okay ladies...I ll fess up. I need to know how to be more romantic. Any suggestions beyond flowers?

Question

...holding hands and dinner at a nice restaurant? Do they make a Dummies book Learning How to Be More Romantic?

Answer 1

smile a lot ...not scary just use your facial muscles.... compliment how great she looks.... make it all about her... don't mention your going online to seek skills.... thats 6th date conversation for laughs....fortunately its that easy. Dress nice tucked in... smell nice ... be on time.... clean your car.... find out if she is into you by ...... here's the trick... during dinner about 15mins into it lean back on your chair... if she does the same immediately your in rapport... if you scratch your ear subtly and she does the same your definitely in rapport then you can be yourself the rest of the evening.... good luck.

Answer 2

Well, yes, they really sort of do. Let's get you up to the fourth date: Never complain, be interesting, hopefully you have lots of things you both like to do --- concerts, plays, movies, photography, hopefully your religions are about the same, and you share the same politics. The guy I am with now (hey, I'm old) asked for an afternoon on our third date. He came in a 4WD truck with an ice chest full of sandwiches, cokes, salad, lots of blankets, and we drove up to the mountains, taking photos of all the spring flowers with two cameras he provided. (We live in the Western United States.) If you have gotten to the third or fourth date, then you probably have all of these things together in common.

How to be more romantic: Oh, yes, we women love flowers, and nice dinners, and walking at night to look at stars, and romantic kisses, and all that, but I'm hoping you are asking how can I be a better lover.... and it's funny -- a really handsome guy like Tom Cruise or Brad Pitt doesn't have to be much of a lover..... (Remember that lady who wore a shirt saying 'Brad, I'll have your baby"? it's the guy who is not strikingly handsome that has to be the wonderful lover if he wants the lady. I have several couples, friends, who are married to each other.... he's a few inches shorter than she, bald, and nothing to look at. But, BUT, for one, all these guys have a killer smile... Teeth radiate health, and women are attracted to that. The rest of imperfection we can deal with, but not bad teeth. Secondly, they have to be giving and loving in the bedroom or these lovely ladies would have been long gone..... but they married these men when they could have had anyone, and I am guessing it was not only the great personality, but the smile and their unselfishness in the bedroom. None of these couples have children -- by choice. But, that is another issue.
So, how does a guy become a better lover. Well, read a book called "For You Both" by Lonnie Barbach, cheap in paperback on Amazon.com. She is THE sex therapist today.

Does this help? I guess what I am saying is: If you are already a nice guy, and an unselfish man, and looking for a great lady, and you have found her, this is the way you keep her. I realize this is all over the map, so if you have further questions, I'll answer them... write if you wish.

Answer 3

Try making her a cozy dinner at home, or taking her to the nicest restaurant in town. Sometimes you can convince those places to let you take their food home and serve it in a cozy atmosphere. Light candles and turn on some mood music. Whatever she might like.
If you two are intimate, run her a hot bath and add stuff like oils or bath salts to help her relax. Light candles in there, too, but be careful of the shower curtain. They make floating candles you can get at the craft store or walmart.
If you are up for it, take off her shoes and rub her feet with massage oils or her favorite body lotion. Do her back as well.

The key here is mood. Having all the lights on and the big game on is not the most romantic...even if she likes sports.
I think she will appreciate the effort, so don't worry too much about if it is good enough.
Good Luck!

Answer 4

What are the things that men do for a woman they are "courting?" Those are the things that you do to be more romantic. No woman expects a man to be romantic all the time, but the way our fantasies work, we all like to believe we are desirable above all others, beautiful, funny, sexy, smart and maternal! Try to do things that are not so cookie cutter, like the restaurant and hand holding. Take it to another level. Get a Frisbee and go to the beach. For no reason, make an appointment at her favorite salon to have her hair or nails done. Make fragrant teas for her prepared in a little set that you "just picked up" because it reminds you of her. Comb and brush her hair because you love the color and the texture of it. Take her to the arboretum or local botanical gardens and read to her from the writings of Kalil Gibrahm (sp?) Or even better, just take her to the garden center at Target, or Home Depot and have her pick out flowers for you both to pot for her balcony or front door.

Answer 5

If only all men could make this simple step first off you are awesome to even ask I would say if she is a girlie girl than a romantic suite for a day or two some wine and maybe even a massage by a massage person in your room but if she is more ruff and tumble maybe a cabin in the middle of no where jeans and flannel type thing and grill her out some fillet Mignon followed by a blanket under the stars in a big sleeping bag by a fire for dessert then a candle light making love session in the cabin Good luck

Answer 6

The key to being more romantic is to pay more attention to her. WAY more. It means figuring out what she might like ahead of time and planning the details into things. It means thinking about her first. For instance, after dinner, tell her to sit in her favorite spot, put on her favorite show, and turn the lights down for her. Give her a kiss on the forehead and say, "I'll be back in a little while". Then go wash and put away the dishes and clean up the kitchen. By the way, romance is spoiled when there is a physical agenda behind your actions, and believe me she can tell. Women have a kind of radar for this. Remember, being desperate makes you look much less attractive, so take care of certain personal things *before* you start on your campaign of romance.

Answer 7

Things that I always loved: a candlelit bath drawn for me after a long day (sometimes having my hair washed for me), a foot massage (or even just having my lover paint my toenails), getting a light backrub/neck rub with no sexual overtones (let her make any moves toward intimacy), breakfast in bed.

Try to spend time listening and talking to her (not at her), set her up with a spa day (or even just a professional massage if a full day at the spa is out of your budget), have dinner made, wait on her, and take care of all of the clean-up (what a nice change!), walk with her after dinner - hold her hand and reaffirm your love for her. The things you can do are only limited by your imagination. I think it's unbelievably sweet that you are asking this question. It shows you care and want to be her dream man!

Answer 8

Be nice to her... When she says some thing that appears to be meaningful or important to her, take a mental note. When it comes up again... she'll see you remember.

If you shop with her, and she says she likes some thing, don't offer to buy it there... come back and get it later, and surprize her. In my experience, even the little things are appreciated.

Get her a card for no reason that says you are thinking about her... it doesn't have to be all mushy. Give it to her in a way that she can find/read it while your not together... then she can think about it all day.

Put your hand in the small of her back when you talk to her... expecially in public. Kinda lean in towards her... like a wisper. (some people don't like the public acts of kindness... but Most do)

It's alot of simple small things. Don't do these things and act like your so good to do this for her. Don't boast about it to her... and never bring any of it into an arguement... as in "I do all these things for you", if you ever do that .... you will change all those acts to zero value.

I'm a guy, if your girl is happy, you will be too.

Good Luck

Answer 9

Glad you could ask.

Write a note to her about how much you love her.
Tell her how happy she makes you.
Tell her that you could never live without her.
Plan a mani/pedi for her. While she's getting that done, get a hotel room and fill it with candles and roses.
Kiss her neck....
Take her hand and kiss it.
Look into her eyes and just smile. Then tell her how beautiful she is.
Rent The LakeHouse, pop some popcorn, and drink some soda.
Take her for a long walk at night...under the stars.
Under the stars, give her a ring, necklace, or earrings. She'll cherish it.

Answer 10

Its the little things, flowers are nice but if you picked them, it would be even better. Holding hands, saying how beautiful she is. Making her a cup of hot chocolate on a cold night, running bath water for her. Rubbing her feet, listening to her ( I mean listening). Giving her a card, just for the hell of it. There are so many small things one can do, just to let the other know they care. Its those things that mean the most to most women.

Answer 11

How about little love notes put in her purse when she's not looking? "Just because" little gifts. Tell her she's beautiful often. Holding hands is nice...but a kiss on it never hurts. A wink from across the room. Just a few ideas to help.