Why do girls bring fellow females down instead of raising their spirits up?

Question

Be specific in your answers please:)

Answer 1

It's all related. I'll try to keep this relativly short, but it will probably end up long so my appologies in advance.

I believe that we are all affected by things around us. Adults around us kids rub off with their influence. Some of it is negative, some of it is possitive. For the most part it is negative and I only see our society going downhill. People have become so caught up in thinking that there is only one way to do things and one way for things to work. This rubs down on teenagers who will soon have to take over. They grow up being told they have to live a certain way to be acceptable, etc. when really they could live a completely different way and be perfectly happy. Do you know that teen suicide rates have gone up? Most people do. All suicide rates have gone up. But do you know that rates of self destruction have also gone up? A little crash course on self destruction:

Most people think of self destruction as either only self harm or only things like drug addiction, but these assumptions are wrong. Self destruction is anything one does that is, well, self destructive. This can be anything from self harm (cutting, burning, etc.) to drug and alchohol addictions. From as serious as eating disorders to chewing on the inside of your lip. When some people self destruct they chose a form that society finds "acceptable" such as piercing, tattoos, or smoking. Although they don't realize it they are slowly destroying themselves. But they aren't REALLY destroying themselves. People who participate in self destruction are actually more likely to survive than people who are suicidal. People assume that because someone cuts they must want to die, but usually it is the complete opposite. The person doesn't want to die, therefore they cut. It doesn't make sense to most people, but if someone explains it to you it will. The only way a cutter can see to make their emotions tolerable is to see them. If they didn't cut they probably would take their own life. I am not saying all cutters don't end up taking their own life, but they are more likely to survive in the long run if they cut. I am also not saying cutting is good, it would be much much MUCH better to get help and get out, but sometimes when you can't the best thing they can do is deal with their emotions themselves, which sometimes involves self destruction.

Do you know that women are twice as likely as men to attempt suicide, while men are twice as likely as women to succede in killing themselves? I believe that things in our society affect people as well. I think men are better at either just sucking it up and ignoring it or (as my stats show) pretending to ignore it while it may still really get to them. When they affect women, apparently, they let it affect them more, but not to a point where they actually succede in ending their life. No, they take it out on others. Mostly on their female friends. This only brings them down more resulting in a huge chain reaction.

WE are the ones who have to stop this chain. Our generation is the only one so far who can. We must learn to rise above all of this and just work together. I don't know about you, but I am sick of being put down and getting rude replies when I am honestly trying to help people.

I warned you that this could be long. And it's a little off topic. Hopefully it answers some questions, if not the one you were asking.

Answer 2

Those who bring others down already have low self-esteem themselves and are trying to push others below them. I had a friend once who work at Taco Bell, and she didn't do to well there but they were under-staffed. She took a week vacation and this other girl was hired while she was gone and essentially worked her shift. When she came back she instantly hated the girl because she didn't think highly enough of herself to not be threatened by a new employee. And if she thought that girl was worse than her, she could deal with her being around...and sometimes they are just petty.

Answer 3

American consumerist society encourages women to compete against one another for men, which symbolize money and power in this culture. Through glossy ad images that continuously place women at the whim of men, with their shiny cars and bling bling, etc., and other advertising that places a woman's worth on how frizz-free her hair is, how hairless her legs are, and how expensive and cute her outfit is, women are constantly being bombarded with the idea that they must look better and be better than other women. In order to get the man with the bling, she must perk up, but that make-up on and devour other womens' attempts at being beautiful.

Did I confuse you? Start paying attention to how women are portrayed in magazines and TV commercials and everything will become a lot clearer.

Answer 4

I think women have been raised for centuries to be rivals.
I was reading a study not too long ago that suggested physical appearance directly effects a man's love. Men were asked to rate how much they loved their wives. They were showed playboy. Then they were asked to rate how much they loved their wives again and it was found that men said they felt they loved their wives less after viewing other women.
If men's love is as unstable as they found it to be then women have reason to be rivals because they are actually rivals for men.

Answer 5

Children (I assume you are talking about children—girls are female children) can be fickle often do this to gain some other girl's approval. Women, on the other hand, are quite supportive of one another in my experience. I've seldom been hurt by other women and have received much loving support. Men, however, can be terrible gossips and backbiters.

Answer 6

Girl, TELL me about it!!!!! I always wondered about that myself. I'm kinda shy and it always hurt when other females treated me like dirt instead of being nice. But not until my Dad (of all people) explained it to me. He said that women are jealous of you if you're prettier than they are, etc. They feel like they are always competing against one another. I mean they look you up and down before they decide if they like you or not! They'll speak to the males I'm with and show off for them, but look sideways at me. It's a competition thing. Too bad we aren't like the guys who just nod at each other and keep on walking. Eve must've started that mess!

Answer 7

Personally, I do not have this issue. I surround myself with positive female friends. However, I believe it has a great deal to do with the lack of self esteem and jealousy issues. Sad but true. God bless****

Answer 8

Because us woman are very jeliouse of other woman.... we have to bring them down in order to make us feel better and get rid of the threat that the other woman aposes.

Answer 9

because everyone harbors a secret of hatred for the prettiest girl in the room