Okay, my ex. after going out for a year and a half and being madly in love went to college. He now is very involved in the college life, joined a frat etc. We had a rough ending cause he was "Stressed" but still remained friends and this past saturday went to see a play all was well until we did things we shouldnt have, that brought feelings back. He was supposed to come home and then after the play decided not to, i became upset and things kept getting worse. I had recently given him my picture which he sadly told me he didnt want and threw on the sidewalk of the city. He then told me through AIM he did not want to talk for a while. I am still in love with him but just want to start over and be friends. I am going to give him space but how do I get him back?
Please help me. Im starting to get very sad.
2006-11-20 08:37:18 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I hate to say this but, he just used and abused you. He totally took advantage of your feelings and used them to play with. He sounds like a real creepo. I think you should move on, otherwise you are going to set yourself up for this type of encounter with him again. I would get yourself out there. You sound like a really awesome girl. I bet you are very cute as well. Go out there and find someone else. Someone who is sincere, someone who wont toy with your feelings. You deserve better than that. Good luck and have a good Thanksgiving.
2006-11-20 08:43:44 · answer #1 · answered by MightyRighty 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Starting with the picture throwing and ending with his selfishness of not wanting to talk to you I would say you don't want him back. Right now may seem like it's devestating and I'm sure it is. But give it time, get out there, meet other guys, see what you were missing staying with him.
You probably have a lot of self doubt and think you did things wrong. You didn't do anything wrong, he's selfish and knows your caring and giving and instead of being a man and talking to you about everything face to face he used the internet. Doesn't sound like someone who cares to me.
You have wayyyy too much to offer someone to sit around wishing this jerk back.
Have more faith in yourself, give yourself the credit for how great you are, and next time you're at a play and you run into him while with your 10 times cooler boyfriend, be his FRIEND by giving him the napkin to wipe up the drool and tears he has for ever letting you go.
Good luck!
2006-11-20 08:45:20 · answer #2 · answered by INS24106 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you are in a tough postion, but you can't force someone to love you. You need to find other things to occupy your time, so that you can leave him the space he seems to need. In time, he may or may not come back to you. Either way, your forcing the issue will only make it worse. Keep your head up - although it hurts now, there are plenty of other people out there. You will recover and go on if he doesn't return.
2006-11-20 08:40:35 · answer #3 · answered by wickedwit 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
very positive. You're lying back watching the clouds just as you are watching the events in your life go by. Everything has clarity and definition, and there is variety as well. You're in a relaxed position indicating that you feel strong and confident about the way things are progressing. The sun feels good and colorful butterflies surround you. These are all the options and opportunities that you have right now, and they are plentiful. They can also signify the people in your life right now. Bright, energetic and beautiful, you are surrounded by positive energy from most every direction. This is a wonderful time for you where you are the one who's in charge of your life, and things are going extremely well. Seize some of those opportunities!
2006-11-20 08:39:22 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
So sorry to hear that . I think that his world had become so large now that it is hard for him to keep things inperspective, whereas your have remained the same.
For you nothing has changed except him. For him everything has changed except you.
Hmm. Cant you also go to college in thesame place that he goes to? In that sense, you are "on the same footing" instead of being "someone from my highschool"
A lot of it will also depend on what his personality type is. Is he old fashioned? or is he the type who would want to sow his wild oats.
My best advice is - Keep yourself interesting, pursue other things in life. One rule of thumb is to never allow your happiness to be predetermined by the approval or dissaproval of any one man.
2006-11-20 08:50:58 · answer #5 · answered by QuiteNewHere 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeh she's definately attempting to get you jealous. females paintings in that way, have confidence me. yet she is real weird and wonderful to nevertheless save the ex's condom wrappers. i could have been pissed too. it extremely is not customary the two.
2016-11-25 21:39:12 · answer #6 · answered by schecter 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know that saying if you love something let it go if it comes back it is yours if not it never was.....give him some time ---you do your thing and he will do his ---you will know all in good time.....I know from experience
2006-11-20 08:43:08 · answer #7 · answered by blonde 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
thats very sad. You have to let him go and if he comes back to you with open arms, then you guys were meant to be.
2006-11-20 08:40:59 · answer #8 · answered by Mel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just wait til you see him again and then give him some again and then you will be asking the same question again. He is telling himself "why should I buy the cow when I can get the milk for free"?
2006-11-20 08:40:04 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
go 2 his house naked
2006-11-20 09:02:02 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋