He's engaged.......... they see kids every weekend
2006-11-20 14:04:43 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Holidays ➔ Thanksgiving
You can invite him for dessert. It would be a polite thing to do and also a good example for your kids. When they are older they will appreciate this kind of gesture.
2006-11-20 14:07:20 · answer #1 · answered by Mint 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
This can make for an awkward situation...I think that it is noble of you!! Only you can really gauge how he and his fiance might react. If you do invite him...you technically are obligated to invite his fiance. Also let him know whether you have told the kids whether you were going to invite him or not. If he declines then the kids may take it as rejection...if you tell him and he would rather not...maybe he can stop by to have some desert with his children!!!
Since he is active in the kids life....you are really under no obligation to invite him, since you two are now embarking on your own lives now.
2006-11-20 22:12:37 · answer #2 · answered by yidlmama 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing inappropriate about asking your children's father to be a part of Thanksgiving, even if he does see them on weekends. Holidays, especially Thanksgiving and Christmas, are hard on kids, and parents. As long as you can keep the holiday a happy one, go for it and Good Luck!
2006-11-20 22:09:04 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's only appropriate if you invite his fiance to come along too. It would be great if you could allow both of them into your home & be civil to eachother, that's the best thing for the kids - to see that their parents can get along even though they have differences & to be able to spend the holiday with both parents.
2006-11-20 22:13:40 · answer #4 · answered by tanner 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely. I think it's a good idea to only have them over for about an hour or so, but I am a child of divorced parents, so I know what I am talking about. You don't want your kids to grow up to think of you as not friends with their dad. Be the bigger person and just let them see you two getting along. I know that would mean a lot to me and my sisters if my dad lived around us.
2006-11-20 22:09:13 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sure, why not? It's better to show there are no hard feelings. You have both probably moved on with your lives. The girlfriend is optional, but I would invite her also, since you will have to form some kind of working relationship with her for the sake of the children.
2006-11-21 13:08:38 · answer #6 · answered by Big Bear 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's perfectly acceptable, and wise! My ex-husband is remarried, and lives in Canada. He only sees our daughter a couple of times a month, so when he is in town, I have him for dinner, he watches TV at our house and sometimes even stays over at night, because this allows him more time with her!
If there is any holiday at all that he happens to be able to fly in and spend with us, we are grateful, because that's a holiday they can share together. She learns from this how to be civil, loving and kind to others.
We learned a long time ago (we have been divorced 5 years) that she is more important than any argument that we could ever have. His wife is more than welcome, if she is ever in town, and I will set a place for her just as quickly as I would him. It makes my daughter happy to see her daddy, and that's all that matters in the long run.
2006-11-20 22:27:01 · answer #7 · answered by luvmelodio 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that you have to realize this is about your child, not about you. You have to do what works for your child. You said invite the father and then said they. First of all, it is Monday and Thanksgiving is in 3 days. Don't you think they already have plans?
To answer you question....if you can be nice and civil, and it would be pleasant for the child then by all means include your ex and his fiance. But, I think it would be best to let your child go spend part of the day with them. My stepdaughter eats lunch with her mom's family.....then comes to our house for lunch. And then returns home. It is a lot of running around for her but she is 15, so she can handle it. When she was younger she use to stay at whatever house she was at that day.
Just try to remember that it is not about you.....it is about your kid and what is best for him/her and what makes his/her life the most pleasant.
2006-11-20 22:17:21 · answer #8 · answered by Beth M 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah. It's only right, they are part of the family, wheter you want to admit it or not. He deserves to see his kids on thanksgiving. Thanksgiving is family holiday, a time when family should be together. The more, the merrier.
2006-11-21 00:50:29 · answer #9 · answered by kobebalze 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on what kind of relationship you have with him. I think it would be awkward for the fiance if she had to find somewhere else to go for dinner. If you were going to invite him, I would invite her as well.
Maybe you can invite them over for dessert? Just an idea.
2006-11-20 22:08:55 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋