Am I wrong to be upset?

Question

me and my husband have been married for only a few days now and already I have an issue with his cell phone. What happened was; he left his phone on a department store's counter and a close friend who works there dropped it off over his mother's house. Tell me why hasn't he picked up his phone just in case I need to call him for something? Is he maybe avoiding someone who's possibly found out about his marriage? (possibly his psycho ex.) Should I be upset?

Answer 1

Look the first few months, or even the first year, of marriage is always crazy, and emotionally weird.

It's never wrong to have feelings - even if it's upset feelings. What's wrong is suddenly yelling at him for it, or bottling it up inside.

Translation - it's always okay to be upset, just so long as you calmly share those feelings.

My husband and I just celebrated our 2-year anniversary - believe me -the second year is sooo much easier...just hang in there.

Answer 2

No. I really think you are being enormously over-sensitive about this very minor issue. He would hardly have left his mobile phone in a department store on purpose, would he? He was lucky that his friend rescued it before some stranger picked it up.

Remind him that you may need to get in touch with him and suggest it would be a good idea for him to get it back. I am sure he will do so anyway.

Answer 3

You shouldn't necessarily be immediately upset over something seemingly trivial. There may be a very plausible explanation for his not picking up his phone; it's very possible that he just keeps forgetting to pick up his phone. Talk to him about it before jumping to conclusions. Marriage is about trust, and if such a little thing bothers you so much (as it seems to), maybe you two were not ready to tie-the-knot quite yet.

Answer 4

Ask him. Who's the close friend? He could avoid the
ex by changing the number. Maybe he thinks you'll be
checking up on him all the time which you have a right to do.

Answer 5

Men are procrastinators. Perhaps he just hasn't had time to run by his mother's and pick up the phone, I would give him the benefit of the doubt before jumping to conclusions!

Answer 6

Based on what you've written, then I would have to say yes, you are wrong, or no to should you be.

Marriage at it's best is the joining of two imperfect people.

Marriage is the union of two forgivers.
When one stops forgiving the marriage is over.

Answer 7

The only one you should be upset with is yourself! He made a mistake, he left his phone! Your mind has made this an enormous mountain. My question is, why did you do this? Dont u know that you are booby trapping your marriage all ready?

Answer 8

I think you should relax a bit. Men dont like when woman plays spy or smth like that. The best way to handle any problem with your partner is to talk to them. Just be honest and ask. He will surely make it clear u are the one. Dont make any conclusions too fast, that might hurt you and your husband. Be self confident and just ask him wtf is wrong. But stay calm.
He surely just didnt want to drive back or wanted to go home to u faster.
How come few days after wedding you are not in honeymoon trip? ^^

Answer 9

If you get upset over stuff like that, then you are gonna have a really short marriage.

Answer 10

if he has been to his mothers and hasn't picked it up, then MAYBE you can START to question it.

Seriously, if it is not something you are going to be thinking about on your death bed, then it's probably not worth getting upset about.