last night i was arguing with my husband he called me ***** and saying bad stuff to hurt me.we open 2 shoes store together and now he told me that i dont have no right in the store do you think its true? i am legally married to him. i worked hard to open those store .one more thing both of those are on his name. i put all my saving on those store
2006-11-20 09:04:33 · 12 answers · asked by kency 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
First of all, legally you are entitled to half of all marital assets. Just know this.
Second, stop arguing with the man. He obviously doesn't want to hear what you have to say. Put him in a position where he has to defend himself and he is going to defend himself. (Think 7 year old.)
If you're working in the store keep working. Start a savings account just in your name and leave the paperwork where he won't come across it. Including not leaving stuff in the car...
Take a look at what you do in a day. Is there any time for the things you enjoy? Try to find some time for an activity that is just for you. I used to go to the spa 3 times a week. It was great and 10 years later I am still friends with the friends I made there. Maybe you want to pick up a class at the local community college.
When you do speak with the man, speak to him with Respect. Take a breath, think of what you want to say, and say it calmly and respectfully. Respond, not React.....This teaches Respect.
When someone speaks to you with disrespect, then you can say," I don't talk to you like that....Why would you speak to me like that." End conversations that evolve into arguements, say, "I can't talk about this right now." and go throw a load in or something.
Your man needs an objective view of the woman he is married to. Give him some space. Give him some time to step back and get a good look at what a worthy person you are. Then give him an avenue for repairing the damage he has caused. Buy a bottle of wine, some candles, and romance him. AFTER....he's been responding to your tactics positively.
Time and patience, dear, aim for your end result.....
2006-11-20 09:30:29 · answer #1 · answered by Sunbaby 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if your name is on them also u have just as much right there as he does, when my ex began the name calling and being disrespectful it marked the time he met the other woman,she mostlikely works there also. get an attorney and get some advice, be careful he doesn't empty the bank accounts and make off with the money. they cheat cause they met someone else, and for now it is like a new toy to them, the other woman strokes his ego, tells him whatever she thinks he wants to hear, her intent is to get him to leave and be with her. sad but true. they name call because they no longer value us, or need us to get ahead, so they think they can just kick us to the curb, like an old shoe. i would bet the other woman also works there too.ofcourse u have a right in the stores, don't let him get away with a thing.
2006-11-20 19:54:17 · answer #2 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Obtain all of the documents that you can without him knowing. Go see an attorney and discuss your options. Whether it's in his name or not; it's 50/50 in most states. I don't know where you are.
Do not give him a heads up with regard to collecting documents and such. He could easily hide money in other names.
No one has the right to speak to you with such disregard and call you names. If he's cheated on you. Get out, get a new life for yourself but most of all, get what is your half too.
Good luck.
2006-11-20 17:11:08 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
For the same reasons women do, they have character issues.
I know you are hurting, but please don't make this a gender issue. Who do you think your husband is cheating with, a man? Probably not, he's with a woman. So those things tend to balance out.
So get off the why do men when there are as many willing female accomplices as their are men.
Why do people engage in these behaviors? They have poor character. They have little self esteem, so they believe they can improve their standing by putting down others.
Don't fall for it, and if you know what he is saying is not true, then try to not allow it to bother you.
2006-11-20 17:18:57 · answer #4 · answered by camys_daddy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't let your husband treat you this way!!!!
stand up to him,if he's cheating on you ,get out asap
been there,done that,you deserve respect and someone who
treats you good, as for the stores ,I don't care if there both in his name,legally you're his wife and he would have to split the stores
with you!!!!
me cheat because they are always looking for someone to make them feel younger in the bedroom,or they're never satisfied,you can everything you can ,in the bedroom and as a wife, and some men just have to go out there,I don't condone cheating, and I will never put up with that!!!
good luck
2006-11-20 20:17:32 · answer #5 · answered by msalb 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Check with an attorney, but anything that you acquire during the marriage is both of yours (unless you signed something saying that you don't have any rights to it).
2006-11-20 17:09:05 · answer #6 · answered by tmvminjh 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you are married and anything acquired during the marriage is marital property. he can say they are not yours but the law says that they are half yours and half his. I was just wondering, what does cheating have to do with this question?
2006-11-20 17:09:11 · answer #7 · answered by krystal s 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The same reason women cheat and call people names.
2006-11-20 17:07:10 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Girlfriend, get a lawyer and get rid of the ignorant twit.
2006-11-20 17:10:01 · answer #9 · answered by Charm 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Real men don't do those things....only scum do. I think you need to secretly see a lawyer and find out where you stand.
2006-11-20 17:11:22 · answer #10 · answered by Raven 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋