My husband cant have children and I didnt know until the other day because we have been trying to have children and we both got tested to see what was wrong. It turns out hes sterile and Im pregnant. What do I do? Should I have an abortion? I slept with his twin brother. Im so lost!!
2006-11-20 08:51:37 · 30 answers · asked by tinkerbell 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
im not lying i wish i was
thanks claire
2006-11-20 08:57:58 · update #1
Yeah nice try, reaction seeker
2006-11-20 08:54:50 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just go with your instinct. What is more important to you? your husband or your unborn child? perhaps the answer may be both but i reckon you should come clean to your husband, you never know this may be the best chance you will have of staying together and having a child which will be the closest thing to one of his own. You have done a terrible, terrible act of deciet but i don't need to tell you that do i? If you have an abortion the hide the truth then how will you feel if the truth comes out eventually anyway. I feel sorry for your husband as he is probably feeling low at the moment because of being infertile and to find out you are pregnant with his brothers baby would just put the lid on the whole thing. In a situation like this you can only go on your own instinct babe. What is done is done just weigh up what desicion will be the most beneficial for your future. good luck
2006-11-20 09:07:11 · answer #2 · answered by DONNAIS 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you either have to admit what you have done (that will not go down very well with it being his twin brother) or have an abortion. It all depends on how much you want a baby, if you go ahead and have the baby DNA tests will say it is your husbands as twin DNA is the same, so you could get away with it if you have the courage. Can I just ask what was the difference between your husband and his twin for you to threaten your marriage over, anyway good luck, ask your doctor if you could get away with it.
2006-11-20 09:52:31 · answer #3 · answered by Kirks Folley 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First I feel that there must have been some thing between you and your husband other wise you would not have been trying to have a baby. Secondly you both had the test, what’s this about was it before you slept with his brother or after ether case it’s a bit low of you. You need to decide what you actually want is it you’re husband or his brother which ever you decide you must be honest with all concerned and come clean, don’t forget the baby is innocent in all this, I think lies is the lowest and it always catches up with you. Best of luck love Guda
2006-11-20 10:01:15 · answer #4 · answered by guda 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to tell him,, it would hurt him if he ever found out another way and it could be a secret you both could have without telling the whole family.
If he is ok with it then he could raise the child as his own no problem since its his twins.
If he so desperately wants a child this could be his only chance, you need to give him the option as well, how are you going to explain an abortion being on your medical records if you were to go for fertility treatment?
Of course he will be hurt at the fact you slept with his brother but I think he would be more hurt if he ever found out that you aborted a baby.
It is your choice though, you do what you feel is best for you.
2006-11-20 09:30:04 · answer #5 · answered by debs1701 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm surprised that you don't mention how you feel about your husband, as nobody is going to get out of the situation unscathed, it's obvious the path to choose is of least hurt for everyone. I would leave the house for a B&B somewhere, leave him a letter saying what you've done and that you're very sorry and you'll understand if he want's you out of his life, but if he doesn't you'll never stray again. After two days ring him for his decision and abide by it, by then the anger will have died down a bit. You'll need to warn his brother beforehand just in case!
2006-11-20 09:07:42 · answer #6 · answered by Avon 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well either he will:
1 accept that if he cant have children then it's better to have a child and keep it in the family or
2. he will kick you out and never speak to his brother again
I think probably no 2, Im afraid you have broken your marriage vows so you must face the music. Perhaps the twin brother will have you?
2006-11-20 19:41:52 · answer #7 · answered by jaygirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him you want his brother to be a sperm donor. Have a sly word with the brother beforehand and tell him the plot and that he has to aggree when you ask him. Then make a big show about asking him when your husband is present. Then go through the motions with the turkey baster and whatnot. And Lo! you can say to your husband that it worked. Only you and twin bro will know you've been dirty dawgs.
2006-11-20 09:01:08 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell your husband that there must have been some mistake with the tests, and have the baby and be happy.
Actually are you sure that your husband is the one that is sterile and not his twin? - Just a thought!
2006-11-20 09:26:51 · answer #9 · answered by Baps . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Really I think it's only a dicision you can make. If you agree with abortion then maybe that's the best option, but what you have to ask yourself is what is more important to you, your marriage or children
If you cheated then maybe children, but things like that are always complicated and I can't decide for you
Whatever you do make sure your happy with what you choose
Good luck
x
2006-11-20 08:56:39 · answer #10 · answered by clairejoyx 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is this a wind up!!!!!!!
If not sorry!!!!
If u felt u had to sleep around then there is obviously something wrong in the relationship, is it worth considering going it alone and raising the kid your self? Is the brother married? is that another factor to consider??
There is no easy answer but im sure things will work out in the end
good luck xxx
2006-11-20 08:57:35 · answer #11 · answered by kate 0504 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋