Why do people act differently when they are around people than when they are by themselves?

Question

I want a detailed explanation...

Answer 1

Many reasons:
1. People treat themselves and other people differently, with different levels of consideration.
2. Willingness to conform. People conform not just to hide their insecurities, but acting like the people you're with helps them feel more comfortable too. Plus it makes you more understandable and relatable to the people you're with. A lot of people talk differently with one group of friends then with another group, because if they were to act the same both times, it might come across wrong or be misinterpreted.
3. Talk: Most people are more talkative around others, unless they really like talking to themselves! The process of talking causes certain areas of your brain to activate.
4. Etiquette. For example I don't mind burping out loud when I'm alone, but in front of other people it wouldn't be acceptable. I guess it's sort of another form of conformity.
5. Selfishness/service. Some people want to please other people, so they act in a way to get the other person to feel good. Some people want to feel good at the expense of others if necessary, so they take advantage of other people's presence. You can't really do that when by yourself, because then you'd be hurting yourself just as much as helping yourself.

Answer 2

Unfortunately, in our society people that are rich or pretty or are have too much of something are looked up to... and everyone wants to be looked up to... to get some attention. I see this mostly in High School. All the girls want to be like the Most Popular Girl. They all want to have what she has. Beauty, Money... then they all start acting like her, instead of themselves, because they don't think that being themselves is enough. This is because they have insecurities, fears... that they want no one to see.

Answer 3

Pretense is the word. Man in the generic sense (including woman) is adept and every situation he goes thru, he tries to make it favorable to him for the reason that deep within him is the feeling of insecurity, a sense of inferiority and the awareness of his own potential which would render him "lesser" in all ways. Such behavior of man is not something new and could be dated as early as the beginning of man. Surprisingly, he has never ever portrayed himself "lesser" than what he actually is, throughout.

Answer 4

how are you able to tell what they're performing like while they're by utilising themselves while you're actually not there? i'd say maximum persons communicate out loud while they're with human beings, and that they may be greater curious while with human beings, because of the fact they're having conversations and exploring techniques extremely of only having a pipe dream, working or doing quiet issues at residing house.

Answer 5

If they are by themselves, how do you know they act differently?

Some people are inhibited in front of others and these will act
differently when alone. Self does not inhibit self.

I don't believe in long dissertations for simple questions. Economy
of words is most important.

Answer 6

This is nothing detailed about it Honey. If they r by themselves then who do they have to impress? That's why they act different when they r with others.

Answer 7

because we influence each other, and communicate with each other.

i mean, this is a pretty obvious question. you might as well ask "why do people act different when they are underwater VS above water?" people RESPOND to outside stimulus. it's what we do.

when there is nobody around, we have nothing to react to, except what we sense, and what we think/feel inside. when others are around, we experience stimulus from them, whether it's visual, olfactory, or auditory, and we respond to that.

obviously, when i'm sitting alone somewhere, i dont speak, because there is nobody to speak to. when people are around, i become more receptive and aware, because i want to be aware of the actions of these other people. if i feel the desire, i'll speak to them.

Answer 8

Why'd you ask your question 3 times.....you REALLY want an answer don't you!! LOL.

Okay.....most people are insecure of how they really are. If they've been nurtured to be themselves most of their lives since they were young then they will become bold and outgoing and love themselves and will have no problem being themselves.

Now those who always tried to prove themselves to a parent or tried to be like a sibling or schoolmate when they were young, then they tend to grow up, still trying to please somebody, no matter who it is. So they feel like they have to put on a mask when they are around others, in order for people not to know how insecure they really are about themselves. For example, two brothers growing up.....the oldest was really good a baseball, then dad pushes the younger to start into baseball. The younger brother ends up being a better batter than his older brother.

The older gets angry within himself, but doesn't show it when he's around everybody else. He and his brother keeps a good relationship going in public. But at home, the older brother treats his younger like dirt, because now he hates him for being better at baseball and for taking away what was once the older boy's spotlight.

Same with girls......a group of uppity, snobbish girls playing tricks on the "fat" unwanted girl. But get one of the girls alone and she says she sorry to the unwanted girl, she doesn't mean to be like that to her, but it's peer pressure to be in with the "clique".

People always feel like they have to prove something to others by being someone else until they're alone and see inside of themselves......believe it or not I think most people hate themselves for putting on a show....it's their secret that they really want to get rid of, but can't.

Is that detailed enough?

Answer 9

Hidden agendas.

You don't have a hidden agenda when interacting with yourself.

You do however with everyone else. Lets face it, people want people to like them (for the most part). People want to convince others of their ideas.

Any interaction that has an agenda dictates that you modify your behavior to fit the present scenario/person you are interacting with.

Answer 10

Cause they're afraid to be themselves. They're afraid of criticism or rejection from other people. We act the way society wants to see us.