my question is... i want a baby so bad, financially its not a good idea, not to mention i am getting older, and my son is older.... do i keep the dream alive? or let it go?
2006-11-20 10:32:22 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
How does your husband feel about another child? Remember all the things that go along with another child.First and foremost Child-Birth,then you have daycare issues. Then most of your freedom will be gone...Don't forget about having to have car-seats,strollers,and baby bags and diapers,the price of things aren't like they were when your son was a baby.When was the last time you took a look at someone who had more than one child and they were spaced like your children could be.Be very thankful for your family that you have now....I want to just let you know that's exactly what I did.And even though I love my children I wish I had known then what I know now.Did you ever think about adopting,there are lots of children that need a great parents like you and your husband.I hope this helps you!
2006-11-20 10:46:41 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all, I have to ask- what does your husband think? Having a baby is a big decision that requires two people to want the same thing. If he really doesn't want to have a baby, but you push him into it because you want one so bad, you could end up jeopardizing your marriage. If you both are on the same page and want a baby together, and finances are all that is preventing you for going ahead with it, I say go for it!! Like you said, you aren't really getting any younger (no offense) and after age 35, the percentage of naturally conceived children drops off dramatically, not to mention you would be opening yourself up to risks like Down's Syndrome and birth defects if you wait any longer. Also, I would assume you weren't doing that well financially when you had your first baby (because not many people are rich when they're 23), and I'm sure you're really glad that you have your 12-year-old "baby" from that pregnancy. My point is, nobody's ever all-the-way "ready" for a baby, but what they give back to you is priceless!!! Good luck to all of you.
2006-11-20 10:38:39 · answer #2 · answered by fizzygurrl1980 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry, but I would let it go. I am not saying that because I don't want someone to have a baby that really wants one, but just imagine the financial security you will have in only 6 years once your son graduates. You will regret it; I have friends who accidentally did this, and they were financially ready. They did not really even raise the last child; they just let him do whatever he wanted because they were too tired to do anything about it. Imagine where you will be in your mid 50s with no real end in my sight if you decide to have this child. I would not do it if I were you. You could be a 41 and free, if you listen to me.
2006-11-20 10:41:27 · answer #3 · answered by sweetie pie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What does your husband think of the idea? You are still young enough to have and raise a child. Your son may be pleased to have a younger sibling. He had the advantage of being raised as an only child, and a new baby would almost be an only child since your son would be grown and out of the house before the baby started school.
2006-11-20 10:36:40 · answer #4 · answered by physandchemteach 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are still young once you get into your 40,s then you should get nervous start planning now and do what makes you happy as long as it does not financially drain you guys he or you can always get a part time job to help with a new little one
2006-11-20 10:38:58 · answer #5 · answered by Fergie 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
have you and your husband talked about? I mean financially no one is every really ready and has enough money,but your biological clock is ticking,I would say go for it now while you are still young .try to save a little extra from every paycheck and put in a new baby fund for diapers ect. Good Luck!!!
2006-11-20 10:45:29 · answer #6 · answered by Dew 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Keep it alive. My mother had a baby at 38 there is hope I tell you but if you cant afford it then that is whole different story.
Have fun making the baby in the mean time!
2006-11-20 10:38:23 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't know many siblibings who get a say in wether or not they want another sibling. My oldest and youngest are 11 years apart and there is not a problem.
Work out your finances and have another child.
But by all means, if you can't afford too, then don't do it!
2006-11-20 10:41:25 · answer #8 · answered by clickityclack 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Keep the dream alive, but wait until more secure. You still have time.
2006-11-20 10:35:00 · answer #9 · answered by rustybones 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If it is meant to be it will happen. I wouldn't give up on your dreams.
2006-11-20 10:34:47 · answer #10 · answered by ♥just me♥ 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋