my gran expects alot frm me. all her other 21 grand kids dont go and see her hardly ever and i only seem to be the only one making an effort frm us all. i think after my grandad passed away, she seems to be more than ever depending on me for emotional support i.e. if i dont go and see her atleast once a wk, she kinda feels like i forgetting her when i'm not really. its just that i have a busy life, oding my stuff in life inc degree etc and i'm in my 2nd yr now so it's even harder to keep track of my wrk let alone myself and gran. i find it hard and it feels like a MUST. i love her alot but i go tmy life too. any ideas? i think she lonely and sad. she helped me alot when i was really ill 4 yrs ago and she is the one who looked after me when my mum cudnt cope with my illness and feel the need to givce something back specially at her age of 69. what do u reckon i should do? thanks
2006-11-20 08:17:44 · 5 answers · asked by allgiggles1984 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Perhaps if you sit down and talk to her quietly and tell her that if you can not always go every week because you are very busy at times but it does not stop you thinking about her and you are wanting to get your degree so she will be proud of you -- then give her a big hug and say thanks gran for all you have done for me i really love you for it and as soon as i get my degree sorted out and it is done with think of all the extra time we will have together -- then another hug i am sure she will start to understand then say i know you know what i mean and always remember i love you because your so special - then give her a kiss. then say i feel lonely to at times when it is just me and the books and then i look forward to being here again with my very special gran.
2006-11-20 08:55:43 · answer #1 · answered by Dazzle 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She needs friends. The Senior centers provide social exchange for Seniors. Take Grams to a center and look around, make friends and tote Grams right along while you are getting acquainted. Had a neighbor wouldn't go; said she "didn't want to go down there with all those old folks" Funny thing happened after going and meeting those "Old Folks" they weren't all that old. Said she didn't know such young folks went..
2006-11-20 16:31:46 · answer #2 · answered by longroad 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think a family conference is called for. You need to look after yourself but Your Gran needs her family around. You must try to get the others to share the joy and responsibility.
2006-11-20 16:32:38 · answer #3 · answered by The Guru 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Awww bless you. It's nice to know you care. Have you tried telling her softly that you have difficulty finding time for yourself too? maybe you could phone her every other day and talk about the things you spoke about when you visited, but still visit her when you get the chance to
2006-11-20 16:31:56 · answer #4 · answered by djin_fanatic 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
WELL I'M GOING TO TELL YOU YOUR PROB ALLY NOT GOING TO LIKE MY ANSWER BUT HERE IT GOES YOUR GRAN DOES NOT HAVE THE REST OF HERE LIFE YOU DO ONCE A WEEK IS NOT MUCH TO ASK I'M SURE YOUR SCHEDULE IS BUSY AND I KNOW YOU ARE TRYING TO HAVE A LIFE ALSO BUT YOU SAID SHE WAS THERE FOR YOU BE THERE FOR HER IF YOU ARE ALL SHE HAS VALUE YOUR TIME WITH HER WHILE SHE IS HERE!!!!!!!!!! YOU WILL BE GLAD YOU DID!!!!!!!
2006-11-20 16:45:02 · answer #5 · answered by NICKIE 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋