and was chatting on line with other females and telling them he was single? When i asked him about it he lied and said he had no clue what i was talking about.is it to early in our relationship(6 mons) for me to feel like he should just be with me?
2006-11-20 13:49:17 · 21 answers · asked by sarahmartin0990 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
How would I feel? I'd feel the need to get a new boyfriend!
2006-11-20 13:51:24 · answer #1 · answered by Royalhinney 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, I assume the profile you found left you with no doubt that it was your boyfriend; wording, picture, etc.
You have to realize there are some people that for the life of them can not make a serious commitment to anyone no matter how hard they try; they want to "have their cake and eat it too" and don't care who gets hurt. There are some that can not stand the thought of being alone so they hang onto what they have until something better comes along. These people are users and should be avoided.
Another thing you should remember is that if he has lied to you once, he will likely do it again.
Trust, trust, trust!
How would I feel? I'd get out of the relationship as soon as possible - like yesterday.
Good luck!
2006-11-20 14:20:11 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's out there looking, it is a clear indication that he is not satisfied with what he has, for whatever reason. This is not necessarily a reflection on you. He may not be ready to commit, or he may be too young to really know what he wants in a relationship quite yet. Maybe you two never formally established that you were dating exclusively. But even though I don't know your BF or you, I can say with certainty that YOU DESERVE BETTER. Someone who is dishonest and deceitful in a relationship is NOT someone you should be with.
On a lighter note, how about this true story: Only a few weeks after my ex-husband and I separated, I decided to browse through match.com just to see what was out there. I didn't have a profile set up myself and was very specific in my search criteria- a little too specific, as it turns out. I had forgotten to expand my zip code range and I got back only one match. To my utter disbelief, that match was my husband! I was stunned at the time, but thinking back on it now always provides me with a good laugh about how match.com could match two people in the process of getting divorced!
2006-11-20 14:42:28 · answer #3 · answered by fpar1810 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry, does being a boyfriend mean the same thing as being married? Isn't he single if he is a boyfriend? That's not lying! You should not feel like he is exclusively yours until there is an engagement ring on that special little finger! You need to find out what he wants on match.com. If it is not anything like you, then turn and walk away. People who go on match.com are looking for the perfect match, to marry. You may no longer fit that description in his eyes. You may be a bit too possessive. And no it's waaaaay too early in the relationship to feel like he should be just with you. And time is not the telling factor. It's an attitude, passion, and trust.
2006-11-20 14:08:47 · answer #4 · answered by delux_version 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He does not love you if he is lying to you, you will never feel that you could trust him and trust is a very important thing in a relationship, and no 6 months is not to short of time, once you commit to a relationship you should be with that person only, you deserve a lot better than the way he is treating you, I would sit down and have a serious talk with him about it and if he lies to you again I would end the relationship.
2006-11-20 14:02:35 · answer #5 · answered by Kazza 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it seems like you two are on two different pages where this relationship is concerned. You sound more serious than he is right now and if he is lying to you about what he is doing and with whom he DOES NOT WANT A COMMITTED RELATIONSHIP. If you agree to see other people then fine, but if you know that this is not what you want you may want to walk away now. He will not change, just lie better.
2006-11-20 14:00:58 · answer #6 · answered by ladyc 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not so much about time,(length of relationship) as it is about how it sits with you. It doesn't sit well with you, and it wouldn't with me either. He's keeping his options open. He lied about doing so. If I was you, I'd get out now before I got in any deeper.
If you are sleeping together and he is seeing other women, are you going to be able to deal with that? Do you still want to be with him if he sees other girls under your nose? If he's checking out other women on Match.com, he's not committed to you in any way, shape, or form. Don't you think you deserve better?
2006-11-20 15:00:36 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would get a new boyfriend. i feel at 6 mons thats your really getting to know a person and their habits, and that person should start getting some type idea if thats who they want to but they all into ( by being faithful) you only have 6 mons to go before a year and by a year a person should really know it that the person they want to but they all into.
2006-11-20 13:58:03 · answer #8 · answered by techgirl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that this is an indication that he is not happy in the relationship. If he is telling people he is single, he is looking for someone else. It's definetly not to soon to expect that he should be with only you. Be glad you found out what he's really all about.
2006-11-20 13:52:17 · answer #9 · answered by ♥dream_angel♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How would you feel if your husband of 12 years joined match.com, yahoo personals, black people meet.com, and perfect match.com? Mine did. Furthermore he is abusive on top of that and has a porn addiction. He said that he was looking for a hard working woman and he was separated. What an asshole I will be leaving his *** soon.
2006-11-20 15:17:54 · answer #10 · answered by Veronique 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would dump him and be thankful that I found out he was a jerk early in the relationship. The fact that he lied to you even after being found out means that he'll lie again. Do the "Happy happy joy joy" dance and say "Good riddance!"
2006-11-20 13:53:27 · answer #11 · answered by Le_Roche 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋