I'm sick of being in pain and having to hide my my feelings. sick of living a lie. sick of standing next to the person I would die for and pretending that they mean nothing to me. its so exhausting. I know I'm not the only one that has felt this way but how do u get over it. Since I'm going to hell for being gay anyway should I just kill myself?
2006-11-20 12:41:07 · 28 answers · asked by Amy 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Absolutely not. You don't have to hide your feelings or make the Bible thumpers happy. You are you. There are a ton of people who care about you and killing yourself is the selfish way out. If people in your life cause you stress by not letting you be you, you need to walk away. There are millions of people who will accept you for you. The best way to get over it is to face it head on. And you're not going to hell for being you. Just think about it, if there is a hell and we are going to go there for being sinners, everyone you encounter on earth will be there. And for the people who are holier than though, let them go to their special place. They will probably have some sort of holy war in heaven because there will be no gays up there for them to pick on or look down to. They will have to resort for finding faults in their heterosexual counterparts. [all this is just a hypothetical. I believe if you are a good person, you will go to heaven regardless of your sexual orientation.]
Live life to the fullest. Be you. You will be a lot happier for it.
2006-11-20 12:48:31 · answer #1 · answered by gc27858 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, you should not kill yourself... You say you're 'sick of standing next to the person I would die for and pretending that they mean nothing to me'... well, you probably mean something to them too as well as other people and suicide will hurt them more than you can know. If you think you are going to hell anyway you are not listening to the right people. God made you gay and, although life is a bit harder by being gay, God doesn't give you more hardships than you can handle. How do you get over it?... it's not always easy and sometimes you will think things will never get better, but they do get better and you want to be around to see how much better things can get. Counseling isn't for everyone, but it can help. I have been where you are, and I am thankful that I am here today.
2006-11-20 13:09:03 · answer #2 · answered by χριστοφορος ▽ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, you're not going to hell for being gay. You're living in hell at the moment, and that's really enough for anyone.
How old are you? I know it's rough on teens to deal with being gay because the peer pressure is just tremendous. However, you can get through it. So, if you're a teen, hang in there. Like everything about being a teen, this too in time shall pass. Really. If you're a teen, you're probably dependent on your parents, and if they have issues with gays, you probably would do best with easing them into the idea....not just spring it on them. Honestly, I'd rather have my child alive and gay, than dead anytime....no matter what the circumstances.
If you're older, and you support yourself, then stop hiding. You may not be any happier, but at least that's one less thing for you to feel like you're having to deal with.
You don't have to live the lie no matter what your age. You don't have to pretend to be something you aren't...you can always say you're just not interested in a relationship....and you want to focus on your school, job, sports...whatever.
The one thing you have to realize...you may be attracted to someone of the same gender, but they may not be comfortable with your attraction. So, just because you "come out" isn't going to make it reasonable that you tell someone you have a crush on them unless you know they're gay too. I have a dear friend who is lesbian, and as much as I love her, I still cringe a little when she tells me she wishes I was lesbian. I'm not. I never will be. And I try to remember this is her way of telling me that IF I were, she'd count me as the perfect person for her. Most people are not going to react that way.
Don't kill yourself. It's never the answer. If you screw it up, then you have even more crap to contend with...and if you manage to "do it right", then you've thrown away whatever contribution you could have made to the world...you've thrown out ever seeing that amazing red the sky turns when the sun sets...the perfect smell of lilacs...the wet nosed kiss of a puppy...or the sheer pleasure of a perfect day...
Have faith that time will work in your favor, and you'll come through this...better and stronger...
2006-11-20 12:58:23 · answer #3 · answered by Kaia 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Nah. Just keep on living. Anyway you don't know for sure if death is any better than life. I mean, nothing really matters all that much anyway, and how bad can it get? You just gotta remember that you're tough, and you can make it. Put yourself in the right place so you can be there at the right time. Some cool stuff could happen. Try some experiments with your life if you're just gonna give up anyway. Aren't you kind of curious to see what will happen?
2006-11-20 12:49:17 · answer #4 · answered by Aught 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's sad to me that we are living in a world in which we have to hide who we truly are. I too am hiding my orientation and am struggling with it. If anyone answers this question negatively, I beg you not to listen to them. They are the ones that will go to hell. The truth is, religion had told you that you will go to hell for being gay. Religion has deemed it a sin to be gay. I believe that God made me gay and that he made you gay as well. A religion can't tell you how God really feels. How can you honestly believe that you will go to hell for being who you are? If you are a good person and love other people, treat others with respect, and do good things, you will go to heaven. God loves you for who you are. If anyone tells yout that God doesn't love you for being gay, they are wrong. WRONG!!! Do not end your life because of the homophobic ideas of ignorant people. Always remember that we are all here for a reason and we are the way we are for a reason. Embrace who you are. I know it is hard, and believe me it is hard for me too. Truth is, I'm hiding the fact that I'm gay. I do want to come out soon. I know that God accepts me for who I am because he made me this way. Remember everything I've said. Ignore the negative comments. Your life is precious. Don't end it. I know how hard it is to hide your feelings. Even if you don't come out right away, just remember that you are not a bad person. You need to know in your heart that there is nothing wrong with who you are.
2006-11-20 13:14:39 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO WAY! It's totally not worth it! Like I saw one response say: You shouldn't care what other people think about you or anything like that. Even though you think you'll go to hell for being gay, you shouldn't kill yourself because you'll just go there sooner. I don't really know if you belive in God or not but if you do, i'll pray for you and you'll see that maybe someday you can change. It wouldn't be a bad idea to get a bible and read it if you have not already.
2006-11-20 14:35:21 · answer #6 · answered by Dallas A 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel sympathy for you. Where did you ever get the idea that you are going to hell? Find yourself a God of peace and love and some good counseling. You are the only one who can give yourself rest from the way that you think. Find supportive friends and stay away from toxic people. Be your own best friend. Love yourself. Rejoice that you have a partner.
2006-11-20 12:52:54 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. Don't kill yourself. Look at it this way...If you come out and say and do everything you've been hiding all this time...will it be any worse than it is now? no, it won't. It may even be better! Give it a try. I am sure there are support groups available in your area. Just look around! What have you got to lose?
2006-11-20 17:08:13 · answer #8 · answered by eye_thee_see 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was never in your situation, but on the death of my beloved partner had to fight against a vile reaction by her family. This included a desire to kill one of them I do not know what stopped me. I struggled for months but eventually was able to ask my brother "Help Me"
He secured professional help. With this and his family's love, I am alive.
Something I wrote while in a more lucid moment of treatment goes "The veil of tears shall lift as the last rain upon a winter's day. The setting sun sharply reflects, softly reveals then fades. Tomorrow will be a bright spring day, the delight of my beloved."
I can only suggest you seek help. No one is the same, but I feel deeply for you.
Strength and love, Rose P.
2006-11-20 12:58:44 · answer #9 · answered by rose p 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is what I hate about religion, it instills these messed up morals. Don't kill yourself, there is no such thing as hell and it's not worth the risk that there might not even be an afterlife. My advice is come out of the closet, be true to yourself, and find yourself a partner to share your burden. Trust me that path is much more enjoyable.
2006-11-20 12:51:41 · answer #10 · answered by Rageling 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋