my boyfriend i s married but he doesn't live with his wife for a long time and now he is dating with me,but he helps his wife with some things and he communicates with her relatieves,he says that she doesn't have a chance to come back,but i jelous.I love him very much...but i don't feel sure in the future don't know what to do?to be with him or just leave him?
2006-11-20 15:21:36 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
he spend with me all the time,he respects me,we love each other,yes he is married,but formally...he needs to be married with that girl for some time more...he doesn't promise me something...i want to be with him cause i love him...and i don't know what to do?to be with him or not...he always with me but sometimes he helps his wife..it's bothering me...everything is perfect except this things...i always know where is he and what he's doing...i trust him...but...it's hard for me...everything is hard...don't know what to do!
2006-11-20 15:40:23 · update #1
If you are jealous...and you don't think you can overcome this...maybe you shouldn't stay with him. It will just make you both unhappy in the end!
2006-11-20 15:26:58 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Until they divorce and actually seperate legally, there will always be the family occasions and he is still married to her. He doesn't hate her, he just doesn't want to be with her. That doesn't mean he has to be cruel to her. But one thing you need to understand is that until your boyfriend divorces her, you will always be known as the other woman. She will always be his wife and you his mistress. Does she know about you two? If she doesn't and you two sneak around, then odds are that you will always be his secret. He will never leave her. He's selling you broken promises. If you like him and there are no plans of divorce in sight, then dump him or settle for this ****. Think about how heart broken you will be later on. It's always better now than later. Can you deal with that? If you can, then stick with him. If you can't, you know where the door is.
2006-11-20 23:33:45 · answer #2 · answered by Rica 82 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well since he is married , you have no future with him until he gets his life situated. I would move on. If later down the line he decides to proceed with a divorce and things are meant to be then it will happen. Right now it sounds like he has to much going on. Dont wait for him. You need to look out for your well being. If he wants the relationship badly enough right now, then he knows what to do.
2006-11-20 23:28:20 · answer #3 · answered by rufi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sure that your boyfriend is very good to you but think about this. If he did end of divorcing his wife and being with you all the time, what makes you think that he wont do the same thing to you that he is now doing to his wife. Be careful.
2006-11-20 23:25:55 · answer #4 · answered by Mom of Three 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i would leave him, tell him to get a divorce, tell him you need to let him do what he has to do in order to be with you. Once he gets a divorce tell him to contact you...in the meantime do not have any kind of communication with him, it will be hard but trust me it will work itself out..be strong and take some time out to evaluate your situation with him and how you truly feel. If he comes back divorced and you are still available then you can go from there.
find yourself, take time for "you" because "you" are what is important...good luck!!!
2006-11-20 23:32:47 · answer #5 · answered by Lainey 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
JUST LEAVE HiM. iTS NOT WORTH iT. iT iS VERY POSSiBLE THAT HE WiLL DO THE SAME THiNG TO YOU. HE'S PROBABLY AN iNDECiSiVE TYPE OF PERSON. YOU REALLY JUST NEED TO FiND SOMEONE SiNGLE....NO STRiNGS ATTACHED....EVEN IF HE SAYS iT'S NOT GONNA WORK OUT WITH HER. UNTiL HE iS FOR SURE DiVORCED...THEN iT iS NOT A STABLE SiTUATION. AND iF HE REMAiNS iN CONTACT W/ HER RELATiVES THEN THAT iS DEFiNiTELY A BAD THING....JUST KEEP LOOKIN....YOU'LL FIND SOMEONE W/OUT THE BAGGAGE. KEEP LOOKiN GiRRRL...YOU'LL FiND A GOOD GUY.
2006-11-20 23:36:09 · answer #6 · answered by FREAKALiCiOUS 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would cut your loss and move onto higher ground.
There are better people out there.
2006-11-20 23:27:32 · answer #7 · answered by Lore 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋