I’m writing a paper for my college English class and was wondering if you would share your views and opinions on children before marriage. Now to be clear, I’m talking about planned pregnancies before marriage. How do you feel about it? If you feel its wrong, is it a family moral reason or have to do with religion? Feel free to express your opinions please! Thanks for your help!
2006-11-20 09:19:50 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
While I wouldn't look down on a couple in a committed relationship deciding to have a child I do believe it's better to wait to be married. I think that mostly that's because I'm a traditionalist. I think more important then being married though is being committed to each other. Also if you aren't married I would hope that the family made sure that they had provisions written up for medical and other expenses should they break up. I don't even know if something like that actually exists.
Hope that made sense, good luck on your paper :D
2006-11-20 09:25:45 · answer #1 · answered by Melissa J 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It seems alot of people have no problem, and feel there is no problem with having children before marriage, planned or not, but speaking for myself, conceived before marriage, it was hard for my mother. I have based my life upon my mothers mistake, by vowing not to have a child until marriage, where you are sure to have someone there hopefully always to help you, boyfriends come and go, but that child stays. It also has to do with my religious upbringing also, so I don't even believe in sex before marriage. Overall, believe that children are so much more of a joy when you have a husband, not to say they are less of a joy. I could write an essay on this, but I don't have the time, hope this helps you
2006-11-20 10:10:28 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe that if 2 people are in love, trust and respect each other then its a bloomin good basis for bring a child into....what difference does a piece of paper make. I'm not knocking marriage, but if you need a piece of paper to have that "commitment" then I think you have problems to be worked on. It's easier to walk away from a bit of paper than a human being. We've all go opinions though.
2006-11-20 09:30:17 · answer #3 · answered by aza 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I was raised that sex before marriage was a sin.But here I am almost 25 years old,live with my boyfreind of 3 years and we have an 11 month old daughter together and are haveing a boy in February. Plus we have his 3 boys ages 6,4,3 living with us cause their mom did not want them.So even though I am sure some of my family and some of society don't approve I don't really care cause it was mine and my boyfriends choice no one elses.
2006-11-20 10:44:43 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I concieved both of my boys before me and their father got married. But we were in a committed relationship and already planning to get married. We have been together a total of 6 years and will be married 4 years in January. The only opinion that I can express is that I think it is a personal decision. I don't think ppl should be pressured to get married just because the woman gets pregnant. If they are perfectly happy living together then so be it. I don't think it's any one elses buisness.
2006-11-20 09:27:21 · answer #5 · answered by Crystal 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I used to be against because it was drummed into me at church throughout my whole life, but now, I really don't care if the parents are married or not- as long as the child is loved and cared for properly. I am now an unwed mother, but I am engaged to my daughter's father.
So, when I was against it, it was because of a religious 'brainwashing', sorry, I can't think of another word for it, but now, I think that it is a completely personal choice.
2006-11-20 10:13:21 · answer #6 · answered by ♥Pamela♥ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think if you're going to plan a pregnancy it would probably be better if you're married.. It's more for the kids sake
2006-11-20 09:48:57 · answer #7 · answered by Kat0312 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
my opinion is that if you think that having a child before marriage is wrong, then you're living in the stone age. if you're financially and emotionally stable, and you want a baby, hey go for it. i can't stand people that sit around and judge people who have kids and aren't married. they're so prissy and tight assed about everything.
2006-11-20 09:30:56 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
I preferred to be married before. It is more common now to be unmarried, but my family is still very old fashioned
2006-11-20 10:04:01 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
i think that its not wrong at all if u both want to have a baby before u get married that might be best for ur family or after it dose nto mater to me i think that its ur own chose to have a baby when u think or know that u are ready to haev one marige is jsut a signed peace of paper with 2 peoples names that lvoe each other thats all it is
2006-11-20 09:24:47 · answer #10 · answered by hotchick_8587 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋