It could be 2 years or 15 years or even 30 years...they just seem to lose it and go to them..Why?
2006-11-20 10:31:32 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
my wife ran back after 30 years after he contacted out of the blue
2006-11-20 10:38:02 · update #1
she got pregnant by him and aborted...she never complained...now...a differrent story
2006-11-20 10:40:06 · update #2
not all woman do that. just the stupid ones
2006-11-20 12:49:52 · answer #1 · answered by krystal s 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the reason alot of women claim to have never gotten over their first love is because they romanticize it. Years after, even if the man was a jerk, they don't seem to remember that part. I am speaking from experience. My first "love" at 15 was ...It was a short fling that touched me forever...I thought of him often over the years and each time he was better looking, nicer, sweeter. I just continued to build him up in my mind over the years. fast forward 17 years to get to my point. I am currently divorcing my "first love" After being back together for 5 years I have had to face reality. He is not and probably never was the man I had in my head all these years. The point I am trying to make is that maybe your wife had done something similar to what I did. Built him up in her mind. I do not condone her actions ...but she'll most likely be on the losing end anyway and your done with a person who seems to not care very much about her vows. I know I rambled but I hope I helped a bit! Good Luck and keep your chin up!
2006-11-20 19:00:28 · answer #2 · answered by MrsA 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It all depends on the relationship they had together. if it was a good relationship and it ended because of a problem that was silly, it just feels wrong to have ended and never trully found out what really could have happen. Then again, you have those relationships that ended, becasuse of sex, and those may want to go back because they can't get some anywhere esle. At least that my opinion. The one i think gets me, is if you broke up with them because you didn't really know if you love him, and then you wonder did i do the right thing and you keep questioning yourself and then you want to go back just to see what happens.
2006-11-20 18:44:01 · answer #3 · answered by lilipefer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am totally over my "1st love" he was an a** to me and I was with him for 9 years and I went through some rough times but I have met the most wonderful man and I would not go back to my old love again. EVER!
2006-11-20 18:33:42 · answer #4 · answered by Free & Sassy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Personally, I would never go back to my first love...now my second REAL love is another story, but even with him, I learned my lesson, the hard way....hey at least I learned! I would NEVER go back to either of them, yet I find now that I can never really open up to anyone like I did either of them again....does that make me cynical? I'm sorry, but those who go back, I just don't understand as the past always comes back to haunt!
Sorry I couldn't answer maybe the way you'd have liked me to....
2006-11-20 18:36:05 · answer #5 · answered by oracle1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry, but not true. I still know my "first love." Didn't have any of the feelings when I saw him again and when I see him these days, not a pang or a twinge.
I was 15 when I "loved" him. What the heck did I know at 15 about love?
2006-11-20 18:33:55 · answer #6 · answered by misskate12001 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well I think some women may get over them but alot still hold a little feelings for there first love...as women we are for the most part very sentimental and loving...I still hold feelings for my first love but I dont think I would just drop my life and go back to him if he came knocking at my door...but i would be happy to see him
2006-11-20 18:38:32 · answer #7 · answered by Miss Dilemma 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My wife would like to come face to face with her first love to kill him. He got her pregnant and then ran away. She has raised a wonderful daughter for 17 years now and he has never even met her.
2006-11-20 18:33:19 · answer #8 · answered by It's Me 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It has been a long time since I have loved my first love, but no matter the amount of time it has been, I still and will always care for him. It was four years of building memories, I can't just forget about it like that.
2006-11-20 18:45:13 · answer #9 · answered by sassysouthernbell9900 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not even quite sure who my "first love" was; I've been in love/infatuated/head over heels many times - and I assure you, I have "gotten over" every one of them. Makes for fun memories, but that's about it. Sounds like the woman you're talking about is just very immature.
2006-11-20 18:38:25 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't necessarily believe that its only women that do this. Most people in serious relationships will eventually go back to their exes in search of a reconcilliation. I believe this to be a fact because once they try a new relationship out and it fails, they feel upset and want to be comforted and reassured that there is something out there for them. So people will run to their exes in search of that familiar comfortable feeling. Its just a fact of life.
2006-11-20 18:34:10 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋