he tell's me that i have to find the girl for we can have the 3 some i told him no and he tell me his going to do it with me or with out me and he said that is not cheatting because he is telling me he really want to do this with me but i just can't what can i do to keep him not to do this ? and now he telling me he was kidding but i don't belive him another thing he said it's his fantasy but i think is bull ****!!!!!!!! what would you do or say to a person like this.
2006-11-20 11:07:02 · 34 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Question: "what would you do or say to a person like this?"
Answer: Say "Later loser!"
2006-11-20 11:10:27 · answer #1 · answered by bunny 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
He has no respect for you as a person, I would kick him to the curb. Anyone who has so little respect of you, has none for themselves and basically trying to get you to " set them up" with someone else. Back a long time ago, I was a party animal and got drunk and had a three-some, but all of us were single, drunk and crazy. But I would not expect someone who I am suppose to Love, go thru that, unless she had that fantasy also.
Use common sense, and if he keeps pushing, kick him to the curb. There are people out there who will love you for you, respect you and not demand you do something like this if you don't want too.
2006-11-20 11:12:36 · answer #2 · answered by bigmikejones 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Everybody has fantasy or fantasies. But he should keep them what they are and not to implement them.
3some, group sex is a kind of the open sexual relation. Majorities of people disapprove of open sexual activity. Critics have put forward moral, medical, and psychological objections to open relations. The lack of social acceptance places pressure on couples to hide their open sex from family, friends, and colleagues. This may limit their social support network, resulting in a loss of psychological and physical health benefits. There is no guarantee that you will try and stop it, most likely if both will like it you will repeat experience. If only one will like it what will prevent him to try on his/her own with the remaining spouse suspicious and feeling hurt. Do not open a pandora box.
2006-11-20 12:05:59 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I suppose that he has made his decision and now it is your choice...Do a 3some or break up with him....
You can find a girl and bring her to bed for a 3some with your b/f
or he is going to find two girls and do it without you...
I suggest you find a girl and have a 3some if you want to keep your b/f..I doubt that you will find him and 2 other girls as an acceptable alternative..
Never Ever allow him to invite the girl for a 3some with you...
You always invite the girl , he never contacts her or speaks to her
outside of the bedroom...This is actually a fairly safe event ..
Never Ever have another man in your bed...
This is a relationship killer...
2006-11-20 11:55:30 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think you should just do it... it's something that will bring you closer together. Plus, it will make him love you more and threesome's are famous for lowering women's cortisol levels, meaning, you can even lose weight after having one. In studies, women who participate in regular threesomes have less than half the instances of breast and cervical cancer and commonly live up to 15 years longer than women who don't participate in threeways with another woman. Bottom line, your boyfriend wanted this because he loves you and cares about you.
2006-11-20 12:15:46 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
This is a fantasy all men have just because its his fantasy doesn't mean you have to act on it tell him if he insist on doing this and your not into it GOODBYE you don't need him. If he loves you he will respect you and if insist it was never meant to be
2006-11-20 12:13:26 · answer #6 · answered by twister 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I had a threesome for the wrong reasons and it destroyed one friendship and damaged the other.
I would let this little thing slide by, with the fervent hope that it is never mentioned again
2006-11-20 11:09:15 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
it's a real shortsighted attempt at being manipulative. probably already done it and is looking for a creative way to tell you about it after he gets you to do it. yeah a lot of us have those fantasies, then again maybe more of us don't. but that doesn't necessarily mean that we'd go for it; I'd get to the bottom of it myself personally ..
2006-11-20 11:11:10 · answer #8 · answered by collard greens with hash browns 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
i would be nervous. i could go either way on the threesome thing, but if you have expressed your non-interst, then he should respect that. if he is the guy you would like to be with forever, you do need to stop and think if you proceed with the threesoem...would you ever be able to get out of your head the image of him enjoying being with another girl...i think it would be damaging...
2006-11-20 11:09:41 · answer #9 · answered by shasta 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
play his game tell him you want 2 guys and see what his answer is that will show him if he says no tell you are going to anyway and that is not cheating because you told him then kick him to the curb because he is just thinking of himself
2006-11-20 11:16:11 · answer #10 · answered by Fergie 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
It's simple, Peace dude I love me more than some threesome. Besides after that it's over. He is showing you that he has no respect for you or the relationship. Ask yourself , Am i really that cheap and desperate for a man? NO!!!!!!!!!! MOVE ON.
2006-11-20 11:37:16 · answer #11 · answered by Precious1 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋