ok i think im p. i got all the signs and im going to take the test tomarrow but theres a problem.................i broke up wit my bf and if i am he wud be the father and to make things worse he already has a gf..............i know he still has feelings 4 me but wut shud i do if i am...............shud i tell him....or juss get rid of it...........idk i need som advice....
2006-11-20 11:58:19 · 16 answers · asked by bOoTyLiCoUs(XoxXo) 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
the answer to that question is yours. never depend on the man. trust me even if he says he's gonna be there, he won't. if you're ready to be mommy and daddy have it. I personally do not think abortion is the best option. you will regret it forever.
I'm having a baby right now, my 4th with a man I have been with for 6 years. last week I found out he cheated. I left him. it hurts, and i'm still early enough to abort. but It just is not an option. It's not the child's fault me and dad have problems. get it.....
good luck mommy... the choice is yours.
2006-11-20 12:14:21 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, I would not worry too much until the test comes back positive. If that happens, it is best to be honest and tell your ex about the baby. Just tell him so he knows and don't expect him to drop his current girlfriend and come back to you. Even though abortion is legal and is an option, I would like to encourage you to consider the other options available to you, keep the baby or give the baby up for adoption. If adoption is your decision (and it is the best in situations like this) then it is best that the baby's father knows and can also sign off on the necessary paperwork. There are many wonderful adoption options and some allow you to choose your baby's adoptive parents and some allow you to receive pictures and letters from the adoptive parents. I would also advise you to tell your parents if you are pregnant no matter how badly they will take the news, they will still love you and want to help you. If you don't receive support from family then contact a crisis pregnancy clinic in your area. You can find them listed in the yellow pages under Abortion Alternatives. If it turns out you are not pregnant, then consider abstinence until marriage it is a good choice for both you and your future husband.
2006-11-20 20:16:44 · answer #2 · answered by sevenofus 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you were mature enough to have sex, then you have to be mature enough to deal with the consequences. We live in a society that gives us the right to choose, so you have a decision to make. I happen to be pro-choice, but even I have a problem with the phrase "get rid of it". It is called an abortion, and it ends what could have been a live. This is a very IMPORTANT decision, not one to be made lightly, or without feeling. My advice is, do what is best for you, but consider adoption. You could even do an open adoption. This decision will leave you with less guilt, but in the end it is up to you. So, stop being a child for a minute, and be an adult, that is what is required of you right now. You played an adult game, now act like it, grow up for a minute. Weigh all possible solutions, and decide what is best. BTW the father has a right to know. Not a right to make the decision, it is your body, but you should at least get his opinion, and let it factor, at least a little, in your choice.
2006-11-20 20:22:36 · answer #3 · answered by Amanda D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First thing's first. Take that test and if you are in fact pregnant, try to think clearly. Talk to your ex. He has the right to know that he's having a child. Perhaps (if he really is a man) he can go back to you and help you with your baby. Now, please do NOT even think about abortion. If you are pregnant...that's a life already. I think that if you thought you were mature or responsable enough to have sex...now you have to step up and accept the consequences. You looked for this problem yourself. Sorry for sounding so mean, but it really gets me mad that so many women like yourself mess around and then when they are forming a life in their womb just think: bah, I'll get rid of it. A baby is not a dog or trash that you can get rid of. It's really sad how some parents who want a kid so bad and just can't...and you...you just think of killing one. Please do consider adoption like people above mentioned if you don't want to keep your baby.
2006-11-20 20:18:03 · answer #4 · answered by MrS. JaCk SpArRoW 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to tell him! No matter what you decide to do about the pregnancy he has a right to know if he is the father! But don't get rid of the baby just because the father has left you....plenty of people raise kids on their own.....but ultimately you have to make the choice and be prepared to live with it either way for the rest of your life....GOOD LUCK =)
2006-11-20 20:11:59 · answer #5 · answered by butterburgerqueen 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't get ahead of yourself just yet, deal with things as they come.
If you find out your pregnant then tell the father as he has a right to know, and then its up to him to decide what to do. You should think really hard and I don't think aborting is a good option, baby's choose its parents and when to come. If your pregnant then think of it as a blessing not a burden. its a wonderful thing and there is a reason so think about that first. Good luck
2006-11-20 20:30:09 · answer #6 · answered by mj_missi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First take a test and see if you are pregnant. Then decide if you want to raise a child or bring a child into the world. Even if your ex boyfriend is around or isn't around, you're still a parent. Figure out what's best for you and go from there.
2006-11-20 20:00:22 · answer #7 · answered by ohmi_mia 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Take the test first, a blood one, and if is positive then for sure you must tell him, every child need a father and he will need to know that will have a baby.
Dont be selfish, if you are pregnant the father and the baby have right to know the excistence of the other.
2006-11-20 20:04:55 · answer #8 · answered by Sortilegio 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well befor you tell him I would decide if I wanted to have a baby. Do you? after you make that big desision you need to call your ex up and tell him and let him know what your doing. Good luck and even if you do decide to have an abortion please dont just say your getting rid of it that sounds mean IM me if you would like to talk some more
2006-11-20 20:01:54 · answer #9 · answered by heidi19852006 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No matter if he has a gf or not, U HAVE TO LET HIM KNOW, u should really sit down with him and talk things over, do it, because its the best thing to do
2006-11-20 21:14:53 · answer #10 · answered by Ely 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋