I am the bigest ****** ever to my boyfriend right when he comes back from work. Its only to get his attention an I also have hate for him for kissing another female. ever since my nagging he now disrespcts me when he gets drunk hell call me a ***** but. I do everything for this man. does that matter will I ever get the respect back I never want to leave him but I think were almost threw because of my mouth but he has said horrible things about me to the neighbor about me when he was drunk. I want to keep trying an stop nagging will it work?all days I dont nag we are very happy an he can be so sweet.
2006-11-20 14:37:43 · 5 answers · asked by christina 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Let's take a look at this picture. He drinks, has been unfaithful, uses profanity towards You, and bad mouths You to the Neighbor, and You are the bad guy because You nag. Honey, He is controlling. That is what They do. They treat You badly, and then blame the fact that They act badly towards You....on You. So You nag.......I'm thinking You have a right here. Do You really want to be in this the rest of Your life? You say when You do not nag He is sweet. No He isn't, because He has still done all those terrible things.
Here is a really simple test. Please do it. Get a sheet of paper, and put a line down the middle of it. Put on the right side, Reasons to stay in this relationship, and on the left, put Reasons to leave this relationship. Then be honest. You know better than us just how abusive He is. And yes what He is doing is abuse. Do what is best for You. Nagging is not a reason for Someone to lose respect for You. What He has done to You is.
God Bless
2006-11-20 15:03:57 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
christina: Did you have a mother, who was a nag to your father and you? Sure sounds like it ! Your boyfriend is turned off with you. Nagging is a form of control - and controlling others takes away from free choice. Since love offers choice and you nag at your guy, he has no or limited choice; therefore, no love exists between you two ! You are not put on this earth to control others with nagging. Sometimes; when you love someone, you have to give him or her space to grow and develop in, as a human being ! This includes standing on the side lines saying nothing while they get hurt from bad decision making. Life is a learning experience from where we ideally, become better people. Your guy is deeply hurt and don't be surprised should he find himself a girl, who doesn't nag at him. No man likes a nagging woman !!!
2006-11-20 22:54:06 · answer #2 · answered by guraqt2me 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hate to say this but once the respect is gone the relationship is over. Sounds to me like he has some nagging coming there is no excuse to be drinking all the time. I don't care who you are. Plus it sounds to me like you have lost your own self respect to allow someone to verbally abuse you and take it shows low self esteem to me. You may not want to leave him but it may be the best thing for you both. You have some serious soul searching to do and good-luck.
2006-11-20 22:46:54 · answer #3 · answered by groundpilot43061 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he s fed up with you and your nagging! oh.. Women!!! well.. seems u r a naggaing woman by nature, I doubt you will change. Poor man!
2006-11-20 22:42:21 · answer #4 · answered by mr_dark_eyed 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i understand what you are going through. and sorry to tell you this but when your relationship gets that bad you probably can't repair it
2006-11-20 22:41:19 · answer #5 · answered by jumiboo 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋