2006-11-20 09:41:27 · 17 answers · asked by KITTEN 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
why do they have to know??? She is an ex. the son is ok, but she is not important in his life anymore!!!
2006-11-20 09:43:16 · answer #1 · answered by -------- 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only way this should be a red flag is if the X wife is not an X. You just got engaged there is time for the son to find out and really it is not the X wifes business, unless she is not an X. If you are unsure the best thing to do is sit down with your guy and ask him if he intends to let his previous family in on your plans. If this is the man you plan on being with, it shouldn't be a problem
2006-11-20 17:52:17 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the red flag is the ex-wife and son.
2006-11-20 17:42:30 · answer #3 · answered by TB 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How long ago did you get engaged? Maybe he is giving it time, more than likely for his son. If he hasn't told them in a few months, then ask him why. It may not be a red flag, just cautionary reasons. Unless he still has feelings for her, and doesn't want to hurt her. But anyhow, congrats! :)
2006-11-20 17:45:24 · answer #4 · answered by metallicachic82 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He doesn't owe his ex wife an explanation of what he does in his personal life nor does he have to report to her about anything. He may not of told his son becuse the son would of blabbed and the ex right away wants to start trouble.
2006-11-20 18:15:01 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
not neccessarily... if it was just and x-wife i'd say yes... but having to tell his son has got to be hard. I'm sure he's just trying to come up with a good way to break the news... You have to be patient... especially this child is now going to be in your life too... be supportive. He asked you to marry him after all... clearly you know where his heart lies.
2006-11-20 18:10:21 · answer #6 · answered by astoriamommy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope! X-wives are only a necessary evil to talk to. I won't talk to her even if my kids beg me to. Can't stand her, can't stomach her, don't have to! She is H-I-S-T-O-R-Y! However, as with the regards to the kid.... You don't have to ask permission, but it would be nice to inform him before the big day. If the son is in the terrible teens, the closer to the big day the better! Next question... do you invite the x and son? What a can-o-worms!
2006-11-20 17:53:16 · answer #7 · answered by delux_version 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband didn't tell his ex and son I was pregnant (got pregnant before we were married) until way after we got married. I worried too but it was because he was hoping to avoid conflict with her. She's a little off her rocker. We've been married 3 years and everythings fine.
2006-11-20 17:50:55 · answer #8 · answered by kiss me 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes and No, ex's with children are a real tricky area, you need to ask him his reasons, hes engaged to you so he must love you.
If it was me Id freak but thats me but then again, he may think his ex will freak too so he;s playing it safe, he may also think that its nothing to do with her.
Good luck.x
2006-11-20 17:44:21 · answer #9 · answered by pixilated 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he really loves you he would want the whole world to know, and that includes his wife and son... or maybe he just don't want to hurt his ex who is still in love with him..
2006-11-20 17:50:07 · answer #10 · answered by nins 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋