We have been married for almost 6 years but have been together for almost 10 years. we used to make Love and have SEX all the time...b4 kids. Now when he wants to do it, i cant seem to want to.im just not feeling it anymiore with him. dont get me wrong, he does tell me he loves me and that im beautiful and brings me flowers and takes care of his family, I just dont know why i just cant anymore. By the time he does arouse me, i REALLY want it. but when we are about to, i just cant or just dont want to. he tells me that i make up too many excuses. at times he thinks that he doesnt turn me on anymore. i dont know...HELP!
2006-11-20 10:56:11 · 13 answers · asked by forever_21 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
depending on your age you 1 could be falling out of love or 2 you have a hormonal imballance go see you ob/gyn
2006-11-20 11:00:21 · answer #1 · answered by Fergie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're tired.
Get some rest. Pamper yourself a little, because sometimes we need to feel more attractive ourselves before we can be attracted to others. Make time for your husband -- alone. Reconnect. Find a babysitter for the weekend and take a mini-vacation with your husband -- even if it's just to a hotel down the street.
And don't worry. It'll get better. Everyone goes through these cycles.
2006-11-20 19:01:17 · answer #2 · answered by some chick 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you might be thinking that you might have more kids as a result of this sex . even if your on the pill or whatever. that might be in the back of your mind. another thing is are you thinking too much like a mom not getting out without the kids being a hot chick if so go out get away from the kids dress hot relax get a baby sitter and then start to date him all over again.
2006-11-20 19:02:12 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He doesnt turn you on anymore. But hey, keep one thing in mind, no matter how much your man loves you and has been faithful to you up to now, if you continue to not have sex with him, he will find it someplace else, and then dont be complaining "ohh, why did my husband cheat on me, or why did he do this to you" you will have nobody to blame but yourself. I mean the guy still does romantic things like tell you you are beautiful and brings you flowers, dont take that for granted. Take some viagra if you have to but dont neglect your man.
2006-11-20 19:01:10 · answer #4 · answered by Yahoo User 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are at the time in a marriage where many marriages end. Change your routines... do something totally out of your norm with him.... do some crazy stuff to mix it up.. you are just bored! Go into the woods and get silly and DO it there... or in the car on some side street at night... start doing this on a regular basis.
2006-11-20 19:00:22 · answer #5 · answered by dragonfly-29 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do something nice for him like he does for you. Be the one to initiate something romantic for a change. People don't have to have sexual intercourse to be connected. After 10 years and with kids, you're at that point. Also, work on giving yourself some attention. It works wonders.
2006-11-20 19:00:48 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if its possible maybe you should go away for the weekend without your kids or even for one night. try and go out for a meal together, kids do put a strain on relationships as you never seem to have time for eachother or when you do your always tired.
2006-11-20 19:05:02 · answer #7 · answered by Lifes*Peachy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
take a break from sex. try to reconnect with him. whether its going out to dates or spending more time together.. think about what attracted you to him in the first place and why you fell in love with him.. maybe if you both reconnect emotionally then you will reconnect physically.
2006-11-20 19:01:00 · answer #8 · answered by truth hurts 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you dont find any men arousing or just him? how bout trying to get out and having an affair
2006-11-20 19:06:31 · answer #9 · answered by good guy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get a physical and bloodwork to see if it is something medical, if it is not seek counseling, there is something affecting your s.e.x. drive and you have to find out what it is, but in both of these involve your husband so he realizes it is a real issue and you are trying.
2006-11-20 19:03:49 · answer #10 · answered by dancerchicklatina 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋