my best freinds dad is abusive to hermother and i feel really bad! what should i do?? yesterday he held a kniffe to her throat just because she invited her friend ovr without "asking" him first. if it was me i would kill his mutha ****** a$$ ! he pisses me off so much!! and she refuses to tell the police. shes my best friend and i dont want her to get hurt like her mother!any advice?
2006-11-20 14:17:46 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Report the abuse to Child Protective Services anonymously. They will investigate and the truth will come out.
2006-11-20 14:21:18 · answer #1 · answered by Royalhinney 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately there is not alot you can do, not unless you are actually present and witness his abuse, then you could call the police, but be aware that you"re friend and her mother might not back you, as until they decide to do something, he has it all over them, they would be too scared probably. The only thing you can do is to provide reality checks for your friend, like letting her see that this is not normal because half the time people in these abusive situations get so used to them they don.t even realise that other people dont actually put up with the same sort of thing. Just be supportive and find out available resources in your local area should they decide to make the move to get away from this man. Good Luck
2006-11-20 22:33:29 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This isn't something you can do for her Mother.Her Mom has to stand up for herself.But, has far has your friend goes.I would call child protective services.You don't have to give them you real name.No matter how much the try to tell you that you have to.They are required to investigate all complaints.I know you are afraid that your friend will hate you. But, think of it this way would you rather her be angry with you and be on this earth to be mad.Or would you rather do nothing and risk having her dad kill her and her Mom.I can tell you from having a abusive Father myself they won't stop.Not until someone stops them.Good Luck Sweetie.
2006-11-21 11:59:08 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
your friend and her mom are probably too scared to do anything out of fear of this man. for your own safety, don't go to her house, he might do something to hurt you. the only thing I know to do is call social services and tell them that a child is in danger, and it needs to be investigated. I would say call the police, but unless they're fighting when the police arrive, they probably wouldn't do a thing about it. can you talk to your parents? or a teacher you can trust? that would be worth a try also. I feel really bad for you, your friend, and her mom. this is a scary situation. I hope this helps you out. you're a good friend.
2006-11-20 22:34:44 · answer #4 · answered by atiana 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't go behind your friend's back and call the police yourself, even if you feel desperate to help.
Instead, why not give her some contact numbers to call where she can talk about the abuse going on at home, such as child abuse lines and stuff...and encourage her to talk to an adult, maybe your parents, or a teacher. Once she feels confident enough to, I'm sure she'll take the bigger step in reporting it to the police. Until then, just be there for her.
2006-11-20 22:21:40 · answer #5 · answered by tahanni 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
no you know what I dont agree with some of these peoples answers. ok one.. if you are a true good friend you would do it. I sure in the hell would and if they ended up not being my friend any more so be it at least they are safer! A true friend is a friend who defends their friend!!!! I wouldnt care how pissed they got, I would know that I called for help because I care about them! and if they cant see that then they arent the friend you probably thought they were. ok sorry. lol I had to say that. ok well take care and I hope something good comes from this. take care.
2006-11-20 22:43:27 · answer #6 · answered by Crimson_Skies 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She needs to see a counselor. She needs to understand this is not right or proper behavior. She can't grow up and marry someone like him and perpetuate this kind of thing.
If he is not abusive to her, there is not much she can do. It is not her marriage. My dad is verbally abusive to my mom, and I had to bide my time til I was old enough to get out. My mom does not want a divorce, and while I would not tolerate how he acts, I have to accept her willingness to do so.
Hopefully your friend will set her sites on a great life for herself. Get a good education, a great job, eventually a great home, etc....and move past this unfortunate situation
2006-11-20 22:24:48 · answer #7 · answered by Beth M 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are these people so ungrateful . I know what your friend is going through, this is what i go through daily . Ask her mother to be alert , always have something for self defence at hand . Nvr say anything to arouse her dads anger, give in to what ever he says . you'll find it hard to accept but this is the only way you can get out of this without getting her mum hurt . but if you wanna make your life easier jus report him . he is not worth all the tearts your mum have to shed , the pain he is causing her is alot . if she really wanna help out do what is best for her mum . i really feel sorry for her mum and her .
2006-11-20 22:29:14 · answer #8 · answered by BABY GURL 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to your Mother about this this is not a healthy lifestyle for your friend and her Mom may be to afraid to get out on her own. Her Mother may be brainwashed into thinking she can't make it on her own. I think this should be reported to the Police. But please talk to your Mom first.
2006-11-20 22:26:04 · answer #9 · answered by Pamela V 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can call the police if you want...but if she refused to press charges...there isn't anything you can do...you can try reasoning with her...but it is her life...and she has to make up her mind.
Maybe she isn't strong enough...or think she is strong enough...and you can try to convince her otherwise...good luck.
2006-11-20 22:22:49 · answer #10 · answered by ladydrea2918 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋