I need advice. I seem to ave a handle on my life professionally, I have a good job?

Question

I own my own house and have a very good work ethic. I've never looked to a man to take care of me, I've always been fiercely independent and anything I've wanted, I've worked hard and gone for. I just don't get my personal life, have I put myself in a position that men are not interested in me? I either get men who want to latch on because they know I'm a good worker or young guys who want sex, I guess I don't know what to do differently?? HELP

Answer 1

Good question Amy, Seems as it sounds like you are an older women who has got herself established at the cost of sacrificing a social life in the quest to do so.

I would not accept anything from anyone either so I know what you mean whole heartily, I find that cos you are so fiercely independant that it scares males,well I don't put up with those who want to have meal ticket or cheap place to live or just want to bonk you stupid

I found that going out to certain places where similar ppl congregate has been easier and you don't get those hangers on.

We all have our needs ,but again at what cost,seems the longer you leave it, all you seem to get is guys with baggage this I'm sure like you is not on....
Sadly I see this trend not getting any better but the partner I now have is similar thinking and circumstances..

Strangely tho I still will not live with him, cos I worked damn hard for my lot and will not give it up easily until I know it is what I truly want..
Good Luck in the never ending search sweetie..♥

Answer 2

The topgun is right on target. Add this, all your life as adult
comes to full response is under God. The people that love
you will be there all through and making new friends is some
of that interaction returning from your youth. The feelings you
have for pursuit are not unusual and just flattering. The list
goes on and on until the right compatible person is with you.
There is the convenience in life that mates, partners, friendship
is the goal. Add some happy activities to your mature world
like playing softball, or bicycling, keep your fit self as youthful
as your social self. Take your time enjoy your freedoms.

Answer 3

I seem to do the same sort of thing about women except this,
I don't have assets and rent ,no degree. I have a steady job it
pays average. I tend to keep myself down because of no assets.
Got close enough to get married but bad communication resulted.In my opinion your focused on your career rather than keep a balance. I believe you that some men aren't what your looking for. Does your career focus cause you to avoid analyzing men better? Try to write down the qualities your looking for in a guy. Then write down what you can compromise or not.Then you can streamline your categories , then start looking if that is what you want. Sometimes you have to jump out there and take chances. I'm doing just that. Think out of the box. Good Luck!

Answer 4

Girlfriend, I have no answer for this one - I'm in the same boat. All I know is that I am SO not going to settle You shouldn't either! Don't do anything differently. You're looking for a needle in a stack of needles. Keep living and keep looking.

Men are prolly intimidated by you. Most of them are looking for a damsel in distress so they can feel heroic for saving them. You don't need saving, and you do NOT want that guy anyway.

Email me - we should talk!!

And if you get a really good answer I'll be reading it!!