How do I get boyfriend do see a doctor about his ED?

Question

He's 29 yrs old. Doesn't smoke, doesn't drink coffee, doesn't do drugs or take any prescriptions. He eats healthy, exercises and drinks socially.

Problem, he has difficulties getting an erection, maintaining an erection and has premature ejaculation.

We've been together for almost 2 years. I feel I have been extremely patient, tender & caring. After 2 years of complete patience & understanding on my part, he still doesn't see that there's a problem. He has not slept with many women (only 3 including me). He has never been able to get a 2nd erection within 24 hours - sometimes that is even pushing it. We only get to see each other on weekends, so honestly he's only erect for one round which will last a couple of minutes. I am left feeling so hurt and angry as I put all my effort into helping him get an erection and I'm left hanging all the time - and I do mean all the time.

I tried to tell him to see a doctor and he had no clue as to what I'm was talking about???

As mentioned this has been going on for 2 years now. I have tried everything that I can. From extended time of foreplay, oral stimulation, caressing, stop & start.. you name it I've tried it. Problem is that I'm doing all the work to please him & I'm not getting anything in return (little caressing, no oral, etc.) because the focus is all about him. My satisfaction has been lost or taken to the back-burner sort of speaking.

Answer 1

he definitely has a problem. he needs to see adoctor. tell him if he won't do it for himself do it for you. tell him how much you care about him and want to have an loving intimate relationship with him.don't make it sound like it is all about the erection that may be the reason he is being stubborn plus he might be embarrased being he is so young and has this problem. good luck

Answer 2

This is a very sensitive subject for guys. While it might be true that he could have a medical problem as mentioned by other posts here, it is also quite possible that he has performance anxiety. Have you tried spending extra time in foreplay? I don't mean just oral activity. If he is given time to relax instead of jumping right into sex, foreplay can possibly help him focus more on the two of you. Lay next to him and just touch his body for a while - his chest, arms, legs. Don't talk about anything not related to the moment. Foreplay can last a long time and be both erotic and fulfilling. When you are having sex, take it slow and easy. If he orgasms too quickly, start to guage how soon he reaches orgasm and have him stop often to help maintain longer sex. During the "stop" time, continue to touch him, kiss him, etc. If you can be patient with him, you can help him to learn control by focusing more on your pleasure than on his. Whenever two people love each other, they should automatically be more interested in the fulfillment of the other.

Answer 3

It is in his head. Sex is mostly mental, chances are if he's even the slightest bit worried about getting hard, he won't; it's a self fulfilling prophecy. My suggestion first off is talk to him about it besides just going to the doctor, if he's stressed or worried about that or even anything else it's a possible reason why. Other possible factors include his masturbation tendencies, if he's already getting off on his own then he may just not be as horny. (this isn't because he's not attracted to you, he may just be really impatient or embarrassed about what turns him on) Also if he is masturbating ask to find out how he stays hard and what he's staying hard to. Besides that have him try exercising a bit more and taking vitamins, a lot of guys instantly go to Viagra when in fact they just have bad blood pressure or a vitamin deficiency. Finally, when you two are being sexual, take all focus off of his penis, make him focus on you, your body, your moaning etc. The less he's worrying about it the better, don't even touch it for a while just tease him and keep him distracted on the general intimacy. Chances are it has nothing to do with you, everyone's initial reaction when this happens is to jump to conclusions which usually only makes it worse because he can probably tell. I'm yet to meet a guy who fakes ED because he isn't attracted to his partner, and trust me I talk about this sort of thing a lot.

Answer 4

Make him an appointment put him in the car and take him to the doctor get him a bag of mama little helpers that is all he needs you can research his problem on line.Evan get a free sample prescription sent to you at home just take it to the doctor and get a prescription wrote out.Not hard to do .I am a 54 year young man I got the free sample and never have used them my wife want let me I am to much for her without them I think I am going to slip and take one and see if she can take it she all ready has multiple orgasm now she would probily kill me.Make him get some help has he allways been this way or is he screwed down before the weekend or what is up.I wonder what you look like are you sure it is not you.Maybe.

Answer 5

Try to tell him exactly how you are feeling about the whole situation. I think that maybe if he knows that you are not happy, he will realize that there is a problem. Assure him that this is a normal thing for men and he should go and see the doctor. Be firm when you tell him that something has to change and you are willing to help him every step of the way.

Answer 6

Well if he wont get help for it and it is clearly a problem...I am sure there are plenty of guys who wont have that issue for you to find...leave him...I mean you dont leave him because of the problem, you leave him because he tries nothing to fix it...

btw, I am a 29 year old male, I smoke and drink coffee and the little fella still pops up no problem, sometimes when I dont want it too...

Answer 7

Don't talk around the subject, hit him point blank. If he's only 29 and can't get it up, something is wrong. Good chance something else is going on, I'm not saying cheating or anything. Something is definately up, you need to hit him with this point blank.

Answer 8

i think he should really see a doctor regarding his problem. don't know how he is not bothered by it. but most men would be. and he is very young to have a problem like that. i'm not sue about this, but i think a probable cause of problem is lack of testosterone that his body produces. it's the hormone responsible for the male characteristics. sex drive, body hair, muscles.

Answer 9

Tell him you think he should see a doctor to be checked for prostate issues, because he's getting to the age where it's as important for HIM to be checked, as it is for a woman to get her annual girl exam. You don't have to blurt out that you're concerned with his E.D. but maybe he'll be more apt to be checked out if he thinks it's being done as a precaution, like women have P.A.P. tests done.

Answer 10

Tell him that you're concerned that his ED may be symptomatic of other underlying problems, and since you want to be with him for a long time, you want to make sure he will be around, instead of dead.
It may be uncomfortable to talk about, but it's certainly necessary.