My friend's parents are going through a really messy divorce. and i mean REALLY messy. Many times, shes called me, bawling her eyes out, because of various things about her parents divorce. it's really starting to affect her with her school work and her judgement, and just overall as a person. Just last night, she called me up, crying, because her mom told her that she had to choose between her two parents, because, they wont accept each other just for their daughter's sake. I can't just watch my friend go through this, but i really don't know what to tell her, because i've never really been through that sort of thing. What should I say or being doing to help my friend in this situation?
2006-11-20 11:10:40 · 7 answers · asked by iheartmj4ever 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
she shouldn't have to choose between parents it's not fair to her. She should have a talk with each parent and let them know how its affecting her. The parents are the ones that are getting a divorce not her. They will always be her parents no matter what. Of coarse both parents love her so they can value her input. They just need to listen to your friend. Good Luck!
2006-11-20 11:37:23 · answer #1 · answered by vato 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I take it your both under 18?
Please grab your friend and talk together to your school counselor or a trusted teacher about this situation. Emphasize especially how it is making your friend depressed and that she is being forced to choose.
In the US, a Guardian Ad Litem (GAL) is often appointed to look out for the best interests of the child. This is especially important in acrimonious divorces. Ask your school counselors about howyou might get a GAL.
2006-11-20 19:18:16 · answer #2 · answered by booktender 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She should not be caught in the middle. The kids are the ones who suffer the most in a divorce. You need to be supportive of her, talk her into talking with a counselor, possible at school.
She needs to be strong and when asked about which parent, she needs to answer them, " it took both of you to have me and I am not choosing. If you cant be civil to each other when dealing with me, I wont be a part of your game."
She needs lots of support during this time. Be her friend, stand by her.
2006-11-20 19:46:28 · answer #3 · answered by bigmikejones 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This poor child is in a serious mess. You should both go see the schools guidance counselor asap. She needs an adult and someone who is a professional to help her and you can get help with how you can help her. You are already being a true friend by listening , and caring enough to want to do something to help.
2006-11-20 20:54:37 · answer #4 · answered by jenkins_nichole 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This seems to be happening more and more. Her parents are being very selfish. You might could suggest that she tell them--In a nice, non-rebellious way--that they are being selfish and they are tearing her apart by fighting all the time and if that doesn't work then all you can do is just be a friend and listen when she needs someone to talk to.
2006-11-20 20:19:22 · answer #5 · answered by krystal s 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since she obviously can't talk to her parents have her go to the school guidance counselor. The worse thing her parents are doing is telling her to choose between them. They should get counselling too.
2006-11-20 19:15:19 · answer #6 · answered by Penny Mae 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not an easy thing, she needs to go with the parent she wants to be with....take care
2006-11-20 20:35:58 · answer #7 · answered by Bert 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋