HOW do i become cool???

Question

im serious, i aint got many mates at school, i need to be COOL!

I am 13, and i have 3 friends, but i think they only like me because they feel sorry for me.

Answer 1

Punch out a werewolf! That would ROCK.

Answer 2

first, be more outgoing at school. do and say more than you ever thought...expanding from your comfort zone should feel uncomfortable but it means you're growing (hello, growing pains!) but when you're being outgoing, dont be obnoxious or very obvious. Girls like it when a guy can talk to them effortlessly, but in a nice, genuine way as well. Also, try to get involved with whatever you like to do...it doesnt matter if its "dorky" as long as a fair amount of people do it (aka don't join a club with 5 people unless you're gonna do some serious campaigning).....hm ok last but certainly not least don't lose sight of who you are! continue to be yourself no matter what and you'll always be going in the right direction. the moment you ditch yourself (and your friends) for a fakey cool persona is the moment where you will be another wannabe clone, and really, who wants that?

Answer 3

I think it's not so much about being 'cool' but enjoying your time at school! Now if for you to do that you want to fit in, there are several things: Be confident, be yourself, be easy going, be friendly. The first two are particularly tough but can be done: join clubs/societies, you might not fit in at first but the more you do and the more people you meet or get a chance to know better the happier you'll be and therefore the cooler you'll be. Also, if you don't already, then show some sense of style in your clothes, hair etc. & you'll feel great, & again therefore appear cool. People are drawn to happy, confident people, so go for it!!

Answer 4

Nobody is cool, (except Steve McQueen) it is a myth as everyone has insecurities and being cool is having none. The things that make you look cool - essentially fashion - are all smoke and mirrors to fool people, plus they are transient. If that is the route you want to go down follow the advice above, which is what 99% of people do. Otherwise just be yourself and don't compromise, eventually people will think you are cool for who you are, can be a long process though and a difficult one! Actually a combination of both is advisable....

Answer 5

Don't worry about it, being "cool" is just a fad. I live in England and I wasn't the nicest person at school, now I'm 19 and am in full time work, I realise that it was silly!! your just looking at the short term situation, but if you really want advice, then invite your friends to you house more often, don't be embarrassed about your parents, and show them the real you, have confidence!
You'll get through this :-)

Answer 6

Go get a good hair cut. Buy some nice clothes. If you wear glasses, make sure they are a modern style. This might help you attract more people. As far as acting cool, if people don't like you for who you are, then they aren't going to be true friends even if you act "cool." Just be yourself and you should get more friends that way.

Answer 7

My heart goes out to you. Without being nasty to you, make sure that you are clean and tidy, make little changes such as hair style, see what others are into such as console games, films etc.. and if YOU WANT to know more, then look into it.
Try to be more talkative, get involved in an after school club.

I don't know if this would work for you, but I was the same as you, my mum was so worried that every week she would give me a small task, one of those was to talk to a few girls while I was in after school club (dancing), she said to me if it goes wrong, you don't have to go back, but try you very best to talk.... I did, that was 20 years ago and 1 of them still one of my closest friends.

Good luck I hope things get better
P.s As for Mia Colucci comment... GET A LIFE!! you are plain nasty, you probably one of those bullies that most of us simply hate.

Answer 8

If you're not too young to remember Happy Days, think of The Fonz.
He was the epitome of cool.
BUT he didn't hang out with the cool crowd. He WAS the cool crowd. He didn't fit anyone else's expectations, he just did his own thing in his own way and people looked up to him for it.

Short answer:- just be yourself.

Answer 9

when i was 13 i was strange, no really i was, i used to wear black clothes, never had friends (used to get bullied) i was a right old loner, i think it was when i went to see a band play when i was 15, i got a little tipsy and next day at school, i was the one everyone was talking about, the weirdo was cool! yes i was normal but it took me getting drunk to show them, i wasn't into drinking like everyone else so i was called a outcast.
eventually i learned it is cool to be different, do you want to dress, act and look like everyone else? be yourself i bet your a really cool person

Answer 10

just be cool if you are a true kind fun happy caring blah blah good guy with goals and motivation just be you a word of advice to young ones you keep and gain friends better by not trying to be anyone but you, acceptance of others and keeping a open mind and not gossiping and talking smack on others be cool and mean it that's the secret. we learn so much by observation and elimination love all

Answer 11

The quickest and easiest way is to start smoking and break as many school rules as possible. Then act indifferent to any punishment they meter out to you. You will be coolness personified in no time.