please help!!! i am 14 and 5 weeks pregnant?

Question

OKAY THE DEAL IS THAT ME AND MY BOYFRIEND OF 6 MNTHS HAD SEX AFTER SCHOOL IN THE LECTURE HALL IN MY HIGH SCHOOL. I HAVENT EXACTLY TOLD MY PARENTS YET. I TOOK THE PREGNANCY TEST AND IT WAS POSITIVE. MY PERIOD IS ALSO LATE AND I THREW UP IN SCHOOL A FEW DAYS AGO. HE HAD A CONDOMN BUT I THINK IT BROKE. PLEASE HELP!!!

Answer 1

time to go to the planned parenthood, a baby at 14 is the LAST thing you want

Answer 2

First of all I'm sorry that everyone on here is calling you names and yelling at you. There is nothing you can do about now, and the last thing you need is criticism when you have a LIFE on your hands. I would go to planned parent hood and have them do a pregnancy test to be 100%, then get on prenatal vitamins. Second, set up a session with a counsler and talk about how to tell you parents and how your going to get through this. Your going to need all the help you can get. Please stay in school, once you have that baby, your gonna need lots of money to support the baby, and you need a diploma to get a decent job, and your education. I feel sorry that you had to experience that pleasure and love in school...sex is suppose to be special, keep it that way. If you decide to have sex again, WAIT until you are way older/married, or if you can't wait till your married, at least at an age where you can make a informed decision and it's with someone you LOVE. Good luck, and God love

Answer 3

angi your life has just changed . you made the grown up choice to have sex and in doing so you will now bring another life into this world. or you will make the choice to abort.either way your life will not be the same. but now you need to do the right thing and to start you need to tell your parents I WAS 36 WHEN I HAD MY CHILD AND WAS A GROWN WOMAN BUT STILL NEEDED AND WANTED MY MOMS ADVICE.....you can't talk to your parents then seek help from a school counselor. just know the first trimester in a pregnancy is important for the development in a fetus as far as folic acid that pre natal vitamins give...so go see a doctor soon and get help.. your a child having a child you need support... god bless and good luck

and if for some reason

Answer 4

sounds like you may be, go to the doctor and get a confirmation. If you are you will have to tell your parents eventually, if you keep it they will know, but I believe you have to be over a certain age to get an abortion without a parents consent, and I would guess that age would be about 18 (I live in australia so its different) why do you think it broke? didn't you see it? But yeah, go to the doctor as soon as you can, and dont listen to these people on here that are calling you names and stuff, guys grow up, the girl is concerned enough without having judgemental people criticising her for what she has done, at least they used a condom which is more responsible than a lot of young people, it happened so try to give the girl advice, not judgement

Answer 5

Why are all you kids having sex? What the hell is happening to our world? You should be enjoying your teen years, going out with GROUPS of friends, not just one boy! At your age I didn't even know what sex was!
Oh *sigh*, I might as well answer your question, it's just one of hundreds. Tell your parents pronto. They will be upset and there will be lots of anger and maybe even some tears but they love you and I'm sure they will come round in the end. Please don't try to keep the baby, you are only a baby yourself, you will lose your childhood and freedom if you have a baby. Personally, I think you are crazy to want a child so young.

Answer 6

I'am the wife,, at the age 14 you shouldn't even being have sex that is stupied you should get tested for aids,, you need to tell your mother at least and go see a doctor because anything can go wrong. nothing is 100 percent of not getting pregnant except not having sex at all.. good luck and think again,, just to scare ya a little when i had my 1st baby i was bleeding out i had to have 3 units of blood back in my body,, i had 15 stitches, 4th degree tear, the baby was 8.9 pounds and more and that guy more than likey won't stay with you that's a male for ya when your young,, he is now 7 yrs. old.. you darn sure dont need a baby at 14 but since you are pregnant i think you should have to go through it all and i dont belive in killing a baby it's that the baby's fault it's yours deal with it,,

Answer 7

Well your life as you know it is over, No more going out, hanging with friends, dates all gone..... Time to grow up and lose your childhood. Before you tell anyone you need to get a blood test done because some home preggo test show a false positive. make sure you are preggo before telling people..... Since you are so young there are alot of problems associated with your pregnancy. premature babies, birth defects, and misscarriage. you did the deed now you have to pay the price... Kids are a full time gig. How are you gonna support him or her? Looks like lil Kids is gone and grown up need to play. Good luck and maybe next time before you have sex at since a young age you will also protect yourself with birthcontrol and a condom......

Answer 8

You need to tell your parents so they can help you. Your really to young to raise a child on your own and at your age you shouldn't have had sex. That's suppose to be when you get married and are financially able to raise a child. I'm not trying to be negative just wanting you to understand the truth in this. This is a huge responsibility caring for a baby. There's no way that you and the father of your baby can take care of the baby alone. It's best you confide in your parents or his for help and support. Good luck! And please don't let your parents talk you into an abortion, its morally wrong to have one and emotionally painful too. It's better to give the baby up for adoption even though this would be emotionally painful but not as bad as having an abortion and to have to live with that for the rest of your life it will not be a good experience. Another option is to raise it some how on your own with the father and with your parents. (his too) Weigh out your options but like I said please don't choose abortion you will regret it later and don't allow your parents to persuade you to choose it either.

Answer 9

Well, you should definitely tell an adult (school counselor, and your parents). Pregnancy is something that you can't hide for long because you will start showing. You will also need to start getting prenatal care which is very important during the first trimester (which you are currently in). Please talk to your parents before it's too late. Explain to your parents that you made a mistake and you attempted to protect yourself but the protection broke.

Answer 10

First thing to do, call Planned Parenthood and go get a pregnancy test. Do not wait, even one more day! They'll verify that you're actually pregnant, and how far along. They are experienced with this sort of situation, so don't be afraid; they've seen lots of girls your age, and won't be judgmental.

Talk to the counselor at Planned Parenthood about your relationship with your parents, and if telling them is right for you both. They can help you figure out how to approach the subject with them, and what to say, should you decide to tell them.

After you've spoken with the counselor, asked questions, and thought very hard about your future, your ability to support a child, and weighed the consequences of your choices, you need to make your decision, and be prepared to live with it. This is the most personal decision a woman will ever make, as it concerns her own body, and her conscience, alone. So you need to make the choice that is right for you, and you alone.

Don't let anyone pressure you into either having the abortion or having the baby, especially anyone who isn't going to be involved in your life past this situation. And unfortunately, unless your baby is healthy and white, there's not going to be a long list of happy families waiting to adopt it, either, despite what you may be told.

It's usually best to make your decision, and follow through with it, before telling your parents at all. If you choose to terminate the pregnancy, I would do that before telling the parents. It's easier on them, to say "this is the situation I was in, I was mature enough to think it through and take steps to resolve it" than being indecisive, and forcing them to tell you what to do. Then you're simply going along with whatever their beliefs are, and that may not be right for you. Remember, it is your conscience, not theirs.

I have not yet mentioned the other important factor, and that is the responsibility of the potential father. Have you told him yet? His reaction is important. If he denies it is his, or blows you off, or stops seeing you, he is not going to be a good father, and therefore, doesn't deserve any consideration in that respect.

If he is supportive, let him pay for the abortion, and be there for you while it's being performed. Or, if you choose to have the baby, he should assume responsibility for the medical costs, care of the child, and be prepared to be a full time father. And when you two are old enough, marry you and live as a family. Don't let him talk you into having it just because it makes him feel like some big man, just because he was able to get you pregnant. He needs to have more respect for you and your potential child than that.

His role is every bit as important as yours, and if you'll just be his "baby mama" after it is born, you're no better than a breeding sow to him, and he therefore doesn't deserve to breed. Either he takes fully 50% of the responsibility, or he gets no input into your decision. He doesn't have the right to tell you what your choice should be, but if he is supportive and there for you, it's only right to consider his feelings and let him understand why you made your choice.

Regardless of your decision, it should be one that you can live with a year from now, five years from now, twenty years from now. Having an abortion seems like an 'easy out' but it is not something that women do lightly. It takes a lot of soul searching and thought before making that choice. If you choose to terminate the pregnancy, let it be a wake-up call to you, and make sure your 'second chance' is taken very seriously.

If you choose to terminate the pregnancy, you need to immediately begin using contraception, in addition to condoms. Planned Parenthood can provide these services as well.

Good luck, and remember that if anyone tries to pressure you into having the baby, ask him or her if they plan to adopt it themselves, or support it, if you can't. If the answer is not "YES" then they have no right to try to tell you what to do.

Answer 11

I know it sounds hard but you need to let your parents or some adult family member that you really trust. Let them know that you did practice safe sex with a condom, but it broke, and now your period is late and you think you're pregnant. What they will or need to do is take you to a doctor to get cheched out. With you being preggo then the first step is to find a good doctor with you being so young. If they are understanding, they will at least realize that you tried to play it safe, even if the condom broke. Good luck.