This mutual friend has not given me any direct indication that she knew about his possible orientation.
2006-11-20 08:33:23 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
All excellent answers so far. Very helpful to me.
2006-11-20 08:39:30 · update #1
I don't know, but you may have changed this mutual friend's memories of your deceased friend...or not.
I don't think discussing a person's sexual orientation once they've passed on is of any consequence of what kind of person he/she was in life. Nor does it do any good to speculate about it either.
I don't know about you, but I know people of my age remember when AIDS was in it's height in the 80's and early 90's and how news papers wouldn't post what a person died of: insted they would say "long term illness" or "unspecified cancer." Some families didn't want the public to know they had a gay son or daughter who died of AIDS. Usually out of their own shame and feelings of guilt. But these things tarnished the truth and covered up who the person was and what they died of. It would deny the fact that AIDS KILLS and needed/s to be prevented.
These obituary lies upset many of us who knew they truth and wanted it to not be a black mark on society but bring honesty and awareness to a deadly disease that didn't/doesn't descriminate about it's victims.
2006-11-20 08:53:09 · answer #1 · answered by DEATH 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
If the discussion were to bring about something good and useful, then it would be okay. If it's for the sole purpose of gossip, it is inappropriate whether the person is living or deceased.
2006-11-20 08:36:51 · answer #2 · answered by MyPreshus 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
One part of me says that he's dead, what does he care?
The other part says that perhaps he did not come out to the mutual friend for a reason. Maybe try to find out if this straight friend is particularly heterosexist or homophobic or unaccepting and then decide it is appropriate or not to tell. Otherwise, how is it the friends business at all?
2006-11-20 08:37:43 · answer #3 · answered by jr_crime_fighter 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
in the present day right here, my husband and that i've got a gay pal, via which we've met many different gay acquaintances. Hehe, its kinda relaxing for me to circulate out with all of them, little like putting with the ladies! we are able to look in any respect the nice and cozy boys at the same time!
2016-11-25 21:37:34 · answer #4 · answered by howling 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Consider a different topic for conversation. Deceased or not, it is still gossip and probably irrelevant to understanding anything new.
2006-11-20 09:23:18 · answer #5 · answered by kingstubborn 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes! it is inappropriate. The beauty about life is tomorrow is another page. So turn the page.
2006-11-20 08:53:02 · answer #6 · answered by Fresh choice 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Your deceased friend will not care. He/She is in a far better place.
2006-11-20 08:37:06 · answer #7 · answered by psyry7 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No-if you respected his privacy when he was alive, then I should suspect you would honor his privacy now that he is deceased.
2006-11-20 08:37:10 · answer #8 · answered by Kendra J 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think it inappropriate. Why would you want to?
2006-11-20 08:38:20 · answer #9 · answered by rhymingron 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i don't know and or care. why would u want to, u must be really bored, and have no life.
2006-11-20 08:41:50 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋