Should I feel like I am made to give my hubby oral sex?

Question

I feel like I am made to give my hubby oral sex. He knows before we got married that I really didnt care to do this? However, If I really get in the mood I will do it. But lately I feel like he is making me do it! He enjoys doing oral to me, I told him it doesnt bother me if he doesnt want to do it! That I would understand but he says he LOVES doing it to me. Lately when he gets done doing it to me he brings hisself to my mouth (his private part) & pushes my head towards it. I have talked to him about this & told him that when he does this it makes me feel like I am being mad to do it. He said, he shouldnt have to do that to get me to do it. But if thats what he has to do he will. I told him I would like to do it on my own when I am in the mood to do it rather then feeling like I am being made to do it. Do you think I am over reacting? Should I be feeling like this? I have been up front with him from the being, that I didnt like doing it all the time, before we were married,

which was over 2 1/2 years ago. He just recently started doing this. This is a SERIOUS question, please only SERIOUS answers. I am not sure what or how I am suppose to feel about this!

I have talked to him about feeling like he is making me do it! Dont get me wrong I dont mind doing it, once in awhile but he wants it EVERY night!! and Its all he talks about, like he is obousised (sp?) Other people have made comments to him about this always being on his mind! He also thinks he is EVERYTHING in bed and always tells me I will never be able to find better, trust me he is good but I wish he would let me tell him that. Its kinda a turn off when he tells me he is "the best" in bed!

Answer 1

It's nice that he likes to do it to you but if you don't like doing it to him then he shouldn't make you.

Answer 2

Well I can tell you that I understand why he likes it so much. There is no feeling like a good BJ....you can do much more with your mouth than any other part of your body. Having said that myself I would not want to get a BJ from someone who is not really into it and doing it like it was just another chore to get done before you can go to sleep. Any man can tell when there partner is "Not into it" and for me...its just no good if that is the case. Making Love...not just having sex is all about pleasing your partner the most you can...not being selfish and forcing you to do this is just having sex. I do not think that anyone man or women should have to do something sexually that they really do not feel comfortable doing. The way he is getting you to perform oral sex on him is wrong....you do not just push someones head down there and tell them to get at it. Have you ever asked yourself what it is that you don't like about doing it? Where you told when you were young that good girls do not do such things? Is it the taste, smell? Most women get a little feeling of power over there man when giving him fellatio.....they are in complete control of him and for some it can be very arousing not to mention the feeling knowing how much pleasure you are giving to him. Maybe this is something you can work through...and maybe not but him FORCING it will not help matters any and may even make things worse...and this you need to talk to him about. Best of luck...and really....try to think of what it is that turns you off about it so much.

Answer 3

He should be respecting your feelings, not pushing his onto you. You are not over reacting. Tell him again, how you feel and make sure he is in a place to listen to you. No distractions, like TV, etc.. I certainly would be feeling violated by him if it were me in your shoes. If you talk to him and he continues to do this anyway, try and muster the courage to get up and walk out of the room. Maybe he will get the message that something is better than nothing and that your body is yours, to be treated as you feel comfortable with. Some people really do need to be sent strong messages to get the point.

Answer 4

No you shouldn't feel forced to do anything you don't want to do. But isn't fair that you should enjoy him going down on you and then him having to fight with you to reciprocate. Find a compromise because men will find someone to do the things that you won't do, so try to find a way to make it pleasurable, tolerable, or at least switch up the order of things. (Personally, I would 69 in order to get it over with at the same time.) If he's the kind of guy that needs oral sex to reach orgasm, then explain to him your face muscles get tired, and so does your arm when he takes too long and it turns you off. Most guys hate the fact that they're doing anything to turn their girl off and will do what they can to change.

Answer 5

wow.. I know EXACTLY how you feel.

You shouldn't feel like you are being made to do anything you don't want to.

In my case, it hurts my mouth if I do it for a long time, I told my fiance my limits and he has to accept that. I'm like you, I only really like doing it when I'm turned on. I would suggest letting him do it to you, if he enjoys it, and use oral on him as foreplay... then have regular sex. It works for us.. we both win because he gets what he wants without causing my jaw to lock :)

It is never good to feel uncomfortable or out of control, it could even lead to you not trusting your husband in bed. Sex is about sharing passion with the person you love and is supposed to be enjoyed by both parties. I would definitely talk to him (while you're not in bed).. you don't want it to escalate to a conflict not so easily resolved.

Answer 6

I have to say that I would be a little concerned about his considering that you told him it makes you uncomfortable. It does seem like he is pushing it on you. See if you can compromise and come up with a suitable amount of times you could do this for him and then see if he can respect that and let you have a little control over it. I know guys love this so if you can do it for him occasionally then it would be a good idea. If the problem for you is him coming in your mouth then maybe you could tell him not to do that or you could do like I do and just get up and spit it out after wards. Good luck.

Answer 7

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Answer 8

Why is this so important to him? I know most men love getting oral sex, but does he enjoy it as much knowing you don't want to do it?

If you don't mind doing it sometimes, surprise him with it. Like in the car, on the couch while he's watching TV or just get down on your knees in the kitchen, where he'd least expect it. ... I guarantee, he'll love it and maybe you won't feel like you're being forced.

Answer 9

That doesnt sound like a good situation that you are in. Most guys love receiving and giving oral. There is no better satisfaction for me then to pleasure a women. So he might just like that fact. When he pushes your head that is a little insulting to you if he is forcefull when he does it. If he is just trying to give you a hint its not too bad. I just would refuse to do it if really makes you that uncomforatable.

Good luck

Answer 10

just tell him u dont like to give him oral unless u r in the mood and if he continues 2 make u feel awkward about it then u will b put off completely its supposed 2 b about feeling intimate with each other not u feeling bad about yourself afterward and if he has any respect he will understand

Answer 11

You shouldn't have to do anything you are uncomfortable with or that you don't like. I can't say I know how you feel because this is not a requirement with my husband. He is happy without it and that is a good thing....I don't care for it either, so I don't blame you. You are going to have to stand your ground. When he is trying to "force" you to do this get up and tell him no and he don't want to listen, tell him he is making you feel very cheap and violated. After all it is your mouth.