My 21 year old daughter has came to me with this question" why are all the good lookin guys that I am attracted to and enjoy spending time with turn out to be homosexual". I am not sure how to answer, first of all, I am alot older and have not been in the dating world in about 15 yrs. Secondly, if I had the choice of hanging out with girls that tend to be petty and competitive or a gay guy which usualy are more emotionally geered to handle friendships and not competitive like women, I would choose the guy. However, I am older and prefer an good conversation with laughs, rather than the college drama. Can anyone let the old mom in on some advice... oh yeah, she is very beautiful, smart and kind. I think that may be part of the issue is her kind heart and friendliness.
2006-11-20 12:43:19 · 4 answers · asked by stephinia 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
When I was dating during high school the girl I took to the prom (my first dating experience) told me that her first boyfriend turned out to be gay. I was devastated to hear this as I could never tell her the truth about me (still hoping not to be gay) in fear of hurting her again.
I am sure its because she is attractive and safe (being kind and thoughtful) and a little bit of dumb luck that she dated homosexuals. She actually fulfills their desire of the woman they would like to be with if they had natural attraction.
Tell her to be flattered and say thank you. Then wish them well in their future relationships.
2006-11-20 13:33:48 · answer #1 · answered by johnatplayct 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well because most attractive men are gay especially if they dress very well. :) Tell her to stop looking for the superficial package and look for what's inside. There's probably a man out there that's very sensitive and exactly what she's looking for but he probably ain't brad Pitt or tom cruise. Gays and lesbians are here so tell her not to worry so much and not to worry about that we could still be friends.
2006-11-20 14:20:03 · answer #2 · answered by onelia 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel her pain. Gay men are more sensitive and have a better sense of style (in general). She is maybe looking for a sweet sensitive man (aren't we all) and more of them are gay. She shouldn't be concerned, but she should be aware of signs a guy is gay. She'll find a good straight one eventually. But in the mean time she'll meet a lot of great friends.
2006-11-20 13:02:35 · answer #3 · answered by apuleuis 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Actually, I read that there have been a couple of studies that have shown that same correlation. They surveyed a large group of "straight" guys about men, women, straight sex, gay sex, etc. They then hooked them to monitors that measured eye dilation, heart rate, breathing, etc. and showed a series of pornographic images, gay and straight. Interestingly, the guys who were most vehemently anti-gay were typically the ones most turned on by the gay porn. There are sadly a lot of people who cannot deal with the fact that they are gay, so they turn that anger and frustration outward against other gays, and to deflect gays who they fear will call them out. Craig and Haggard are just two prominent examples, but it happens a lot.
2016-03-29 03:34:50 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋