There’s a Japanese guy who’s working at my office, every time I ask him to do something (not to do my work or anything) and he reacts so badly (I asked him if he could put the kettle on and he went mad) he loves to shout at me and trying to make me feel small (if I ask my department head a question and he overhears, he‘ll wait until I‘m alone and rip the piss out of me. He would tell people I was stupid until some one pointed out I have a 2:1 degree from a red-brick uni).
I’m the youngest in my office and I’m the only one he does it to, ( I share an office with a senior accountant and if she’s in there he’ll leave me be). I had my appraisal and my boss is really happy with the standard of my work and my supervisor has commented that my work is of a high standard so I‘m 99% sure this guys doing it out of spite. I want to know is this just a cultural thing and how can I get him to leave me alone?
2006-11-20 12:34:27 · 16 answers · asked by Bella 2 in Business & Finance ➔ Careers & Employment
The guy is shlt. Record what he said and done at you secretly and consult to your boss.
I think he is rude and can't understand his attitude. Please do not think all Japanese are like that. It is not Japanese culture. He is only childish and maybe racist.
Is he really Japanese? If so, I apologize as Japanese.
Anyway pls report and consult with your boss.
2006-11-22 23:04:51 · answer #1 · answered by Joriental 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I suggest first, try not to be alone with him. If you realize you are, just make an excuse and don't even give him a chance to talk to you. (Just run away). Do not ask him to do anything since he doesn't like to put a kettle on. Basically ignore him completely. If you are in a position where you need to work with him, tell your supervisor that he seems to have problems with you. I am sure people have already noticed. Basically he thinks he's better than you. Doesn't sound like a reasonable person, so, just have to go around him.
2006-11-20 21:15:48 · answer #2 · answered by spot 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some Japanese people are like what you have described. I used to work in a hotel as a Front office clerk. And I had a couple of bad experiences with Japanese managers, how they would say bad things about me and how they would make up lies just to get me in trouble.
I would highly advice you to share your problems with someone in the office that you are close with so that when he tries to hurt you again other people whom you shared with can back you up and let the management know how cruel he is.
Believe me not all Japanese are like that but most of them are.
Take care of yourself. Don't let him pull u down.
2006-11-20 20:48:16 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can't believe it's a cultural thing. Lorraine R's answer looks good, if that doesn't work you should talk it through with your boss and bring up harassment charges, this guy should not be allowed to treat people in such a way and needs to be taught a lesson - sounds like he was a spoilt kid that hasn't grown up.
2006-11-20 21:00:26 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First you need to do it the right way, talk to him with respect and let him know your feelings. if doesn't work than talk to your supervisor.....or you can just go straight to your boss but it might help to talk to him fist since you both work in same office. Just be nice and when he comes to you act like your busy.
I have same problem but i dont give him any chance to talk to me or say stuff. smile and make excuse that your busy and can't talk :-) smile and no response (yes or no works) are the best weapons. use it cauz it makes ppl wonder :-)
2006-11-20 21:46:58 · answer #5 · answered by soahni 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He'll have a go at you when you're alone, be careful it'll be his word against yours. When my manager use to want have a word with me the first thing i'd say was 'fine, i'll just go and get my union official'. Never be alone with this arsehole, he could attack you then deny it. Don't talk to him or ask him for anything . Don't be timid, get mad and lose your temper and threaten him. If you say something you better mean it.
2006-11-20 20:53:43 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sounds absolutely mad as a box of monkeys!
Tell him that familiarity breeds contempt and don't speak to him.
If you want a cup of tea then make it yourself.
Don't give him any attention and do not do anything for him either.
He will soon get fed up and leave you alone but if his behaviour continues then ask him if it's because he fancies you!....Seriously!!
2006-11-20 20:44:27 · answer #7 · answered by Lorraine R 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Could it be a sexist problem ? My boss is a woman in charge of several blokes.Doesn't bother me several men who have been my boss were even more useless !!! Perhaps doesn't like a girl telling a "man" what to do ?
2006-11-24 15:26:36 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Report the git. It's not cultural, an old friend of mine works with Japanese cooks and he's best buddies with most of them.
2006-11-20 20:43:18 · answer #9 · answered by Katri-Mills 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like your job performance speaks for itself, stay away from the guy, keep doing your good work, don't let him interfere with that. he will be found out. just smile and nod when he comes at you with these comments. if he cant get the reaction he wants, he will stop. be patient it will work out for you.
2006-11-20 20:44:59 · answer #10 · answered by juanita s 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋