I want him out of my life...But then when he doesnt call or bother me anymore I miss it and I wonder where he's at.
2006-11-20 13:01:10 · 10 answers · asked by Licha 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I agree. It's not HIM you miss per se. It's the attention and the routine. The familiarity of being with someone that knows you and what you like.
The longer you go without him, the easier it will be. You need to make this about you now. Becoming stronger and more independent. Prove to yourself that you can do it. Not to him or anyone else.
Busy yourself with whatever you need to do to keep your mind off of him. Don't jump back into the dating scene. You need time to clear your head and put things back into perspective. Find out who you are now that you're single, and what you want out of your next relationship. Anything too soon will be a rebound relationship and even if it's with the right person, it'll be the wrong time and it won't work out.
Good Luck!
2006-11-20 14:06:12 · answer #1 · answered by Alysun 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear Mimi:
You sound pretty messed up. Some people (not I) would say you're a dizzy girl who doesn't know what she wants.
Basically, you have to decide if "he" is wanted in your life. You need to decide! If you say no, then get it over with and open your options to others who are more deserving of a great person like you.
You miss him because you're use to him. Old habits are hard to break. You miss companionship and you think of the good things about him. But if he has bad things about him, you're loneliness blinds you to his faults. So, sweet girl, make a decision. Hey, its all part of growing up.
TX Guy
2006-11-20 21:31:43 · answer #2 · answered by txguy8800 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's the attention that you miss, not necessarily the man. Just enjoy your free time and explore the things that you want. Someone will be giving you that attention again soon enough.
2006-11-20 21:03:48 · answer #3 · answered by Royalhinney 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to get him off your mind before you can get him out of your life. Obviously there is some unfinished business with him. It may be something you need to say to him or the satisfaction of seeing his regret of losing you. If you can figure out what it is you can truly get him out of your life.
2006-11-20 22:26:58 · answer #4 · answered by tim b 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you first have to figure out what you really want ! Miserable or full of joy. being alone is sometimes not easy but a good start to get new things going for you
2006-11-20 21:04:26 · answer #5 · answered by silverearth1 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is quite natural for you to feel this way... it will get easier especially if you find someting to occupy your time.
Deal with this miss him as much as you want to it is natural
2006-11-20 21:12:22 · answer #6 · answered by Paula W 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's become a habit. Find something/someone new to focus on. I guarantee that you'll soon be over him.
2006-11-20 21:03:54 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he is a habit. Old habits die hard. Time to find a new one.
2006-11-20 21:08:37 · answer #8 · answered by jenkins_nichole 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's normal for you to fell that way after you have been with a person a long time. give your body time to heal in time it would be all over with.
2006-11-20 21:46:11 · answer #9 · answered by celi 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
naybe you're still missed his abusive skill, if you're being abused before.
IF NOT, it's should got something else you're missed about him.
SEX?
2006-11-20 21:04:25 · answer #10 · answered by peter71 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋