tell me your views i preach it myself but its me to a tea? could it be medical emotional what????????????
2006-11-20 08:39:02 · 25 answers · asked by Laura Ashley 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
No, Not if you dont want to be. Just because you have cheated does not mean you cant change. Just because you have told lies, that does not mean your a liar. Be careful the labels you give yourself or you will believe in them and act accordingly. You have the power to change if you make the decision that you are just going to and no messin. Do not accept parts of yourself that you are not happy with, instead change them and believe in yourself ok? I know its hard... and I really do understand. Its also true that you have to allow yourself to meet the right person. If you are not all that into him/her.. then rather than cheat on him/her.. just accept he/she is not right for you and "next" . Believe me, one day you will meet a person who will blow your socks right off. You will be so into him/her that you just will not want to look at another, let alone anything else. In the meantime, forgive yourself and believe that you are the honest loving and caring person which you want to be. Good luck
2006-11-20 09:03:22 · answer #1 · answered by Bobbie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
While this saying is one of the most quoted (especially by those who have been cheated on_, it is definitely not true in all cases.
According to my reading of your question, I am of the impression that you are the one that is doing the cheating. If this is the case, then unless you are planning to change, that may very well be the case as it relates to you.On the other hand, it does not apply to everyone. Now, I don't believe it is a medical emotional problem. It could; however be a insecurity problem. By that I mean that there may be insecurities or inadequacies about you that you either hide and or don't admit that cause you to behave in that manner. That being the case, in order to remedy this (if you want to) , you must identify that issue and trace it back to the it's origin. Then you must be willing to change your behavior and not your belief that perhaps that cheating is just a part of your life.
Whatever the case may be, lose the stigma that "once a cheat, always a cheat" is just a part of your life.
2006-11-20 16:50:07 · answer #2 · answered by Willard S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, years ago I was really bad. I cheated all of the time. It was mean of me because I knew I would be hurting their feelings (because them finding out is inevitable)
I have been with my fiance for 2 1/2 years. I haven't cheated on him, nor do I ever plan to. Him and I have talked about it and if the urge to cheat is ever that strong, then the relationship is in trouble.
I'm not condoning cheating, or trying to say that everyone deserves a second chance, I'm just saying there are instances where people do grow up and realize the hurt they have caused.
2006-11-20 16:44:30 · answer #3 · answered by Melton 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that once a cheat always a cheat, whether its stealing lying or being unfaithfull they will never change. I thought I could change my husband.....and for 13 years everything was ok, apart from the gambling and the lying, it seemed to happen every 2-3 months. Then 4 months ago he cheated on me, and left me and our two kids. Its like hes gone back to how he was before we met, but at 45 its just not right!I wish I'd got rid ages ago, but I was willing to try and keep it together for the kids, but as soon as he dropped his pants for another woman he was out of here.
2006-11-20 18:32:19 · answer #4 · answered by crissylizb06 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know that when u start cheating it hard 2 stop look in too ur heart is that i the kind of person u want to be, the one who cheats and that can never be trusted. i'm ur that is not ur intention but that is how some people willl c it. once cheat alway always cheat maybe so but not if u really try.
2006-11-20 16:49:06 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont think it is strictly true as in there are some who learn from a harsh mistake and do not return to cheat again. Others it becomes a way of life almost second nature. like most things there are always exceptions ......
2006-11-21 05:17:57 · answer #6 · answered by eagledreams 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not necessarily, if in a relationship one is getting no attention from the other and it goes on for a long time, then the comfort of another may seem better, doesn't make them a bad person, just lacking in comfort and affection, we all need that. X
2006-11-20 16:52:55 · answer #7 · answered by RUTH M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, I think so. Once a barrier is crossed it gets easier every time and the excuses for the cheating become flimsier and weaker.
2006-11-20 17:06:43 · answer #8 · answered by angel50 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No people can change but they have to really want to. How would you like it if someone you where head over heals in love with cheated on you.?
2006-11-20 16:42:21 · answer #9 · answered by fr2fish 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That i really depends because everyone is young at one time and make mistakes, but may learn to grow up and want to be faithful to the one they actually fall in love with.
2006-11-20 16:42:55 · answer #10 · answered by Kandy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋