i cheated on my boyfriend w/ his room mate several times, i got pregnant and my boyfriend came to believe it was his, i didn't say anything at all to make him think otherwise. we got an abortion and now his roomate won't let "us" go. he loves me and misses me he's now in the army..... i feel bad, should i tell my boyfriend the truth? i love him so much and were thinking about a future together
2006-11-20 09:09:12 · 28 answers · asked by flag girl 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
If you are considering a life together with this boyfriend I believe it would be best to be honest with him, or this will be eating away at you forever.
2006-11-20 09:12:27 · answer #1 · answered by crazylegs 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want any kind of future with him, you have to tell him the truth. But with the truth come consequences. If you could cheat on your boyfriend are you sure that you Love him? And if you cheated once who to say that you wouldn't do it again. I do know this. If you don't get right with the Lord you will end up feeling lost an empty and depressed. The forgiveness from the Lord is what you need.
2006-11-20 09:23:45 · answer #2 · answered by diamondblue382000 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No honey, you're confusing lust with love. This is going to be hard for you to handle, but I'm going to say it anyway. See the problem YOU have created. Honestly, you don't deserve to be with either one. You need to do the right thing and tell him you cheated. Your boyfriend deserves to spend a future with a mature, responsible, faithful woman. You are not responsible if you get an abortion to cover up the truth. You should be highly ashamed of your actions.
2006-11-20 09:14:36 · answer #3 · answered by Melissa M 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can't start a future with lies in the way. Marriage is something that shouldn't be taken lightly. You have to have an open line of communication (the one MOST important factor, more than trust or respect). If you can't tel him these things, you will have something holding you back from him for the rest of your life.Good luck. You're gonna need it. What you did was very dishonest and wrong wrong wrong to have done to a man who loves you. Not to pass judgement, I'm just telling you how your bf will probably feel with the news. If he loves you enough to want a future with you, maybe you guys can talk it out and one day he'l forgive you. But you also have to be ready and willing to do whatever it takes and however long it takes to get his trust back.
2006-11-20 09:14:38 · answer #4 · answered by PisceKween 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
alot of things you did were really wrong and i dont see why his room mate would want to still be with you, which doesnt say much about him either. and i think you should go ahead and tell your boyfriend so he can get rid of you because you obviously didnt care about him in the first place since you cheated on him and with his room mate, thats like cheating on his turf! thats just not cool. and then to kill the baby for your mistake. everything about this was a wrong decision on your part. you must get around alot.or have no self respect. either way, you're a little whore!
2006-11-20 09:29:54 · answer #5 · answered by Little Southern Belle 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes, of course you have to tell your boyfriend. are there feelings between you and his roomate. tell him, talk about it. if he loves you he'll understand, but give him some space. If you two are honestly planning a future together; could you see yourself married in 5 years and still have not told him the truth. Think of your options, tell him now, tell him in 5 years (think of how hard that will be on him), or live with your guilt...its your choice but i think you know what you have to do.
2006-11-20 09:13:00 · answer #6 · answered by sugar xx spice 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
CHEATING when in a relationship is the worst thing, why be in a relationship...come clean with your bf and let him know, because soon or later the truth will come out and things will be worst, he is going to get mad weather you tell him or not...and you are feeling bad inside then you know the best thing to do is sit him down and tell him...Trust me, hearing the truth is better than living a lie and being led on...Best of luck...
2006-11-20 09:19:06 · answer #7 · answered by caringloving4you_22 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you love this man you need to be honest with him. A good and strong relationship is built on trust and honesty and if you are hiding something from him then there will alwakys be that guilt in your head and he will eventually see it and it will eat at you forever and ruin the relationship for sure by keeping it hidden.
If you loved this guy why the hell did you cheat on him in the first place.?
You need to let it out if you want this relationship to last. Hopefully you didn't screw it up for you 2 by doing this in the first place.
good luck
2006-11-20 09:21:11 · answer #8 · answered by Tami S 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
gosh, that is screwed up. You must be feeling awful, and pretty sick about it all?
Are you sure you really love your boyfriend? Is there anything else that has happened to make you behave in this way? You need to be at peace with yourself before deciding your future (and whether or not to tell him the truth about the baby).
I dont think anyone should be answering this question other than YOU. You must listen to what your heart is telling you.
Good luck
2006-11-20 09:15:52 · answer #9 · answered by ? 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Sorry to sound so crude but that's horrible.
I think that you should tell him the truth and if you two really love each other then you two will find a way to work things out if not then you at least got something that bad off your chest. He deserves the truth even if it's going to break his heart. you shouldn't build a relationship on a lie. Goodluck.
2006-11-20 09:14:33 · answer #10 · answered by Mary Jane 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋