.
2006-11-21 04:47:21 · answer #6 · answered by who 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
poor you. that must be torture. have you ever tried trying out for a school play (if your in school) or any sport that your good at because then you'd get lots of new friends. you should try something new. get involved with something. that will get you lots of friends.
OMG i am too empathetic. ur making me cry!!
2006-11-20 23:37:01 · answer #7 · answered by justagirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only way you are going to overcome this is by striking up conversation with people, and gradually becoming friends with people.
2006-11-21 00:41:34 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋