...even if he has absolutely no interest in them. Do you think it's important? Lately, I've been getting an "I don't care about that. It doesn't affect me personally," when I've tried discussing national topics that are of interest to me. Besides rude, I also think it's extremely selfish.
2006-11-20 14:32:59 · 8 answers · asked by punchy333 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Yeah, I have to listen to all his work stories, and about guns, sports, and I've even learned all the rules to football and started watching games with him (although I've learned that I actually like it.) We just had an argument about it, and I did tell him how I feel, but he thinks it's mean of me to expect him to talk about politics, or other dry areas of conversation when he doesn't care at all. "At least his stories are funny." Dick!
2006-11-20 14:48:07 · update #1
Yeah, I have to listen to all his work stories, and about guns, sports, and I've even learned all the rules to football and started watching games with him (although I've learned that I actually like it.) We just had an argument about it, and I did tell him how I feel, but he thinks it's mean of me to expect him to talk about politics, or other dry areas of conversation when he doesn't care at all. "At least his stories are funny." Dick!
2006-11-20 14:48:37 · update #2
Yeah, I have to listen to all his work stories, and about guns, sports, and I've even learned all the rules to football and started watching games with him (although I've learned that I actually like it.) We just had an argument about it, and I did tell him how I feel, but he thinks it's mean of me to expect him to talk about politics, or other dry areas of conversation when he doesn't care at all. "At least his stories are funny." Dick!
2006-11-20 14:48:43 · update #3
yeah my husband was doing that to me for awhile, so when he started talking about work i showed no intrest at all, he got the point.
2006-11-20 14:36:26 · answer #1 · answered by S 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is rude and selfish. Beside as you age you will discover more and more if you can't converse about every day things. Then you won't talk to each other at all. It will cause a rift between you. Approach and ask him why he doesn't want to talk to you about it. He may just have no idea what your talking about. All depends on the kind of work he does. But my advise is to talk and work on fixing the problem before it festers and gets worse. Good-Luck
2006-11-20 22:40:35 · answer #2 · answered by groundpilot43061 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it's very important that your husband gets involved, or at least tries to learn about or be interested in, what you are interested in. It is a way to learn about each other's interests, views, etc.
My ex husband was always interested in things I did (but he was also controlling), but he didn't care much about what I said. My fiance is the total opposite. He listens to me, cares about what I do or have to say, etc. I am the same with him. I listen to him about his model trains, his work, etc. I have learned a lot about both. He listens about my schoolwork, what I do during the day, about my friends, etc. If I ever wanted to talk about politics, he would listen or discuss it with me. I think a good/great relationship REQUIRES both of you listening to each other about each other's interests. How else will you learn what your partner likes or dislikes? I am not totally interested in model trains, but I do listen to my fiance about them cause it is HIS interest/hobby. A marriage is about things going both ways (two way open communication, two way respect, two way honesty, etc). If it isn't going two ways, then it becomes a one sided relationship, and those tend to break down in time (in my opinion and experience).
2006-11-21 00:45:58 · answer #3 · answered by honey 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The attitude does seem a little selfish, I think he could go about things differently. However, you don't have to take it so personally either. My husband and I have few common interests, and we never fight or say mean things to each other. Neither of us pretends to be interested in something we're not. We each pursue our own interests, and we pursue common interests together. Just do us a favor, and don't let your husband vote if he has no interest in what's happening in the world.
2006-11-20 22:40:58 · answer #4 · answered by shojo 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
For a long time I felt that he didn't listen to me even when I was genuinely listening to him. One day I just got tired of it and lost interest in what he was saying. It got his attention quite fast. We've been through a lot since and our relationship has changed for the better.
2006-11-20 22:42:18 · answer #5 · answered by pinniethewooh 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that is a bit selfish. he doesn't necessarily have to be into everything you are into but showing some interest in what you are passionate about does show that he is passionate about you. probe some more to get to the bottom of this attitude he has.
2006-11-20 22:37:14 · answer #6 · answered by beckdawgydawg 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is very rude and if my husband did that I think I would give him a good hit. LOL
Tell your husband how this makes you feel when he does that and if he cares about your feelings he won't do that again.
2006-11-20 22:37:19 · answer #7 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋
not all the time...depending on what it is.....if he finds it interesting then he will...but sometimes he won't even bother.........which is fine because i am the same way.
2006-11-20 22:38:23 · answer #8 · answered by maria 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋