2006-11-20 10:25:58 · 31 answers · asked by Silva 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Statistics show that living together prior to getting married actually increases the odds of getting divorced later. Sounds counter-intuitive but that's what the numbers say.
2006-11-20 10:29:08 · answer #1 · answered by Cybeq 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You HAVE to live together, before any serious commitment.
Once you are married, that's it.
No more going on a date and then him dropping you off and you having your personal space.
You are going to live with this person, the rest of your life.
Share the bed, the bathroom, eat together every day and most important, living with each others habits.
If you don't live together first, you might get married and then within a week you cant stand each others living habits and then the relationship is ruined.
I understand other peoples reasons for saying you dont have to, but everyone that i know that has got married before seeing what it is like to live together has broken up.
Everything was great because they had only seen the happy and organised person.
They got married and realised they had to bring 2 completely different lifestyles together.
Having to change your whole lifestyle to suit someone else doesn't exactly work for everyone.
My point is, Marriage is a serious and permanent commitment.
It would be a shame to blow a happy relationship all because disagreeable living habits.
2006-11-20 19:57:27 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Definetly not...It is just away to be together a good part of the time...Being married usually changes things,sometimes for the worse...But mostly for the best...I don't put to much validity into living together as a trial run...you are either going to get married or your not...If there are no plans to get married then living together is good in the event you break up (no divorce)...If there are plans to get married and you are living together,then why wait to get married,just do it...Hope that helps...Good luck
2006-11-20 18:47:23 · answer #3 · answered by Frank D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello lady! :)
Okay here it is. Things always change when you get married. You could live with the guys for years and still have new personality issues come up after marriage. If you love him, marry him. Trust me, living together will not answer your real question. Is this going to last forever?
The only way to make this last forever is to not give yourself an easy out when things get tough. Say I do first, then let him carry you across the threshold. I wish you the best and God bless.
2006-11-20 18:33:12 · answer #4 · answered by ME 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I know i'm a minority now but I believe in the old fashioned way of life. I refuse to live with anyone before marriage. Part of that is also that I've lived with people before and I see no benefit. I think we learn to just hate that other person instead of love them more because we know we can get rid of them. I'm never gonna get rid of my husband so I'd rather find out about all his silly quarks because we're married and in the same house than just be living together.
2006-11-20 18:30:55 · answer #5 · answered by Dr. Kat 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Not at all. Living together isn't marriage. It also isn't some kind of practice. It's just playing house, and doesn't solve any marital problem, or uncertainty. It's usually just a way to get to screw as much as you want, and not have to drive home late at night. I actually find the idea rather silly. Why JUST a trial marriage? Why not work a job for a few months or years before the employer decides if they really want to pay the worker? Or wear clothes for a few months before deciding if you want to pay for them? Order, and eat a meal- then wait a few days to decide if you actually want to pay for it. How about driving a car for 6-12 months before deciding if you want to buy it?
2006-11-20 19:06:14 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's actually counterproductive according to studies. Most of them show that couples who live together end up getting divorced more frequently than those who live together after marriage. This is mostly due to a comfort of knowing u can just leave if you break up when not married versus "being stuck" after you're married. If you're married then move in together, you don't know any better and therefore try harder to work it out. I hope this makes sense.
2006-11-20 18:29:43 · answer #7 · answered by odieman42 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
every man is a psychologist. so many things come to a man;s mind when he wants to get married. most men dont like ladies who try to impose themselves on them. if a man doesnt want to marry you even if you like live with him for 20 years he will never marry you. you dont neccessarily need to live together to know if you could get married. simple chat, going to restaurant together etc will tell you if you could get married. infant when you together before marriage you loose your respect as an individual. living together wouldnt make any difference as human beings pretend a lot. any body can hide the bad side of them for more than 2 years. be wise
2006-11-20 18:47:27 · answer #8 · answered by favourprosperity 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think it's a "necessary" practice. In my case, it happened naturally - I ended up practically living at my then-boyfriend's house while paying rent at my own place for several months, before moving in with him "officially". We got married about a year later. I think, it's a personal choice of every couple - depending on what "feels right" to them.
2006-11-20 18:34:53 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
No I don't. Living together does not guarantee a better chance of things working out. My theory on this is that if a person needs that reassurance, they probably are more likely to bail out of the marriage when it gets rough.
The secret is good communication and both of you being truly committed to one another.
Sex is the wonderful dessert in a relationship, not the main ingredient.
2006-11-20 18:58:10 · answer #10 · answered by Searcher 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋