I have a 2 beautiful daughters with this chick im with that has cheated on me several times in the past. I have been approched by my chicks ex-boyfriend asking me to roll with him to meet up with some other girls that he knows. I know its weird that I know her ex, but that is because she has 3 kids with him too, and she did the same things to him. So with that said, I do feel guilty for wanting to go with him to meet up with some girls, but I dont want this to backfire either, what do you think?
2006-11-20 11:37:10 · 7 answers · asked by ericpomona@verizon.net 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Please, Eric, respect yourself more than this. What if your daughters get together with their siblings and somehow the word gets back to all of them. Is that the kind of role model you want fathers to be or give them the idea that that is how men behave. If you need a woman, find one on your own. I am sorry to be judgmental, but this seems really sleazy to me.
2006-11-20 11:42:35 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi eric,
It will backfire if you do as your friend tells you, and so the honest thing to do is to try and find some way of getting out of the relationship with this woman first because then you won't feel guilty for having done what she has done to you.
Doing the right thing would be to leave her first and then have your freedom but if you stay with her and see other women, then she is going to find out and this will cause a lot of damage to the relationship. You don't know if her ex is wanting you to go along him because he is trying to get her back himself, and he might tell her that you have been with other girls.
I would be very careful of what he might be trying to do because he is probabley unhappy knowing that she is with you and not alone and all by herself. This could be like him getting revenge on her for leaving him and by getting you to go with other girls, will get her to find out and so that she will dump you too.
The only thing you should feel guilty for, is staying with someone who has done to you, what she did to her ex and this is no kind of relationship for you to want to be in at all. If there is no trust, I would try and find some way of ending it with her honestly and not bringing yourself down to her level. This will solve nothing if you go out with her ex to meet other women and will cause more damage than there already is.
You are the father of her two children and that won't change just because you leave her. You will just have to share custody of them even though this isn't what you want. But if you stay with her with the way she seems to be, then you will be very unhappy for a long time to come and you will eventually want to go off and see other women. The best way, is to end this relationship and find a woman who wants to be with you and who isn't wanting to use you.
Your children are going to have very unstable lives if she carries on the way she is because children pick up on things very quickly and they know when something isn't right in a parent's world and the only thing you can do is to look out for them and continue to be a father whether you stay or not. The woman you are with, sounds quite damaged and she isn't taking responsibility for her actions if she is seeing other men.
All I can say to you is, don't fool around with other women just because you are tempted to get back at her. She will probabley dump you, blame you and make you feel guilty for what she herself has done wrong.
Tell your friend that you are going to work your problems out in a different way but you aren't going to cheat on your woman just because she had with you. Set an example to her and tell her exactley how you feel about what she has done and ask her to either work on this and get help if she has a problem with commitment - otherwise you will have no option but to leave.
It is terrible that she has done what she has and I am sure she does feel guilty but cannot say or show it. But a lot of trust has now gone as a result from what she did and she needs to talk to you about why she did what she did and what she intends to do about repairing the relationship with you.
2006-11-20 20:06:42 · answer #2 · answered by Shikira-trudi 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do you have intentions of hooking up with these girls? If so, I wouldn't chance it. Cheating on her doesn't make what she did to you any better.
2006-11-20 19:43:42 · answer #3 · answered by Steph L 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yuck! u should take those 2 kids and run... she's gona keep cheating around like that, and has 3 other kids to take care of!!! that's not cool.....
2006-11-20 19:50:28 · answer #4 · answered by sasmallworld 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't do something that is against her heart.
2006-11-20 19:40:25 · answer #5 · answered by leazngurl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get that woman some birth control!!!!!!
2006-11-20 19:51:53 · answer #6 · answered by Tek ~aka~Legs! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you two should stop screwing your sister.
2006-11-20 20:08:43 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋