can someone give me advise on how to deal with him, i'm at my wits end with him, he does not act up at school, but at home is so moody he attitude can change so fast. I love him and I am raising him by myself. any advice would be appreciated.
2006-11-20 09:45:00 · 17 answers · asked by auntkacki 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
Pray! Prayer is very powerful. I know how you feel. All you can do is talk with him but don't yell. They tune us out completely if we yell. Plus it's draining on our part to yell. I'm reading "Power of a Praying Parent" by stormie omartian. It's very good and I have alot of peace which I didn't before.
I pray the best for you & your son.
God Bless!
2006-11-20 09:51:01 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 4⤋
Ask him if there's something wrong. He may say no, but that you asked shows a lot. Does he have extra currics? Or go out after school? Does he see any rules or punishments as unreasonable? Have an open conversation about it, if that's so, hear him out, and meet in the middle. My mother and I improved our relationship once she realized that just because I was seventeen didn't mean I needed to be treated like one (granted, I graduated early, have had some college and am working full time). But therein lies the point, every person is different, and needs different boundaries.
Good luck
2006-11-20 18:23:20 · answer #2 · answered by make me ache 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Did you ever spank him as a child? Not saying to spank him now, but not spanking him as a child and not having a male role model around may be the problem. He's not doing bad in school, so it's something at home he's not happy with. Did you try to talk with him calmly to see what's wrong? As a child without a father figure around, I too was also moody. That may be the problem. He just craves that male bonding in his life. If he's just moody, that's really not a bad thing. It may be for you and very hard to deal with but, just sit down with him and calmly find out what is bothering him. Start off talking about things he likes just to relax him mind, then slowly ease into why he's 'not been himself lately.' Good Luck
2006-11-20 17:53:22 · answer #3 · answered by DJ 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I have a 16 year old son and believe me THEY ALL GET MOODY! I know I did when I was a teen many many MANY years ago! lol Their brains are not even fully developed yet! They have soooo many pressures on them-even more than when we were younger! Its tough being a teen and the only thing u can do is let him know how much he is loved. When my son gets too lippy I take away his computer-tv-games systems for a few days and THEN if he does it again he loses it for a week! It only took him about 2 times to realize he just better mouth off into his pillow than to me! lol Good luck to u!
2006-11-20 21:37:16 · answer #4 · answered by cstinkerbell6969 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'm a teen (18) myself and have a 14 year old brother who my parents look after most of the time, his mood changes so fast like you discribed and i often have him come to me as he feels he can't talk to my parents about it he is depressed and thats why his moody my brother is GREAT at school his getting A's and stuff close to that but on the inside he hurts because of what people say at school. maybe that could b it?
2006-11-20 20:58:23 · answer #5 · answered by mommy2b 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
dear mother, i understand ure situation cos i had also created some problems to my mom earlier but now my mom is the happiest women in the earth, growing up a child completely depends upon a mother and if left like that, his life may be in danger in future, i would really request u to talk to me personally, cos i have seen many moms worrying about it, and also changed his son completely. pls pray for him, ure life condition must be very high for him to accept ure thoughts..
2006-11-21 00:57:05 · answer #6 · answered by Creative zest 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
its just that teenage phase where they've explored the world that they can reach and now they are challenging your authority. its just that teenage phase. he's just going through the hormone phase..probably going through some awkward changes and is just taking it out on you because your at home and there..thats all..i'tll pass. just keep your foot down and still set the boundries that need to be set. if not then take it a step foward. it'll blow over
2006-11-20 18:38:00 · answer #7 · answered by stefanie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
boys are very hard to deal with at 15 he doesnt act up at school because he may be afraid to show his *** at school because he wants people to see the good boy not the one you deal with at home for all those people who comment you and say it because there is no man at home is full of **** a women can raise a boy just as good as a man can so try talking to him see whats bugging him maybe its puberty but who knows well good luck and hope everything works out for you
2006-11-20 17:52:02 · answer #8 · answered by chunkybooty20 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
leave him alone and i dont want to be mean but get used toi it. hes a teenager there going to do it., im 17 and io did the same thing since i was 13 i never act up at school but im always a pain in my mom ***.. i domnt mean to she just ggets on my nerves especially when im tired and she thinks she knows everythng but she just dosent and i could even prove it to you.
2006-11-20 20:54:25 · answer #9 · answered by ♥[[Mia]]♥ 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sho him dicipline. Smack him in the mouth the next time he talks back to you. You need to beat his ***. He is not to talk to you like you are some kid at school. Thats what my parents do for me and I am 15. I respect them and still love them. It's called tuff love. Don't get sad if he say's he hates you. He is just mad and in the moment. Smack his mouth and send him to is room. If he is into video games take them away. He is not to treat you like ****. You are his mother and he will respect. You are not here to win a popularity contest as my mom always puts it. You are here to raise a good kid so that he grows up to be a respectible man. Plese E-mail me you responce at always_shoot@yahoo.co.uk
2006-11-20 18:09:52 · answer #10 · answered by Danger Dave 1 · 0⤊ 3⤋