my friend was gang raped by a bunch of black guys now she fears them and does not really like them. Even though i'm black she does not want me hanging around them. are her actions justifiable? she's my friend and i like her a lot. But i don't blame her for her prejudice. what should i do?
2006-11-20 10:28:52 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Other - Cultures & Groups
It is easy to understand fear.. Rape is a horrendous crime and I hope the culprits meet a painful death preceded by prolonged suffering. That being said, it is not reasonable for her to ask you not to be around Black men, particularly since you are Black and most likely have relatives and friends who are Black males. She will need to seek professional help to begin to heal from her trauma. Tell her you are there for her, but at the same time Black men, who are NOT rapists or criminals are a part of your life and you cannot forsake or indite them for something they had no part of.
2006-11-20 10:49:19 · answer #1 · answered by ValleyViolet 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-28 07:09:27 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OF COURSE!@!!!!
why would you wanna hang out with rapist or even someone who hurt your friend like that???
Do you even value this person?????
If you mean black men in general! No she is wrong!!!!
Obviously, no offense, but she is not as non-predudiced as you may think. It sounds like she may have had these prejudices before. Sorry for saying.
But then maybe she just needs time. She might be uncomfortable around any similarities. It could go either way.
2006-11-20 10:41:00 · answer #3 · answered by Shea Butta 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
hello just be her friend the best that you can. it hard when you been tho something like rap. it something one never forgets. but there is help. ask your friend to see someone who qualified in rap vixtems to take with. maybe when you two are doing something to geather intill she ready to move on stay way from the men. it hard thing to deal with. but it is understandble also. but intill she ready too see that not all black men are the same it will be hard for her, so just keep being a friend too her.
2006-11-20 10:40:56 · answer #4 · answered by sherri b 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its absolutly justifiable, just the same as if a black woman was beat up by white guys she would justifiably want to be armed around white men.
you need to be there to help her get over it, it will take time
2006-11-20 10:31:57 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
whhhy would you want to hang out with some guys who are rapists anyway....i wouldn't hang out with them either
if you are talking about staying away from black people period...then she probably just needs some time, but help her realize thhey aren't all like that
2006-11-20 10:31:56 · answer #6 · answered by karamel 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think she is just looking out for you. She doesn't want nothing to happen to you like what happened to her. She loves you dearly as a friend and she wants to remain friends with you. She is just being protective of you. that's all
2006-11-20 13:37:43 · answer #7 · answered by hotblacanesemama 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
she needs to remember that just because your black doesn't mean you are bad, i mean tell her to think about it just because she got raped by some doesn't mean they are all bad i mean would she be thinking this way if they were white or Mexican??
2006-11-20 10:37:53 · answer #8 · answered by lucky_balla69 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your friend needs therapy, time, patience, understanding, love, and prayers...
2006-11-20 10:57:40 · answer #9 · answered by spike missing debra m 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋