My girlfriend's ex keeps calling her, texting her, showing up at her work recently. Giving her notes and what have you. I told her its going to get worse and worse. Should she get a restraining order on him because obviously when she tells him that shes not interested in him and is with me, he doesnt get it.
2006-11-20 08:55:12 · 17 answers · asked by scoobydoo316316 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Unless he's threating her then it's gonna be difficult to get a restraining order.
However, if he is threatening her.. then by all means.. get one before someone get's hurt.
Prior to a restraining order, have your GF send a CERTIFIED letter to him. Don't go into any of the past details.. just make is short and simple.
Mr XXX
I am no longer interested in your company nor do I wish to have any farther communications with you. Please regard this letter as my effort to resolve this issue with out seeking a legal restraining order.
Do not call me. Do not send me text messages nor emails. Do not come to my place of employment unless you have business with someone else there. Do not come to my residence.
Your ignoring this request will be considered a threat upon my safety and peace of mind and my next action will be secure a restraining order.
Thanks,
Ms. YYYY
1232 Anystreet.
With this letter sent via certified mail, he signature confirms receipt and he should figure out that his 'stalking' must cease. If he does not, this letter also goes a long way to prove his unwilling to abide by her request. She should also gather and keep any evidence of his activities; record phone calls, keep email, keep text messages, etc. She should not talk to him or respond or reply. If he makes contact, she should simply hang up with out saying anything.
Good luck and I hope this helps!
2006-11-20 09:05:35 · answer #1 · answered by wrkey 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She should but that will only keep him away from her job. She should get her number changed as well. She should tell the police she feels threatened and is afraid because he is stalking her. You have to give good reason for a restraining order.
2006-11-20 09:09:53 · answer #2 · answered by RoxieC 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely, I had this same problem with my ex until I told him how much of a problem this was. She needs to change her phone number, email, and what ever else and then get a restraining order. She probably needs to let him know about it, so he understands that he has a problem.
2006-11-20 08:58:22 · answer #3 · answered by Melissa M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The problem with restraining orders is that you have to prove that he is a threat. The courts might grant you a temporary one, but to get a permanent one again you have to prove that he has threatened your girlfriend. Make a journal and write down everything he says and does, prove your case.
2006-11-20 09:11:31 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately, his actions have probably not risen to restraining order level. Without violence, a restraining order is difficult. What she should do is write him a straightforward, short letter telling him that she does not want to date him. She should not try to soften her words, but be very direct and firm. She should not give reasons. just a simple "I am not interested." She should refuse to speak to him, shod not accept his notes, and should block his text messages and calls. If he mails her a letter, she should send it back unopened.
2006-11-20 09:01:55 · answer #5 · answered by Catherine B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she has filed the order she should not be in worry if she chooses to interrupt it--yet she's making an excellent mistake if she does. The restraining order became placed into consequence to guard her from this guy. The courtroom gadget won't take her heavily if she intentionally places herself in place to be close to him.
2016-12-28 07:00:48 · answer #6 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go see a magistrate. Restraining orders cost in the neighborhood of 35 dollars. Cheap price for peace of mind.
2006-11-20 08:57:35 · answer #7 · answered by nursesr4evr 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
for the most part a restraining order isnt worth the paper its printed on if he dont take her serious what makes you think he will abide by a restraining order??
2006-11-20 08:58:38 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should leave it up to her. But getting a TRO isn't so easy. You have to have PROOF. Maybe she's just not saying NO loud enough. I'd have her be careful just in case too. I don't know the whole story but if he had been abusive to her she'd get a TRO with no problem. She'd have to go to court twice first for the TRO then she'd have to go again to make it permament. I know, I've been there but the guy really did try to kill me.
2006-11-20 09:00:34 · answer #9 · answered by musicpanther67 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she doesnt want him around her then she should get a restraining order, if she likes the attention then she shouldnt.
2006-11-20 08:57:29 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋