This is for my friend cuz my parents arn't divorced. Anyways, my friend Kalea, she is 13 years old and in the 8th grade. Her parents are divorced. And her mom has a boyfriend (not her first). Her mom is over at her boyfriends ALL the time too. And Kaela is always home alone. Sometimes her mom MAKES her come with her almost every weekend. Kaela doesn't want to go over there either. Kaela likes her mom's boyfriend but, she doesnt want to be over there or her mom all the time. She has talked to her mom about it too. What should she do?
2006-11-20 09:52:20 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
Well Kaela and her mom do have an open relationship. Kaela lives in Michigan and her real father lives in LA. She sees in a couple of times a year. Whenever she's supposed to go to her mom's boyfriend's house and she doesn't want to go, I invite her to spend the night but, her mom just says no, you need to come.
2006-11-20 10:11:48 · update #1
TELL UR FRIEND SHE NEEDS TO SERIOUSLY TALK ABOUT THIS WITH HER MOM... HER MOM HAS TO BE MORE MOM THAN A WOMAN...YOUR FRIEND IS STILL YOUNG SHE IS GROWING UP....AND SHE IS IN A VERY DANGEROUS AGE...HER MOM NEEDS TO BE THERE FOR HER OF COURSE UR FRIEND HAS TO GO WITH HER SOMETIME BUT THE MOM NEEDS TO PAY MORE ATTENTION ON HER DAUGHTER. SHE CAN'T JUST LEAVE WITH HER BF AND LEAVE THE KAELA ALONE!! SHE IS VERY VULNERABLE AT THIS AGE AND IT COULD CAUSE THAT SHE DECIDES TO MAKE THE WRONG CHOICE (DRUGS, SEX OR PREGNANCY)...AND PLEASE BE A GOOD FRIEND AND SINCE U HAVE UR MOM & DAD TOGETHER TEACH HER THE MORALS & VALUES UR PARENTS TEACH YOU SO THAT SHE STAYS OUT OF TROUBLE CUZ BY THE SOUND OF THIS KAELA DOESN'T HAVE A ROLE MODEL TO FOLLOW. IT HAPPENED TO ME ...MY MOM & DAD SEPARATED MY MOM WOULDN'T PUT MUCH ATTENTION TO US... AT FIRST IT WAS FUN FOR ME CUZ I GOT TO DO WHATEVER I WANTED...BUT..I ENDED UP LEAVING WITH AN OLDER GUY, GETTIN PREGNANT @ 17TH ...AND PHYSICALLY, MENTAL AND SEXUAL ABUSED!!! AND LIKE ME THERE ARE A LOT OF GIRLS OUT THERE ... TELL KAELA THAT WHATEVER HER MOM DOES OR DOESN'T ALWAYS THINK B4 GETTIN IN TROUBLE...gOOD lUCK!
2006-11-20 10:16:45 · answer #1 · answered by babygirlxx68 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well she should try to talk with her mom about the situation but over all her mom has the say so. Have her express how she feels and hopefully her mom wont be so clouded but her bf that she will actually take her daughters feeling in to consideration. If anything, maybe they can come to an agreement to compermise.
2006-11-20 10:05:55 · answer #2 · answered by goober 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My mother did the same thing too. Except, she usually had her boyfriend come to MY house. (My mother doesn't even completely own the house, my dad half owns it, even though they're divorced and he lives in another house) Now she's married to that man. What did I do? Nothing. And guess what? I hated it, and my mother was mean and hit me all the time. It's usually just best to go with the flow, it'll cause less trouble.
2006-11-20 10:22:05 · answer #3 · answered by Supernova 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just tell her how she feels her mom wont judge her and her mom will put her daughter before her boyfriends. she should start a conversation and just tell her how she feels bc she should be able to be comfortable talking to her and have an open relationship where she doesn't have to conceal her feelings
2006-11-20 09:55:17 · answer #4 · answered by Kate 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she should calmly explain to her mother that she doesn't like having her life handled this way, that she has schoolwork, friends, etc, and possibly compromise? an every other weekend type deal? And the boyfriend coming over to her mothers?
2006-11-20 10:19:26 · answer #5 · answered by make me ache 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well maybe you can inviter her to spend the night at your house instead of her going with her mom all the time or maybe she can stay with her dad if he dont live far way
2006-11-20 09:56:42 · answer #6 · answered by Candy L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the only thing i can think of is try to tell her mom that she doesn't want to spend all of her time with her, my parents are divorced and my moms really clingy and wants me to always spend time with her
2006-11-20 09:54:33 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
listen please just tell your freind to talk to her mom and say in a clam vocie i dont want to do this im sorry i like him in all but i dont want to be with you while you are on him i have a father i loved him or something like that and you now matter how hard you can try can replace him. hope that is helpful.
2006-11-20 09:54:44 · answer #8 · answered by scenekid13542 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she has no choice she must do what her Mom wants. But she can ask to spend more time at your house.
2006-11-20 09:54:50 · answer #9 · answered by blank 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she should tell her mom that she would rather stay home or go hang out with a friend
2006-11-20 12:37:35 · answer #10 · answered by jordanthegrouch 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋