Im a big guy i am stocky and a bit chubby too i dress well and im very clean and i wear good aftershave! i say this cause some people think big and think unclean dont know why.
i like this girl at work but i dont want to aim to high you know the way you see the dork at school lookin way out of his reach.
I just want to know if thin girls and most women can find big guys attractive or if its just a small group of women who have just settled for second best?
2006-11-20 10:17:31 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
not all the women like big guys some prefer the skinny ones
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2006-11-20 10:19:30 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm a thin athletic girl and my partner is 6foot 7 and 150kg. He dresses well all the time, smells great, grooms well and when he walks into a room, people naturally go over to talk to him. He is always having people he doesnt know saying hello to him in the mall or at airports and gets treated in stores and shops as if he is the most important person in the world. Makes me feel good too. He is gentle, funny, very very sexy and highly motivated and driven, so its all about personality. Girls approach him if he is on his own in a bar, but what I love most is I feel safe when we are out together, no one ever hits on me when we are out, which is a relief. hehehe. So yeah... big guys can be hot! I never see him as fat, and he certainly doesnt think he's second best.
2006-11-22 11:26:46 · answer #2 · answered by Tinkabell 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some good replies here but some are way wrong! Especially Paulo! Believe me Paulo girls dont only especially like guys between 5'5 to 5'9!!! 5'9 would be way too short for me! and 5'5 is like a diddy-man!
My husband is 6'4 and very big (big tummy especially) and is absolutely gorgeous and sexy.
People take other people at their own valuation of themselves, so if you think you are a nice guy then so will she! That doesnt mean she will necessarily want to go out with you, but until you ask her you won't know.
Good luck, and if she refuses just be nice and accept it. After all you will see her at work and dont want things to get awkward.
2006-11-20 18:41:00 · answer #3 · answered by Caroline 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most people subconciously tend to find people that look a little like themselves the best match. Think of the successful couples you know - relatives etc. e.g. tall, dark people go for other tall dark people etc. Some couples look so alike they could be siblings. If you're larger than average build, then a lot of girls who are larger than average build themselves are likely to find you particularly attractive - but plenty of skinny ones will too. Skinny men can seem effeminate to a lot of girls. I think most girls would prefer someone to be a bit hunkier than average rather than a bit smaller. Do not think of yourself as second best. If you like someone, go for it. If you get a knock back then just shrug it off and don't take it to heart. Absolutely everyone get's knocked back at some time.
2006-11-20 10:33:33 · answer #4 · answered by goulash 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't thing big=unclean. For me the reason why I'm not attracted to big people is because I think big=lazy. *I'm not saying you're lazy) I'm an active person concerned about my heath, and I'd like a partner who is motivated enough to care about his health too. I know not all big people are big because of diet, a very very very tiny percentage are big due to illness. However, I like a person who can keep up with my active lifestyle, and most big people couldn't. Perhaps you should look into a weight loss and lifestyle modification course, once you feel better about yourself, how can she help but like you?
2006-11-20 10:27:50 · answer #5 · answered by kherome 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No such thing as big men being second best. They are and always have been my preference. I'm 5"6" and weigh 126 lbs. I've never been with a thin man and wouldn't want one. Need something to hold on to! Dont sell yourself short. Aim high ! For me, bigger is better.
2006-11-24 08:54:30 · answer #6 · answered by justcurious 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmmm, second best? Shame on you. If you feel that way about yourself, why would anyone want to date you? I'm big, but I'm far from second best. And this woman that you like at work? Why do you like her, is it because she's thin and pretty? Or is it because of her personality? For the same reasons you like women, it is that women like men. don't expect more than you're willing to give. make sense?
2006-11-20 10:21:24 · answer #7 · answered by sassybree1979 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am biggish but being taller helps hide it. I liked this girl in my class for ages and couldnt ask her out, i am a quiet guy too so it was harder, but at the end of the year I found out she had liked me but by the time i knew that there was only a week of school left and she was moving after that year. I did ask her out but for some reason she didnt want to go out - maybe coz there wasnt much time left. It sucked coz once i found out that she had liked me i regretted not asking her out earlier. If the girl at work shows some interest i you try asking her out, coz u might regret it if you dont. If she does like you it shouldnt matter what you look like. There is this american program called average joe where there is a hot, skinny woman and she goes on a show that is like the bachelor but its with average guys - skinny,nerdy, big... but she is able to like them for who they are and not what they look like. Maybe try talking to her and getting to know her a bit before you ask her out. Good luck - sorry this was long
2006-11-20 10:29:56 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hell yeah its how you see your self if you see yourself as fine and confident. If you know you look good, they will know it too from your vibe. Think about the big sexy men you know. There is nothing us women hate more than a big frumpy shy man. I hate it. Gain some confidence and believe me that will make a difference.Even if you think you can never be confident. Just say it and your mind will force you to believe it.
2006-11-20 10:22:35 · answer #9 · answered by maqwa2002 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think its just the same as how women think that all men like a particular type of woman. I like big cuddly men and I know a lot of other women who do. Go for it, why should she be out of reach, you sound like you need more confidence in yourself.
2006-11-20 10:23:56 · answer #10 · answered by crissylizb06 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I love bigger men, makes them better to hug. Also that bit of something to hang on to is a real turn on for me. Don't be self conscious about your size. Be confident ask this girl if she would like to go for a drink, if she yes hey great. If she says no then at least you no & it probably won't be because of your size
2006-11-20 10:28:14 · answer #11 · answered by broken 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋