He says he loves me, and i believe it. He's the sweetest guy ever, but when it comes to sex it like he's a whole other person. I really don't know what to do about this. My friend all say i should do it, and i love him, but i don't think i'm ready. He keeps saying that if i loved him i'd give in. My friends say that it feels good and that i should do it, and that it won't hurt to do it once. I'm only 16 and really confused. I've asked my Mom, and not to be mean but she's kind of a slut, and says that i should do it. I'm scared and not sure. I love my boyfriend and think he's the sweetest and most romantic guy i've ever met. I don't want to lose him. So, asking all the other girls out there, please help me. What should i do?
2006-11-20 12:49:51 · 15 answers · asked by Kira 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Dump hiim, he just wants sex. Just think how would you feel after you have had sex with him, and than he dumps you or has sex with someone else. You are SO not ready for that.
pS BAD MOM she should tell you to WAIT!
2006-11-20 12:51:56 · answer #1 · answered by double v 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
OMG, your mom tells you to do it? That's the first time I've heard that. Since everyone is pressuring you to do it, it'll be harder for you. You're not ready. I think that it's amazing that you haven't had sex already. If you feel you're not ready please don't do it, you really regret it later ( I know from personal experience.) I got pressured into it because my friends were doing it and I wish I would have waited until I was more ready. And if your boyfriend tells you, if you love him you'll do it, don't fall for that line, he's just saying it to get what he wants. He could be the sweetest guy you've met but he's still just a guy and in order to get what he wants he will say things to make you feel like that's the only way to prove you love him. Tell him if he loves you, he will wait for you. Stay true to yourself and do only what YOU think is the right thing for you.
2006-11-20 13:03:20 · answer #2 · answered by Ray 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've answered you own question. You are scared and unsure, that would be your brain telling you you aren't redy. When you are you won't have all these mixed up feelings. By the way if your boyfriend loved you he wouldn't pressure you into doing somethin you weren't really ready for, people who love eachother don't do that. As for your "friends" sure it feels good it feels better when you are sure you want to do it and comfortable doing it. Remember this isn't something you can take back or do over this is forever. Do what you feel is best for you you have to take care of yourself first.
2006-11-20 14:07:10 · answer #3 · answered by Heather T 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U r 16. U may not know what is sex. Or u may have unclear idea. If u agree he will strip ur cloths and kiss you, play on your breasts, and finally insert his penis into your vagina. It will give a lot of pleasure for him as well as you but you may become pregnant. Are u ready? If not, avoid all these untill he marries u. And, if you decide to have sex with him now, then at least insist him to use a good condom to avoid preganncy.
2006-11-20 14:11:10 · answer #4 · answered by pootee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm a guy and sex is one of our three basic needs. I'll let you in on our "needs": Sex, Food, Beer. Give a man all those and you've made the world better! If you think that it'll make him happy and you then go for it but use a Hefty bag! That way you'll know that it won't break.
2006-11-20 12:54:10 · answer #5 · answered by CompWiz56 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are not ready and he doesn't understand, then he does not respect you. If you were to do it, I would be willing to bet your relationship will go sour and you will lose your boyfriend. Make sure you are not just one of your boyfriends "conquests". If you do it, you will also go through depression. Honestly, your virginity should be saved for your future husband. It is your most cherished gift you can give.
2006-11-20 12:54:19 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen to your heart, remember "are you going to jump off a bridge with your friends?" I really would never think a mother would tell you to do it, if you are not comfortable DO NOT DO IT, also think about the many consequences out there, especially pregnancy
Hope I helped
2006-11-20 12:55:26 · answer #7 · answered by Ely 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't do it until you truly are ready! You don't want to do something that you will regret. A lot of people have sex and regret it.. you don't want to be one of them. When the time is right you will know... but right now you need to tell him to kick back. Just do foreplay and please him and he can please you... but don't do the deed until you are really ready.
2006-11-20 12:59:35 · answer #8 · answered by Destinee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh come on your not a virgin , and if he doesnt have a disease a bit of sex never hurt a girl
gees if you dont put out why should he wait for you
2006-11-20 12:54:28 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should not have sex til your ready you cant get your virginity back so til you feel you have no doubts in your head then dont if he cares he will wait if not owell and when you do remember safe sex
2006-11-20 12:55:24 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋