if you had the money would you pay off his divorce debt of 30k? What would you think if you said no and he said he would have to reconsider your relationship with him as he would do it for you. The old if you love me why won't you help me out.
2006-11-20 13:01:09 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I would think I'd hooked up with a spineless leech, and I WOULD reconsider the relationship. Congrats on NOT being a silly woman. Many would fall for "If ya loved me" You can do better. Doubt you could do much worse. Sorry you wasted 3 years.
2006-11-20 13:25:09 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
WOW! I would say "See ya later"! Why would he have to reconsider the relationship? Is he in love with you or your money....Oh never-mind I already figured that one out. And as far as the "old if you love me why won't you help me out" tell him guilt trips are NOT going to make a good relationship...which is what you THOUGHT you had with him....and thank him for clearing that up BEFORE you said I do! Gezz what the hell is wrong with some guys these days....makes me want to have a sex change LOL
Best of luck...and remember "there is no point in there being two fools in the same deal"
2006-11-20 21:13:20 · answer #2 · answered by oldman 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Run away! Don't walk, don't pass Go. 30K? Yikes. At the very least, say you'll wait for the wedding until he pays off his debt and see what he says. You knew the answer to your question, but you needed someone else to agree. A decent guy wouldn't have the nerve even to think of asking for such a thing, and there's a lot of us out there.
2006-11-20 21:11:30 · answer #3 · answered by Crash 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry lady if this guy would come back and say something like that to you I would run and run fast and far he is using you your not a bank and he has to pay off his own debts plain and simple.
This sounds almost like blackmail he is a pathetic snake and not surprised he has been divorced already. I would say sorry i can not do that for you that si a debt you had before we even met if you can't realize that then it's over. You don't deserve a guy like this you sound to sweet and innocent to be with such a prick.
2006-11-21 00:36:17 · answer #4 · answered by Livinrawguy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow that is a big big red flag!!! The "You would if you love me" syndrom is the biggest manipulation there is. He is using you and you would be a fool to let him.I would NOT marry this man if I were you. It is only going to get worse. You deserve better then that. Ever hear of the ole saying "You get what you settle for?" Time to move on hon. I have a feeling that if you dont you will regret it in the long run. Ever find out the truth behind his first divorce? Might not hurt.
2006-11-20 21:12:08 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i do not want to hurt your feelings...but i think you r being used. Has he helped you pay off any of your bills? If the answer is no then do not do it. Relationships are about give and take. I pay some of my bf's bills and he pays mine as well. If he has to reconsider your relationship over wether or not you give him money then that is not unconditional love.
2006-11-20 22:04:33 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Heck No.....If he loved you he wouldn't ask! I might HELP (not completely) support him until he pays it off, but no way would I pay it for him. That was a mistake he made, not you.
Answer to your second question.....I would do some serious reconsidering myself! It is easy to THINK you would spend or give away money you do not have, but he does not have it, so the statement is bogus.
2006-11-20 21:17:55 · answer #7 · answered by sylvrrain 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He has his nerve. Your not responsible for his old divorce debts. Are you sure you want to married a man like this. He should be ashamed of himself. I would have to say, marriage to a man like this would not be lasting. And i would defensively want him to reconsider our relationship because there would not be one. Wise up girl.
2006-11-20 21:06:28 · answer #8 · answered by Ellen J 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
wait until you are married if you are going to help him pay this debt.
thats what married couples do, they help each other in a crisis, even financial ones.
think about it this way.. the quikcer you both pay that debt off, the quikcer you can buy something with the money you would normally waste on repayments
2006-11-20 21:17:57 · answer #9 · answered by He moonwalked on my <3 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i would tell him reconsider then you owe it you pay it , its his responsibliity to pay his debts ask him if hes marring you for love or money and that makes you think its the money and you should be the one reconsidering if hes already doing if you love me you would bit.
2006-11-20 21:06:42 · answer #10 · answered by moe 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋